How to cope easier with a breakup with a loved one - tips for women and men. Heartache after a breakup

In the life of almost every person, sooner or later a breakup occurs. In the lives of many - more than once. This is very an important event, since it is only on one side the end of something. More importantly, a breakup is a moment of choice and the beginning of something new. If the choice is correct, it becomes the beginning of a new one, better life, a truer understanding of love. It was separation that helped a colossal number of people become adults, loving and happy people.

The theme of separation in full. I enriched and deepened my experience with the help of highly qualified psychologists and Orthodox priests who participate in the work of the site “Perezhit.ru”. This article is the quintessence of our methodology. The article does not replace other articles, but will help you structure and better understand the material.

1. Make a point

If a breakup has occurred, first of all, you need to accept the fact of what happened as a given. If a person leaves, you need to let him go. It is necessary to put an end to the relationships that existed.

The stories are different. Unfortunately, separations happen in marital relations. Therefore, when I talk about putting an end to it, I’m not saying: lock the door tightly, bury the person, erase him from your memory. No! Often legitimate husbands and wives return with repentance, and then they can be accepted. It's about something else. Coming to terms with a breakup means letting the person go. Recognize his right to such a decision, even if it is wrong. Stop holding him.

Theoretically, it is possible that after some time both of you will change, and a new meeting may occur, and the new you will be able to create a different, more harmonious relationship.

But the people you are now could not be together. The path you have followed has come to this point. And with this point it ended. The person you are now must acknowledge and accept this.

If you have even a little love for this person, recognize his right to be free. Release and bless him.

Say to yourself, turning to this person: “I’m letting you go! Bless you!"

The cessation of attempts to return a person, the cessation of hopes for his return - completely necessary condition successfully surviving a breakup. Some cling to a person for months and years. And as long as they cling, they suffer, they get stuck in this state.

Often lovers (especially those suffering love addiction) break up and get back together several times. And the further they go, the lower the quality of their relationship. They thereby humiliate themselves, their relationships, they reinforce the skills of how not to live, and reduce their chances of building healthy relationships. Eat good rule: "Leaving go!"

And believe that your clinging does not increase the love and respect for you of the one you cling to, but quite the opposite.

2. Overcome obsessive thoughts

In most crisis situations, we suffer not from the situation itself, but from false obsessive thoughts about it. “You’ll never meet someone as good as her again.” “You will never love anyone else.” "You will never have children." “It’s impossible to love someone like you.” “I won’t love anyone like that again” (this is usually for girls 15-18 years old), “There is no reason to live anymore.” These thoughts hurt us almost physically and plunge us into despair.

Relatively speaking, 10% of our suffering comes from the situation itself, from the inability to see loved one, being with him, etc., 90% - from these false thoughts. This means that as soon as we overcome these thoughts, we will stop suffering. And you can overcome obsessive thoughts quite quickly.

First of all, we need to recognize these thoughts as an external force hostile to us, which, with the help of deception, is trying to plunge us into despair and almost drive us away from the world. These thoughts are not generated by you! They came from outside to harm you. To accept an idea or not is in our power. If we accept it and begin to “chew” it, then it seems to become ours.

What do psychologists from women's and popular psychological magazines advise in such cases? Take a break. Find an activity that will help you take your mind off heavy thoughts. This is as “wise” as advising a fighter on the front line to turn away from the enemy, so as not to see his disgusting face, and do something else. Like, you don’t see him, which means he’s no longer there.

What about the fact that at that very moment he puts a bullet in your back?

My advice is clear - turn your face to the enemy and fight. This is the only real opportunity to deal with this enemy. Thought is a thing that neither an exercise bike, nor a swimming pool, nor the fingers of a cosmetologist or massage therapist, nor new lover. Thought can only be defeated by thought!

How to win?

It is useless to argue with hostile thoughts. Some people hope to use a discussion with thoughts overwhelming them to analyze something, judge something, and make a decision. IN acute period crisis, in the first week or two, no sound reasoning or correct decisions are possible. First you need to bring yourself to a healthy, sober state. During a period of acute crisis, we have only one goal - to gain a sober view of things by fighting obsessive thoughts.

