Answers to questions about love triangle for men and women.

The feeling of falling in love and the instinct to preserve the family push men and women to create family unions. Sometimes people feel their loneliness so keenly that they are ready to sacrifice a lot to find their soul mate. But after finding their beloved women and marrying them, men change their attitude towards them. After the seal of marriage appears in the passport, women turn from an object of worship into housekeepers, dishwashers, cooks and educators of children. Often in the list of these cases there is absolutely no communication and contact with the husband. Therefore, finding ideal wife, men start looking perfect mistress.

What does the ideal wife look like in the eyes of a man?

• She is great at cooking
• She endlessly cleans up the family nest
• She is dedicated to taking care of children.
• She gets along with her mother-in-law and other in-laws of her husband

What does the ideal lover look like in the eyes of a man?

• She is beautiful and knows how to take care of herself.
• She never has a headache and is always ready for active sex
• She does not walk around the house in a soiled bathrobe and house slippers.
• She doesn't bring problems. family budget And bad grades children at school

Can a woman combine an ideal wife and an ideal lover? Practice shows that this task turns out to be impossible for women, because it is difficult for women to turn into a goddess of sex by playing the role of a voluntary slave of a plate and a doormat.

The number of divorces due to infidelity can be reduced by doing housework together

But, if she can shift at least some of the “light housework” onto her husband’s shoulders, she will have the time and desire to do new hairstyles, face and body skin care and new outfits. Since it turns out to be easier and much more interesting for a man to find a woman on the side, and not to unload his wife from domestic work, this task remains impossible for a woman.

Why does a married man need a mistress, what does a mistress mean to him, what does he expect from her?

The main reason why men have an affair on the side is dissatisfaction. sexual life with his wife. It can be difficult for husbands to understand what to expect from a woman who spins like a squirrel in the wheel of initiative and the realization of a man’s desires. If a woman works not only at home, but also goes to work, then returning home after labor day by taking the children from kindergarten or school, having washed the dishes and fed the family dinner, she dreams not about sex, but to sleep.

A man, even if he went to work, but freed from domestic work, is full of energy and sexual desires. Perhaps many women will be surprised, but the vast majority of men, especially those under 30, want sex every day or every other day. If such a schedule does not coincide with the schedule of the wife's desires, he will seek satisfaction on the side.

As a result, by unloading a man from domestic work and loading themselves, women themselves create the prerequisites for her husband's infidelity.

Also, the reason that makes a man look for a mistress may not be the quantity, but the quality of sex. Many couples are shy or afraid to discuss these topics with each other. And it is difficult for them not only to express wishes about what they would like to receive from sex, but also difficult to talk about what they do not like in sexual intimacy.

What does a married man expect from his mistress?

Deciding on treason, a man expects sexual satisfaction from his mistress. But communication on the side involves not only having sex, but also communication. If scandals and showdowns occur in the family, and the lover knows how to listen and understand a man, then an affair on the side can lead to a divorce from his wife. Many single women entering into love affair with a married man, they seek to divorce such a man from his wife. And to achieve this goal, they skillfully use the contrast that a man sees between his mistress and his wife.

The psychology of the relationship between a married man and his mistress

As a rule, a married man, meeting with his mistress, does not seek divorce and marry another woman. He is quite satisfied with the love triangle, where in the family circle he receives care from his wife, contact with his children, and from his mistress, complete satisfaction of sexual needs. Such double life can cause him petty remorse and feelings of guilt towards his wife. Unfortunately, these negative emotions does not affect his intentions to leave this situation unchanged.

A woman who acts as a lover cannot but feel the inferiority of her position and will strive in every possible way to change it. If the mistress insists on a divorce, and the man opposes this, the idyll between her and a married man can be broken. This can lead to a break between them.

Can a married man love both his wife and his mistress: signs

The word "love" has different meanings for men and women. So for a woman, love can be synonymous with fidelity, devotion, a sense of inspiration and the desire to take care of a man. And for a man, “love” can mean a willingness to have sex with a woman. Can a man be willing to have sex with more than one woman? Definitely can and even aspires to it. This does not mean that in adultery with or without reason, you need to suspect every man. The presumption of innocence or lack of proof of a crime applies not only to hardened criminals, but also to husbands.