The only way to defeat false thoughts is to counter them with true, good thoughts, clothed in the power of prayer.

To do this, you must, first of all, constantly monitor what kind of thought is tormenting you. This is what I call looking the enemy in the face.

Second, counter this thought with a corresponding prayer. That is, a prayer whose meaning is opposite to the thought that torments you this moment. Three or four short prayers are enough to “deal” with most obsessive thoughts in a situation of separation.

If you are tormented by thoughts of self-pity, thoughts of despondency, murmuring or fear.

Typical thoughts are: “I will never love anyone again,” “I will never feel so good with anyone else,” “My life no longer makes sense,” “How can I, poor thing, live now?” Our most dangerous enemy is self-pity. This pity must be dealt with ruthlessly.

Prayers that are used against such thoughts: “Glory to God for everything!”, “All is Your will.” Let it be as You please!”

The point of these prayers is that we recognize that what happened was not a coincidence. We recognize that no matter how painful it is, it is for our good. We thus express trust in God, who wishes us every good, and confidence that this event will serve to improve our life and our soul. And since the improvement of the soul implies an increase in love in it, it means that it is quite possible that we will love someone else, and with a more perfect love.

If you are tormented by thoughts about the person with whom we are breaking up, or about the one who “stole” this person.

Typical thoughts: “He is the best, you will never meet such a person again”, “I can’t live without her!”, “How can I get him back”, “Scoundrel! How could he deceive me like that!”, “I hate her, the vile one, for taking him away! How can I take revenge on her?"

If we are tormented by the thought of any person, we kill it with a simple prayer: “Lord, bless this person!” We put into this prayer the desire for good for the person.

The psychological explanation is this. The fact is that the essence of the obsessive thoughts that torment us is evil, aggression. This is either a resentment towards a person, or a desire to deprive him of his freedom, tying him to himself against his will, or a desire for revenge, or a desire for misfortune to befall him for what he did. All this is the opposite of love. And so, when we counter these evil thoughts with a good thought, the evil thought is defeated.

There is a deeper level of understanding. If we admit that the source of our evil thoughts are dark entities, then it is clear that evil is their goal. And as a result of such prayer, the result is not just good, but double good: both you and the person for whom you are praying benefit from the prayer. Naturally, this result of their intervention does not suit these dark entities at all, and they move away from you. Tested by many!

If you are tormented by aggressive thoughts addressed to yourself.

False thoughts: “It’s impossible to love someone like you, you’re a loser,” “It’s all your fault, if only you hadn’t made that mistake!”

Prayer: “Glory to God for everything!” If you are really guilty of something: “Lord, have mercy!”, “Lord, forgive!”.

Prayer “Glory to God for everything!” universal. It also includes self-acceptance and gratitude to God for the good that is in us.

Repentant prayers: “Lord, have mercy!”, “Lord, forgive!” pronounced without strain, in an even, dispassionate tone. If we start acting, we ourselves will not notice how, instead of repentance, we will concentrate on despondency and self-pity: “Oh, how unhappy I am, have pity on me!” This will only cause harm. When a person truly repents, he firmly believes that God forgives him, and every minute he feels better.

I emphasize: the tone of all prayers must be even, no matter what storm rages inside us!

There are a few more rules to keep in mind when you pray.

First, you need to control your attitude towards the One to whom you pray. Remember that God doesn't owe you anything. It's not his fault that you feel bad now. But you, most likely, are guilty before Him in many ways. Therefore, pray humbly. Only humble prayer achieves its goal. Prayer, the depth of which is an insult to God or an arrogant demand, will not give anything.

This is on the one hand. On the other hand, do not consider yourself a complete stranger, a powerless petitioner. You are not turning to an indifferent official, but to a merciful Father who loves you. He wants to give you everything you ask for and more.

Secondly, believe that you are heard, they can and will certainly help you. God is omnipotent, He created this world out of nothing. God hears your every word (which you hear yourself), and not a single word of yours goes in vain.