Can a married man be jealous of his mistress?

Jealousy or a sense of ownership is inherent in the relationship of a married man and his mistress. Despite the fact that in the life of a mistress he is only "coming for an hour", she can be jealous of his wife. In addition, she cannot but understand that she is not the only one to whom such a man could turn his attention. A man is able to be jealous of his mistress to other men and feel like the Sultan of a harem, where every concubine is his property.

Why do married men have young mistresses?

Often, older men have young mistresses in order to increase their self-esteem and increase potency, if there is a tendency for it to fade. This is because the strongest sex appeal young women have. They attract the attention of men, like females capable of procreation. Here play the role of pheromones, which smells like a young woman in the period of fertilization.

Can a mistress be older than a man?

Yes, young, sexually inexperienced men tend to have experienced mistresses older than them. If an elderly woman, in addition to successful sex, offers young man delicious lunches the ability to listen without getting irritated and to give wise advice- such an alliance can be very successful.

How many mistresses can a married man have?

If a man is in excellent sexual shape and wants sex every day, then the number of his mistresses can equal the number of his sex sessions. This is a slight exaggeration of the truth, which is that for a man who has allowed himself one mistress, it is not difficult to have so many of them that his body can withstand.

Does a man leave the family for his mistress: how often, in what cases?

In the vast majority of cases, a man does not leave the family for his mistress. Because he perfectly understands that he is already in a great position. Often the initiator of the gap is the wife, who found out about her husband's infidelity. In this case, a man can go to his mistress involuntarily. He can also leave the family if his marriage is bursting at the seams due to mutual misunderstanding between him and his wife.

If a mistress offers him attentive care and understanding instead of scandals in his family, he can buy into such tricks and leave his wife. In the event that a man marries his new passion and she instead of the status of "mistress" receives the status of "wife", he risks repeating the failures of his first marriage, but in a tougher version, and his new wife runs the risk of getting the role of a wife waiting for her husband after going to a new, more interesting woman.

Which mistresses do men go to?

In order to win in a love triangle, the mistress must be at times better than a wife. Often a woman tries so hard to get closer to the ideal of a man and win that she really becomes a beauty, a smart girl and a goddess of sex. The only thing a man should remember when leaving for such a woman is that she is working on such an image to the limit of her abilities and will stop straining immediately after she becomes a wife.

When do married men leave their mistresses?

Mistresses are not abandoned if they perform the functions assigned to them. But in the event that a woman who is in the role of a lover begins to sort out the functions of a wife, that is, she scandalizes, sorts out the relationship, refuses to have sex, then she receives the status former mistress, and the man finds a more interesting option for himself.

Does a man go through a breakup, do men forget their former lovers?

If the separation between two people happened by mutual agreement, then it can be painless for both the man and the woman. If such people remember the time spent together, then with a slight sadness and gratitude. If the gap was painful and at the initiative of one of the parties, then the man or woman who has lost intimacy will suffer and be tormented by experiences. If the woman who left was bright, non-standard and a Personality with capital letter, then it will be impossible for a man to forget such a woman.

How to part with a mistress to a married man?

If a man wants to leave a woman beautifully, and without causing her too much moral harm, he must think about how the vacuum or emptiness that will form after his departure will be filled. The most banal, primitive, but working way to “leave unnoticed” is to introduce such a woman to a man who may be interested in a sexually horny lady. If the vacuum is not filled, then the one who left his mistress to the mercy of fate is guaranteed to receive phone calls from the former mistress with requests to meet or “ random encounters" on the street.

The best way get away from a mistress - captivate her with a new man

Love triangles or polygons have existed in the distant past, are in the present and will be in the future as long as humanity exists. And one can only analyze and state such facts without trying to give wonderful recipes for solving this problem.

A frank story of a Petrozavodsk resident who left his wife and two children. What do you think, is he an asshole?

"I'm not a scoundrel. And I made my decision to leave the family painfully. I didn't sleep at night. It was hard to tell myself that this was it. The end! After all, I built family hearth fifteen years ago. Decently on time. Married, as they say, for love. And fell in love at first sight. My 13 year old son is very similar to me. And I love him madly. But suddenly another woman appeared in my life. How to say unexpected? Rather, I was ready for her appearance.

My wife and I somehow lost the passion that used to be impossibly violent. I didn’t know how to rush from work faster to hug her, kiss her, and so on ... She always made surprises for me: then romantic dinner for no reason, then he will buy a new shirt, then he will stick a note about hot feelings on the refrigerator.

Don't know where it all went I didn't even notice how and why. Today we just live in the same apartment, we fulfill our duties at home, we are raising our son. And occasionally we do not forget to do something else... Every day is similar to one another, without bursts of emotions and surprises. They came home from work, ate, stuck around in the "computer" - and on the side. My wife spends a lot of time with her friend, and I catch myself thinking that I don't care if she's at home or not.

Meanwhile, everyone who knows us is sure that we are happy, that our marriage is successful. Yes, and the wife loves to throw a phrase in front of her girlfriends about our complete family idyll. And I understand more and more that this is already a habit. Feelings are gone.

And then he met a woman. I don't understand how it happened. I was returning from work, and she was standing at the bus stop. I couldn’t drive past because I noticed that she was somehow nervous. And stopped the car. She let's beg to throw her urgently to the republican hospital. Mom, she says, was taken away in an ambulance with a heart attack. I agreed to wait for her. I don't even know why. There was such charm and lightness in her. And the eyes are special, inspired. She was very happy that I waited for her.

And so the romance began. My friend was unmarried. teacher in English. And I seem to have fallen in love again. Read and judge, perhaps? But doesn't that happen? I look at my colleagues. couple. I have known them for over 15 years. And I see that they live very boringly. Work and work, and summer cottage. They never went to sea together. But he flies to hot countries for diving with friends. And she is perhaps in Finland for shopping. They gave one another complete freedom and do not bother. By their mood, I see that they just got used to living in such a monotonous way.

By the way, they had the opportunity to change everything. He could leave when his wife fell in love with another man. The novel was serious, for half a year she ruffled his nerves, but because of the child or because of the fact that she “endures and falls in love”, they didn’t change anything in her life. She did not dare to leave, and he, having learned about the betrayal, forgave everything.

For some reason, we only think this way: if a man leaves his wife, this is very bad. And if he left a family where there are two or more children, then in general he is a scoundrel and a bastard. I agree that children are a really sensitive issue. Many people really believe that children need a complete family. Say, whatever it is, it will be better than incomplete. And I strongly disagree with this. I am sure that the very atmosphere in the family is much more important for children. Here she should be calm and friendly. And only mom and dad who love each other can create it. If this is not the case, then in complete family may be ill-bred children.

And in incomplete, on the contrary, they are beautiful. But this is me, digression. Leaving a family is a very difficult thing. It cost me a lot of pain. To hurt the person you loved, the woman who gave you a son, is the torment of the soul. There is only one way out - to take care of the people you love to the maximum.

This is the weather in my house today. We're getting a divorce soon. But this does not mean that I cease to be a father. I know many dads who spend much more time with the child than his mother, from whom he left. I will be the same.

I know that many men cannot leave the family in any way and live with a sense of duty, but without love for their other half. This happens to my friend too. Has been suffering for two years now. And he cannot make a decision, although he loves another woman very much. Under the letter I will put the changed surname. And my advice to those who find themselves in a similar situation: when you talk to your wife, do it sincerely. And don't say things like, "I don't love you anymore." But don't try to make yourself feel guilty."

OPINION

Be honest with yourself!

Why, after all, did the author of the letter and his wife fail to “live happily ever after and die on the same day”? Perhaps Pascal Bruckner is right: "... the mold of routine ruined the precious wine of the first days" ("Paradox of Love").

If we met, I would ask a lot of questions. And then, perhaps, you would see how ambiguous many of your statements are. For example, that children are a “sick” issue. What does it mean? Or about passion in a relationship. Almost always, over time, passion becomes less "passionate" (sorry for the tautology), but the desire disappears only because we ourselves make our life routine.

Now that you are in love again, the passion has returned. And it will probably happen more than once. Or maybe this is the only love and you will be able to walk the path of life together with new wife. The main thing is that everyone is satisfied and happy.