Thirdly, it is advisable to know the One to whom you pray as best as possible. Some people think that God is " higher intelligence" But Satan also fits the definition of “higher intelligence.” Therefore, if you are close to Christianity, try reading the Gospel to find out what kind of God He is. Just do not imagine God visually during prayer - this is very dangerous. (Looking at the icon of Jesus Christ does not mean imagining God in front of you; this is safe.)

You need to pray exactly as long as the attack of obsessive thoughts continues. Some will read the prayer several times, and then say: “I tried to pray, but it didn’t help.” This is ridiculous. You are sitting in a trench. The enemy is firing at you from all sides. You fire three shots towards the enemy. Naturally, the shelling does not stop. In despair, you slide to the bottom of the trench, throwing away the machine gun: it supposedly doesn’t help.

Where is the logic here? The force of action must be equal to the force of reaction! When I was in this situation, for the first 5 or 7 days I prayed almost continuously, repeating the words of the prayers thousands of times. Carefully observing what kind of thought is attacking me now, and using the appropriate prayer against it. I held on to prayer like a drowning man to Lifebuoy. Naturally, if I let go of the circle, I would immediately go to the bottom.

Therefore, don’t be lazy, don’t retreat, don’t give up! Fight with all your might!

3. Forgive yourself and the other person

Common problems in a breakup situation are positions of resentment towards the other person or blaming yourself. Both positions prevent us from fully recovering.

Another person may be guilty of something towards us. However, you need to forgive him for two reasons.

Firstly, we don’t know exactly why this happened, we don’t know the degree of our guilt. The mistakes of one of the two may be obvious (drunkenness, cruelty, betrayal, consumer attitude at the material level), while the other may be hidden (consumer attitude at the material level). spiritual level, jealousy, disrespect, emancipation). However, the former may be a consequence of the latter. That is why they say that both are always to blame. Each of the two always has their own truth. And you, knowing only your own truth, but not knowing the truth of another, cannot judge him.

Secondly, your resentment binds you to this person, like shackles bind two convicts. By cutting the chain of resentment, you release not only him, but also yourself. And each of you takes with you your own piece of the chain - your share of responsibility.

How to forgive?

Tell him mentally: “I forgive you!” This does not mean that you approve of what he did or take full responsibility for what happened. No, he is responsible and will be fully responsible for his mistakes. But he will bear this responsibility himself, without your participation.

If the obsessive thought of resentment continues to haunt you, use the weapon of prayer described above: “Lord, bless him!”

If we blame ourselves, we need to sort through our feelings and separate the rational from the irrational.

Rational - these are the facts of your specific sins: betrayal, rudeness, deception, jealousy, the wife’s desire to rise above her husband, etc.

The irrational is simply an inferiority complex, behind which there are not facts, but beliefs: “I am bad,” “I am no good,” “I am unworthy of love,” etc.

Rationalism is cured by repentance. Take your share of responsibility, refraining from self-justification. Ask for forgiveness from a person - realistically or mentally. Ask God for forgiveness. Work on correcting yourself so you can become a different person who won't do that again.

The irrational is an obsessive false thought. She is healed by prayer and good deeds. But above all - improving relations with parents.

4. Take advantage, work on yourself

The truism is known: any difficult situation, any crisis is not a “misfortune”, but a test. A test is an opportunity sent down to us from above, precisely calculated to suit our needs and abilities, to grow, to take a step towards personal perfection and a better life. And the opportunity to grow is so important and valuable for us that it would be strange to call it misfortune. After all, as we grow up, we become happier.

But growth does not automatically follow challenge. As stated earlier, a challenge is an opportunity. If we only feel sorry for ourselves, blame others, become despondent, and grumble, then we have not passed the test, we have not grown. But we need to grow. So the next lesson will be tougher.

To pass the test, you must first of all humble yourself. When you and I, overcoming the desire to lose heart, feel sorry for ourselves and grumble, prayed “Glory to Thee, Lord!” - this was the school of humility. Thanks to this school, we won’t be so upset during the next tests. Humility makes us stronger and more patient. Humility is our most valuable “income” from any trial.

Now that the acute stage of the crisis has passed, the time has come to soberly analyze the reasons for what happened.

Firstly, what were components your relationship, how much love was there in it, how much dependence, how much physiological passion? From your side, from your partner's side.

Secondly, what were the genuine goals relationships - family, pleasure, mercantile calculation? From your side, from your partner's side. How worthy are these goals for you, do you need such goals?

Thirdly, if the goal was worthy (a real family), then how much you and this person approached for each other and for this purpose? Could this goal be achieved with this person? And did you know him enough to allow the degree of intimacy that you allowed? What kind of person can you achieve this goal with? And which person is best for you? What qualities do you lack in order to successfully achieve this goal? Are you an adult or addicted? What harmful and useful skills did you learn from parental family and from the relationships that preceded those relationships?

Fourthly, if the goal was worthy, and people worthy of the goal, what errors have you made any mistakes in achieving these goals? What should you do to make the result more successful?

During this analysis, write down on paper everything that you need to change in yourself. Your mistakes that you need to repent of. Your shortcomings that need to be corrected. Those good qualities that you need to develop in yourself. These recordings will be your second “income” from this challenge.

To get the third “income” from the test, put this piece of paper to work - start working on yourself. First of all, we are talking about internal work. About overcoming addictions, passions, cultivating love and chastity. This kind of work on yourself will make you a different person.

If you find it necessary to also work on your body, doing physical exercise is in any case beneficial. Physical training associated with overcoming “I can’t take it anymore” not only makes our body younger and more attractive, but also strengthens the will, which is of great importance for the success of all matters in our lives.

It is very important at this stage to set yourself the right goals for the next period of life. Improving yourself as an individual, cultivating love in yourself, and getting rid of shortcomings should be your goals. Not new meeting, not the return of the one who left.

Moreover, it is highly desirable abstain from any relationship for at least a year, similar to love ones - even chaste ones. Because otherwise the relationship will be built on an unreliable foundation. The first time after a breakup, self-esteem is low. After some time of working on yourself, it may become overestimated. Both prevent you from soberly assessing your partner. In addition, the replacement effect is known, when we unconsciously look for a replacement for the partner who left us. Relationships that begin to develop ahead of time will be fragile.

Therefore, do not get hung up on the topic of love relationships! Don't worry about having nowhere to meet a good man! Everything will happen in due time. When you're ready to create full-fledged family — worthy man will appear. As soon as you become a princess, your prince will immediately rush in on a white horse. Even if you sit at home all day due to illness, he will mistake the door or phone number and come to you. And if you are not ready, then even with a huge circle of friends you will not be able to choose anyone.

If age leaves little hope for creating new family Moreover, a person has only one field of activity left - his soul. If there is someone to take care of, this is also a worthy task in life, but still improving oneself is more important. Because only loving person can truly care about others. Here is the story of a woman living with dignity and celibacy after a divorce.

5. Don’t acknowledge your right to be unhappy.

Many of us, unconsciously to ourselves, feel more comfortable in the state of “I am poor, unhappy, no one loves me” than in the state: “I was born to be happy, and it depends on me whether to be happy or not.” This is explained by infantilism (childhood), failure to overcome certain stages of growing up. We do not want, as adults, to take responsibility for ourselves. And therefore, although we are afraid of troubles, when they come, we literally cling to them and do not want to let go.

The more infantile a person is, the more for a long time he gets stuck in a state of experience. Just as at school he liked to lie in his crib when he was sick, feeling sorry for himself and accepting the sympathy of others, so here he lies down in the crib of self-pity. Finally, it seems like a valid reason for self-pity has been found. And in this state after parting, a person, if desired, can remain long years. But what's the point?

In fact, there is not a single valid reason for such relaxation. Adults, mentally healthy people never abdicate their responsibility to themselves and other people. After all, we need both other people and ourselves. We need them not only to be healthy and capable, but also strong, joyful, capable of supporting and pleasing others.