The advice to speak "sincerely" with a wife who is supposed to be left is certainly strong! I hope you succeeded. I won’t argue with one thing: a child needs a real family, not a fictitious one. Living in an atmosphere of deceit and pretense is terribly difficult and destructive for a child.

Every day I hear stories like this. Often about feelings of guilt, and about pity for children, but what about being with yourself? I feel sorry for myself too, I want to love and be loved today, in this life. May you, Boris, succeed in doing everything as you describe. Yes, it won't be easy, but it's fair. And to be honest with yourself - without this it is impossible to be happy. Good luck!

Boris Zaichikov

The article will not be a guide how to take a man away from a family- it would be too immoral, in my blog I still try to stay neutral. This information suitable for both wives and mistresses - I will give you the answer to the most tricky question in the world, and you yourself think and analyze.

How to take a married man out of the family?

A question that worries 99% of lovers. Wives (those wives who resigned themselves to betrayal, and did not leave, proudly slamming the door) are worried about the opposite - how to keep. The answer will be for both of them. When you ask advice from other men or more experienced women, psychologists, surf the Internet, you find approximately the same information on how to take a married man away - I will now exaggerate, because anyway, all this does not work very well:

1. Always be in a good mood so that the man can rest with you and see the difference between you and his wife

2. More sex of all kinds

3. Always look good

4. Do not cut! The wife does this, and you must be good against her background.

5. Do not demand much, be interested in business, share interests, etc. Add whatever you need.

Dear ladies, as you can see, this is not effective. No, this is effective in terms of the fact that the lover’s love and affection for you is growing, but I can say with almost complete certainty that his desire to divorce and leave you decreases in direct proportion. Here is such a paradox. I'll tell you more about him.

The opinion of men how to take a man out of the family

The opinion of men how to take a man out of the family not much more interesting than a woman's or anyone else's. Men do not like to talk about relationships, poke around in them, analyze them - even if we are talking about themselves. For this reason, they will not tell anything special about themselves - well, they do not know how to see the root. So their advice will be about the same as I listed above. Although, most likely, they will add about patience, understanding, and so on - which they love to receive from women. Be kind, patient, understanding - as long as I accept the most important decision In my life. If only he took it..

Remember, a man's greatest desire in a relationship is for everything to stay in place. Men do not like unnecessary movements - this is one of the reasons why it is so difficult for him to go to the registry office with you, even if he wants to get married. It's such a mess! For the same reason, he is in no hurry to get a divorce, although he has been living with his mistress for 5 years. Almost the same thing happens when the mistress is beyond praise, “I can’t love”, and the wife is a bitch. Everything is good, why change something?! So the more you become perfect, the less chance you have. A man thinks that everything is fine with you, everything suits you, his love is enough for you - and nothing bothers him. And it’s not so difficult to endure a wife anymore - after all, in a moment of irritation, you can think about your beloved and immediately it will become a little easier! There are only 2 exceptions to this situation:

1. When the wife was tired of all this and she kicked her husband out to her mistress, filing for divorce

2. When something in the family does not suit you radically. But it's NOT sex, not bad appearance and the character of the wife, not the absence of children - in male head everything is a little different. This woman found a great lover, fell in love and ran away from her husband, forgetting everything in the world. A man does not leave the family without carefully weighing the pros and cons. And if there are at least one more pluses or even equally, he is unlikely to get divorced.

How to take a married man out of the family psychology

Question how to take away married man from family psychology replies - do not put yourself in his place. You are a woman, you think completely differently. For a man, his wife and family are not just people, they are the conditions of his life. Lifestyle. Now be careful. A mistress is a specific person whom he fits into the conditions of his life. It is not a separate life, a part of life, yes, but nothing more. Starting a mistress, a man simply enters her as an additional condition for the life that suits him. Completely or not - the question is not very fundamental. If a man does not divorce his wife, then it is not only about the wife. It can be in many other ways - he likes the apartment in which they live, he is used to their daily routine, he is comfortable in the environment that has developed around their family, he is satisfied with getting to work from this house, he is comfortable in domestic matters , it is convenient for him for financial reasons and much more. Not enough sex, understanding, good mood and comfort - so there is a mistress for this! The puzzle is complete! There are 2 parts of a man's life that complement each other perfectly.