Therefore, adults, mentally healthy people do not get stuck even in such severe trauma as experiencing the death of a loved one. No one except our enemies needs our tears, physical and mental illness and suicide. All our near and far, living and dead, need us strong and joyful.

Therefore, our task is to rejoice. And not sometime later, when everything gets better and we start a family with one of the heirs of the British royal house. You need to rejoice right now. There is none good reason don't do this. We are alive, functional, we can love, God loves us, and He has given us many abilities that it’s time to use.

Leave feedback ( Priest Ilya Shugaev)
The fact that there is only one love in life was invented by the romantics ( Priest Andrey Lorgus)
The love of God will make up for the lack of any other love ( Archpriest Igor Gagarin)
You need to understand and accept yourself ( Psychologist Irina Karpenko)

Why, when people break up, many people cannot relieve their mental pain for a long time? How to help yourself survive painful separation with a person? What can be done so that the heart stops reacting painfully at the slightest reminder of what happened? Such feelings are evidence that for you a real separation never happened. Psychologists call this state an “unfinished situation” and give valuable recommendations how to deal with it.

Let's first find out what causes acute pain when breaking up. Deeply hurting feelings is only possible if one person is psychologically dependent on another. The desire for his love, devotion and the need for his recognition are replaced by jealousy, resentment and anger when expectations are not met.

Especially in the relationship between a man and a woman, there is a tendency to make some plans for each other, to entertain hopes, and, as they say, to “build castles in the air.” And when, for certain reasons, all this collapses, then the higher we fly in our dreams about someone, the more painful it is to fall, seeing the situation in its true light. The disappointment that overtook you causes seemingly unbearable pain when parting.

Some people manage to simply stop thinking about it, putting what happened out of their heads. However, having driven the pain to the very bottom of your soul, you still did not get rid of it. Perhaps, outwardly, nothing seems to be happening, but on the internal level the emotional storm continues. The situation must be ended, otherwise you risk carrying this burden, suffering for a long time under its yoke.

How can you help yourself survive the pain of separation? Prepare yourself for the fact that your fight will be on two fronts - intellectual and emotional. You will have to act on them simultaneously, according to the following order. First, figure out what exactly is bothering you. Write down in order what torments you, what expectations were not met, decide what exactly makes you feel offended. Such an analysis will help you look at the situation from the outside and reduce the level of emotional stress.

Secondly, try to realize that the one with whom you broke up, in fact, has nothing to blame. Everyone decides for themselves what they should be like, with whom and how to treat them. Even if he made you believe in something, he still doesn't owe you anything. IN modern world It is short-sighted to associate your entire well-being with any specific person. You have to pay for such illusions with mental pain. Don't expect people to do what you want - and this will protect you from disappointment.

Thus, you will come to the conclusion that it is indeed naive to think: “I am hurt because he is bad.” Adults understand that responsibility for their experiences lies only with them. That is, “It hurts me, because I hoped, I expected...” But he is what he is - and you have no power to change anything here. Therefore, by stopping feeling sorry for yourself and blaming someone, you will part with your childish way of thinking.

Of course, you can’t turn off emotions with your mind just like a light switch. They need to be given a way out, and then they will subside. There are two options here. One of them is to aggressively throw out everything that has accumulated in the offender’s face. Many people resort to this primitive method. However, this way you will again demonstrate your need for this person’s participation in your life. But you want to get rid of the suffering that this particular emotional dependence causes you.

It is better to get rid of accumulated emotions without involving other people. Instead of hiding your feelings, let them come out intensely. It's like removing a festering splinter. At first it is very painful, but over time the desired relief comes. If you cry or otherwise “open up” your pain, you will feel an inner emptiness. This is fine.