How to take a man away from a family for a mistress

To mistress to take a man away from the family, she needs to understand - feelings do not decide. Unless, of course, it's about young man 25 years old, who recently got married, no children yet, the wife immediately plunged into everyday life, and here is a beauty with great sex - there are chances here. Or a man has long decided that if the opportunity arises, it is necessary to update the model of his wife to a younger one. There is also such a category of men - "jumps". They are easy to lift and without special work change wives, marrying 3-4 times.

In all other cases, a man leaves the family for his mistress only when the living conditions, life, environment are many times more comfortable and attractive than they were before. When a new woman can give him a whole new world. And pathos has nothing to do with it. We do not change the usual and quite satisfying work just because the office is a little newer and the director is prettier elsewhere. Here it is necessary that: the salary was much higher, it was convenient to get there, the director is not a tyrant, they paid for gasoline, but also VMI and the prospect of growth. That's when you can leave. And so it makes no sense to exchange an awl for soap. Do not be offended that it is so mundane - but I already wrote that a man does not focus on feelings in this matter. Rarely. The desire to be with the woman he loves is realized through adultery and a divorce is not required. Only if a whole new one goes to the mistress bright world and life - then there is an exchange. And usually this exchange happens quite quickly. Leave and leave everything to his wife, forgetting past life for the sake of new woman- this is just when a man knows that he will be much better in a new place. This is not a calculation - it is important to understand! If, while living with his wife, a man has living conditions that suit him, and with his mistress, only love and good mood he won't leave. A woman dutifully waiting for him in her little sweet little world cannot push him to divorce. Few resources. A man needs his world and his beloved woman - and not necessarily in one bottle.

How to take a married man out of the family - the psychology of relationships

August 18, 2016 - One comment

How many years have you been dating a married man? You love him and in the depths of your soul harbor the hope that one day you will be able to finally take this man away from the family and you will be together. How to take a married man away from a family, psychology knows the answer.

What you just didn’t do so that your beloved man would stay with you forever, but every time he goes to his wife, spends evenings, weekends and holidays in the family. You just have to be content with bright flashes of romantic meetings, compliments, rare joint vacation trips.

He says that he loves only you, and lives with his wife for the sake of the children. He says that you are the best, incredible, wonderful and someday you will definitely be together. But for now, it all remains a dream. And your whole life goes into winning and taking this specific man from the family.

Relations with a married man are always full of pain and misunderstanding. And rivalry with another woman only exacerbates the situation.

But why are some women attracted to married men? Is it worth messing with a married man and what kind of men have mistresses? How to deal with these confusing relationships and find your happiness?

How to understand a married man

The system-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan reveals the reasons that push a married man to seek relationships on the side, as well as the reasons why single women go for such relationships. The fact is that we are all endowed with different vectors - innate psychological properties that determine our character traits, behavioral stereotypes, sexuality and value orientations. The realization of these innate properties brings us pleasure from life.

A man with a skin vector is attracted to diversity, novelty and change. Success matters to them. career, high material status. Such men are fast, flexible, purposeful and ambitious. If the skin man does not use his full potential, he gets pleasure from the changes by entering into a relationship with another woman. In addition to the family, he will have affairs on the side.

It is important for such a man to be accompanied everywhere by a spectacular woman. By this he confirms his high position in society. Going to restaurants, going on vacation and business trips, where a wife with small children cannot go, such a man makes accompanied by his mistress. And the wife sits at home, guards the wealth acquired by her husband, brings up children.

A man with an anal vector is distinguished by stability, loyalty and honesty. He best husband and the father of the family, and the best professional in his field, but, experiencing dissatisfaction due to insufficient implementation, he can find a mistress. Such a man is afraid of hurting his wife. Indecisive by nature, accustomed to stability and unwilling to change, he cannot break the bonds of marriage that have become familiar, break traditions, leave the family and leave children without a father.

In his understanding, everything should be equal - attention and care for women too. Such a man can go all his life from his wife to his mistress, not daring to leave the family and put an end to the relationship.

There are so many single guys, but I love a married man

As a rule, women with a cutaneous-visual bundle of vectors enter into relationships with married men. Such women are actively involved in sports, keep themselves in shape. They are artistic, love to perform in public, captivating everyone with their charm and beauty. Such a woman likes to feel always beautiful, desirable and catch the admiring glances of many men. And her high emotionality makes passions boil around. Just like a man with a skin vector, she is turned on by secrets in a relationship.

It is these women who tend to compete with other women for the attention of a man, including trying to take away even the most faithful man from the family. And often they don’t understand why he doesn’t leave the family, from his annoying wife to her - the queen, clever and beautiful.

A visual woman is by nature very responsive, empathetic and emotional. She sympathizes with her beloved, that his relationship with his wife does not go well, that there is no love in the family. She is trying with all her might to save him from the hated, in her opinion, relationships. Pity him. Does everything to make him happy.

But deep down, such a woman is afraid to be alone and clings to a married man, just not to experience bouts of fear. A woman feels safe next to a man, but when he goes back to the family, she loses her footing every time.

Realizing our natural properties, we begin to feel support in ourselves. A visual woman helps to get rid of her fears by expressing her emotionality outward through compassion for those who really need it - through volunteering, helping the sick, the elderly or small children. Skin-visual women become the best educators kindergarten, psychologists or nurses. Helping others, such a woman experiences an incredible surge of strength and pleasure from life.

How to take a married man out of the family - the psychology of wish fulfillment

Revealing your true nature and realizing their innate properties and talents with the help of knowledge of the system-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan, each woman becomes unique and attractive to her man. Fear of being alone and obsession with a married man dissolves like morning mist, opening up incredible prospects for personal happiness and creation. own family.

A woman who allows her desires to come true is able to create happiness with her own hands and attract into her life worthy man. Such a woman will be able to find personal happiness, and not share it with another woman.

To many women who have thought about how to take a married man away from the family, system-vector psychology helped build your happiness.

Fell in love with a married man who is unhappy in marriage? You both realize that you are perfect for each other, but he still stays with his wife? Of course, the likelihood that he will ever leave her is small, but here are a few steps that you can take to lead a man to right decision. Remember that you cannot force him to do this. It must be his independent solution taken without pressure. Be wise and patient. Very often, people get married for some wrong reasons, and from this their marriage will never become strong. Do not try to hold on to something that does not bring happiness to anyone around you. Therefore, often, divorce is a kind of gift for all parties.

Steps

Don't have sex with him. a married man cheating on his wife, driven exclusively physiological causes. It is clear that at that moment he wanted to part with his wife, so he did it. But, if he really intended to leave his wife, he would have done it even before you met and before the moment intimacy with you. If you have already had sex, then stop it. Explain the situation by saying that you cannot go to bed with him, as this is unfair to both his wife and to you.

Do not try to manipulate him to leave his wife. Manipulative behavior often works only on short term. A man must decide everything within himself, voluntarily. After all, you also want him to do it on his own, and not just because you need it.

By not getting into bed with him, you are presenting yourself as a prize to be earned. By this you illustrate that you do not agree to the role of a mistress, but deserve respect and official status. You should have your own personal life and your own interests. Very good if your common interests alien to his wife, this will bring you even closer and make you more attractive in his eyes.

Find out what benefits he gets by being married. Even if he is unhappy but still not divorced, there must be something holding him back. The reasons may be different: children, reputation, money (if he is afraid that his wife will take away all or half of his property), etc. Do not make the common mistake of trying to become better than his wife. Such behavior will only push him away from you. There is no point in competing with his wife. He must love you, because you are completely different.

Find out what mistakes his wife made. A woman needs to feel a man. Most likely, his wife ceased to be interesting to him and no longer attracted him: neither as a woman, nor as a person. There are many articles, books and publications on the subject. Clean up the house, cook delicious dinner. This will demonstrate your economic qualities. Men need to feel comfortable. It is very important to show that you admire him. Women, for whom work and home well-being (in material terms) come first, forget about their duties as a wife and begin to perform male functions. Any man in similar situation feels discomfort and begins to look for the best on the side. Thus, he needs to confirm his male viability. If he tells you that he no longer sleeps with his wife, don't really believe it. Therefore, do not think that having sex with you, he will quickly leave his wife. No, for this to happen, you have to give him everything that he lacked in marriage. Most often, this is far from intimacy, but the self-perception of a man next to a woman.