And now that negative emotions almost nothing left, you are ready to move on to the final stage of separation. You can hold a small ceremony - see the person and put an end to your relationship, for example, by saying “Goodbye”. You need this, so don’t try to find out or prove anything. It's just time to really break up. Or replay this meeting in your imagination. Such a check will show whether you have completed the situation or whether there is still something left.#Dissolution of marriage and reasons for divorce#

In any case, this will help you accept reality as it is and open a new page in your life. Of course, it is always easy to give advice. But rest assured that by applying the thoughts in this article, you will definitely cope with mental pain. Start moving in the right direction. In time you will be able to avoid discomfort, when faced with something in life that would remind you of the separation you experienced.

If we are betrayed, offended, or, especially, abandoned by a loved one, we experience unbearable pain. It seems that life has stopped, nothing good will happen in the future. The heart seems ready to burst, not so much from resentment or disappointment, but from the inability to fix or return anything. Every person, probably, at least once in his life dreamed of turning back time. “How to survive a breakup! Oh, how I want to go back…” we say, but we can’t change anything. So, with your loved one, without doing anything stupid?

Forgive and let go

This is the first step towards restoring what was lost. A suffering person does not notice this, but the more he torments himself with memories from the past or sorting out his relationship with ex-lover, the longer it will take him to come to his senses. A person who has become a stranger must simply be let go. Psychologists advise changing the situation for this, for example, going on vacation or moving to another city. The fewer meetings there are, the sooner a new, full life will begin.

In extreme cases, when everything is falling out of hand and nothing can distract you from gloomy thoughts, you should seek help. Not to a psychologist, probably, since our compatriots, unlike Europeans, still distrust this profession, but to their family and friends. There is no need to hide pain and pretend that it doesn’t exist. On the contrary, if you want to cry, cry, if you want to scream, scream, but only next to someone who can listen and console. Our friends always know very well how to survive a breakup and are happy to share their experience.

Parting - great way begin new life

Have you been planning to learn how to skydive or cross stitch for a long time? Did you want to learn Chinese or learn to drive a car? This is the best therapy for a person to survive. You can engage in active sports, useful and tiring, which will not allow you to feel sorry for yourself or remember the past for a long time. You can learn new skills - go to computer courses or driving school. How to survive a breakup better and more interesting? The most ordinary human communication helps to get over a breakup - you definitely need to meet with friends, go to visit, whatever you want, but just don’t be alone. You just have to be alone with your thoughts for a second - many days of work will go down the drain, pain and tears will appear again, you will again want to feel sorry for yourself, which you cannot allow, so as not to get bogged down in your sadness and not remain in it forever.

No nonsense!

The danger of separation is that not all people experience it equally steadfastly. Some are disappointed in members of the opposite sex for the rest of their lives, others begin to suffer from a huge number of different complexes that do not allow them to be happy in the future. But it is much more dangerous when a suffering person slowly kills himself with alcohol or drugs, and sometimes refuses to live further, committing the most terrible sin - suicide. If at a critical moment no one helps such people, the consequences can be very dire. In order not to bring yourself to such a situation, you need to remember that no pain will last forever. How to get over a breakup? It’s very simple - you just need to live. Human memory is unusually merciful - after a while the memories will be covered with slight oblivion, and then they will be forgotten, and will no longer seem so painful. In this case, new meetings help tremendously. Who knows, maybe a random acquaintance you met during the course foreign languages or on vacation, will turn out to be exactly that “Prince Charming” whose appearance has been expected for many years.

Both girls and men want to know, which is often a problem. After all, suffering because of love is the most acute and it is not so easy to get rid of it. You can survive parting with your loved one, girlfriend or man, by following our advice.

In this article, psychologists will tell you about how to cope with a breakup with a loved one, will give advice on how to do this more efficiently and without suffering. Because it is not always possible to return someone who no longer needs you.

Get distracted by something more

To survive a breakup with a loved one, you need to find strength and emotions stronger than this feeling of suffering. It could be sports, a favorite job, hobbies, communication with friends, a favorite activity. Find something we can go into for a year without paying attention to anything. Since it is after a year that the feelings of suffering due to parting with a loved one disappear. Find something more than that, that force that will distract you long time.