Get to know him as a person. Becoming friends with him and getting him to open up to you is quite difficult. This can take a lot of time and patience. Since his affection for his wife may be much deeper than you, and he himself, assumed it. A man should feel for you more than just sexual attraction. He must feel the need for you, feel safe next to you and confidently share his desires, fears, hopes and plans. In addition, getting to know him closer, you can discover hitherto unknown traits of his character that you will not like and will force you to reconsider your attitude towards this man.

Date other men. Don't get hung up on one thing and don't get too attached to it. Men love the competitive spirit. But at the same time, be careful not to blurt out too much in your discussions. Trying to make him jealous can shake his confidence in you.

Don't show that you need him too much. Do not call, do not write, do not look for a meeting. He must come to you himself. If you talk about love from the very first days, he may stop seeking you and just accept it and allow himself to be loved, and in speed he will leave (as was the case with his wife).

Don't be jealous of a man for his wife. Don't be angry with her. As a woman, you should have compassion for her, because this is not her fault (or not only her).

Do not become a family psychologist for a man. The desire to help him solve problems with his wife will not make you more attractive in his eyes. Let him untie the knot himself.

1. You should not try to confront his wife in any way. By telling her about your relationship and her husband's betrayal, you thereby destroy all chances for a bright future next to him. A man may take this as a betrayal on your part and completely turn away from you.

   • Remember that it is important for a man to regain the sense of his masculine worth that he may have lost over the years of marriage. Therefore, you are required to just sit and accept everything that he can and wants to give you, without ceasing to admire and be proud of him at the same time.
   • If you think alike, don't do anything behind his back. Let him solve his problems with his wife.

   Warnings

   • Even if you managed to become strongly attached to a man, be ready to leave at any time, even if it causes you hellish pain. After all, it may happen that he does not leave his wife.
   • According to statistics, most divorces occur at the initiative of a woman. Consider this and do not stop considering the option that he will not leave his wife and hurt you.
   • It may take time for a man to think about the whole situation and make a decision. Don't think he's turning his back on you. Just be patient. When he comes to you, do not reproach him. Be kind and hospitable.
   • Ask yourself why you need this particular married man? There are a lot of free guys around who are not averse to starting courting you. Make sure that your feelings are something more than just excitement that a man is not yet available. Often notorious and insecure women (sometimes due to psychological trauma, received in childhood) downright prey on married men and take them away from the family by any means, just to amuse their wounded vanity. As soon as a man becomes free, he becomes uninteresting. Therefore, before the situation becomes irreversible, answer these questions for yourself.
   • Think about whether you want to have a person around who does not honor his marital obligations and does not know how to be faithful to his legal wife. Where is the assurance that the same will not happen to you? Agree that dishonesty, infidelity and deceit are not best qualities for a man.
   • After a divorce from his wife, a man may feel tension, both emotionally and materially. Reality Everyday life may be very different from your romantic encounters before. He can only feel worse when he is left without a wife, money, reputation and friends (who often support the abandoned wife). Don't let him regret his decision.
   • Your reputation may also suffer. It all depends on what social circles you move in. There will be no one left big secret that the man left the family just for you. This news may come up at work, among mutual friends. Get ready to be criticized and judged negatively. You will have to come to terms with the judgment of some people, even if it is clearly unfair. You must be prepared for the fact that relationships with some people can become strained or even deteriorate. The louder and more dramatic the divorce was, the more food for gossip the ill-wishers will have. Do not under any circumstances allow evil tongues affect your relationship. The best answer to all critics will be your strong family.
   • The wife can try by any means (sometimes even unsafe for you) to return the man to the family. You must be emotionally prepared for this.
   • If you still decide to stay close to him, you will have to accept that his wife will always be a part of his life (as the mother of his children, as a woman with whom warm memories and periods of life are associated). She was, is and will be in his life. You can't erase the past and you have to really understand that. But it is in your power to make sure that it remains only pleasant memory, no more.
   • Remember, whoever cheated once can do it again. If a man left his wife, he may leave you after a while.
   • In the event of a painful divorce, not only the wife, but also the children (if any) can suffer. Think about whether you are ready to take on such a responsibility. Will you be able to withstand his regular meetings with ex-wife and children, who will most likely hate you and blame you for the breakup of the family.