Think about life

No matter how hard you try, but if you loved each other, then get over a breakup with your loved one, it will be problematic and for some time you will be in a state of depression. To get out of this state as soon as possible and start a new life filled with happiness and joy, you need to go deeper into your thoughts and depression. Remember that you will need to come back and immerse yourself as far into your thoughts and feelings as possible. This will allow you to analyze everything that happened to you and live through the suffering as quickly as possible, realizing it. Find out: when love dies , because by running away from feelings, you will find yourself in a state of depression for a long time, which no one wants.

Find another love

The main thing is not to be disappointed because of unhappy love, since everyone goes through this. The main thing is to continue to love and believe those who love you. To understand how to cope with a breakup with a loved one , you need to start loving everyone who surrounds you even more, then real and true love will find you. When you give love, you receive it a hundredfold.

There's no point in suffering over failed love

If love allowed you to part with your loved one, it means that you were not suitable for each other or your love turned out to be simple affection. So why suffer because of artificial love that never happened. Find true love, then you will understand the difference between infatuation, love and affection.

Never be upset or suffer if you break up. This means that you really are not suitable for each other and there can be no love between you. Believe me, there will be that person who will love you and you will love him too.

Why do you need to do something distracting?

Many people ask how to cope with a breakup with a loved one and why to do this you need to find something to distract you. This is necessary so that attachment to a person leaves your life, since this is not love at all. Real love will never leave your heart and will not allow any separation. And if you broke up with your loved one, it means simple affection, which disappears over time and in order not to suffer, you need to do what you love so that you don’t have enough time to even think about this person.

Just get over the breakup with your loved one

The question itself: how to cope with a breakup with a loved one, contains the answer. You just have to get over it this feeling suffering, and for this you need to find something for yourself that can distract you. Some go into creativity, some into business, some find the essence of life, and some are looking for another loved one.

Everyone has their own way, but you won’t be able to cope with parting with your loved one any other way, especially if you dated or even lived together for a long time. If you haven't been dating for long, then the feeling will pass within a few weeks

The main thing is not to drink alcohol and do bad things.

Most do not have willpower and character, so they try through alcohol and drugs. This clouds their mind and, accordingly, they ruin their health and life in general. There is no point in destroying yourself because of simple attachment. Try to find at least a drop of strength in yourself and escape from such a fate.

Many people, due to a lack of understanding of what love is, have passed away, but if you are strong in spirit, you will survive the separation even without suffering if you begin to act and continue to love yourself, the world, nature and everything that surrounds you. Find out: how to meet safely on the Internet, since in any case you will have to look in the future for another loved one who will truly love you and you too.

Stay friends

If you are still young and hastily decided to break up and are now suffering because of it, then perhaps you made a mistake and you need to at least continue to communicate and be friends. Invite the person to remain friends, then perhaps your feelings will come into order over time and you will realize that you love each other. The main thing is to actually be friends for now and don’t rush to play with feelings.

How to know that this is not love

More than 80% of people cannot understand what love is and because of this such suffering occurs. If you broke up, then to understand whether it was love, do not communicate or think about this person for at least 3 months; if the feelings remain, then maybe this is love. But if there is no sincerity and reciprocity in the relationship, there is no point in continuing to date.

Start loving nature and the creator

To realize how to cope with a breakup with a loved one, you need to start loving nature and the creator, this will allow you to retain feelings of love within yourself and direct them to the most important source of love and kindness. When you keep love in your heart even after parting with your loved one, then you will remain happy and there will definitely be that person with whom you will live and meet for a long time, and perhaps all your life.

Learn to let go

If a person leaves your life and does not want to be with you anymore, then learn to let such people go, since you really are not suitable for each other and even if you stay together, they will not love you. Even if a person does not yet have any feelings for you, but wants to be together, he will try to love you until feelings appear in his heart. Look for such people or let them find you, since love is not suffering or attachment, it is the highest feeling, pleasure and joy that can be felt by a person who knows how to love sincerely. When you yourself learn to love, you will no longer have such problems and wrong feelings.