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Tomorrow is the last day to apply for the government internship program . And today we are publishing tips for graduates and future interns on how to spend their first day at a new job. Indeed, this time the Moscow Government is recruiting not only students, but also graduates - full-time!
“During my work in personnel selection and organizing youth personnel projects, I helped more than 700 candidates get positions. It would seem that the most difficult milestone of testing and interviews is behind us - but on the first day of a newbie there are many pitfalls! What you need to remember for the first day Was your new job easy?
Prepare in advance the suit you will wear to work. Just in case, think of a backup plan for what you will wear if something goes wrong in the morning. Confidence that everything is in order with your appearance puts you in a positive mood and reduces stress.
Plan your route to your new office, take into account traffic jams and add another half hour to your commute: you definitely shouldn’t be late on your first working day!
When you come to work, get a pass to the office, a key to the office, a login and password for your work computer, find out where your workplace is located.
Get to know your colleagues, be friendly, polite and reserved. Try to remember the names of employees and their functions so that you understand who you can contact with what question. Observe the communication style, dress code, and office rules established in your new place of work.
Find out where the key points of the office are: where you can drink coffee, have lunch, get office supplies.
Chat with your manager: discuss what results are expected from you during the first week, month, based on the results of the probationary period. Find out how it is customary to communicate on work issues - maybe there are work chats or shared file storage? Ask to be connected to them too. Ask what is accepted and what is not accepted in the team. If there is a manual for new employees, be sure to study it!
Familiarize yourself with the documents that regulate your activities and the work of your department - this will help you quickly adapt to the new office environment. Record key points in a notebook - writing them down will help you remember them.
Don't hesitate to ask your boss or colleagues for help, but don't overdo it. Perhaps the information you need is contained in the beginner's guide or documents.
Be yourself! Work takes up more than 60% of your waking time, and hiding yourself under a mask is a direct path to neuroses. Assess whether the company's atmosphere suits you. According to statistics, in the first three days of work, it becomes clear to an employee whether he will leave the company within the next six months or stay longer.
Remember that you came here to work, and first of all, results are expected from you! The organization wants to get a good specialist on its staff - so be prepared for a professional and rational resolution of issues.
Let joining the new team be pleasant and successful!”
Alina Guziy, director of the Career Development Center at the Moscow Government University.
Very often we get caught up in the whirlwind of everyday activities and worries and forget what is really important. In this article, we will tell you how to create a to-do list for life that will always remind you of the main things.
Everyone dies, but not everyone truly lives.
William Ross
You may be familiar with the English expression bucket list- this is a list of everything you want to do in life.
Today we'll talk about why it's so important to make to-do lists for life, and tell you what you should definitely add to your list.
Why make a lifelong to-do list?
90% of people living on planet Earth spend their days busy with current affairs, which fall upon each of us in an endless barrage. And sometimes we get the feeling that our days are passing completely uselessly: we live either at work or at home and wake up every day so that this everyday whirlwind will spin us around again.
What have you achieved in the past three months? What goals do you set for yourself for the next three months? I bet that most of the tasks will be of the everyday kind - work or household chores. But let's imagine: if we find out that we only have a couple of days to live, will these things still matter a lot to us?
A life to-do list, unlike our daily-weekly-monthly to-do lists, reminds us of what is truly important. He will help us make the most of every day that passes.
How to make your to-do list for life
How long will it take you to create a to-do list for your life? On average, this takes from 30 minutes to an hour if you just list your goals without being specific. If you approach the matter more responsibly and write down each of your goals in detail, you will spend several hours compiling the list. But believe me, it’s worth your time.
You may already have a similar list, in which case this article will help you supplement it.
Now grab a pen and paper or create a new document on your computer. After that, start writing down everything that comes to your mind as you read the following questions:
- What would you do today if you knew that tomorrow you would be gone?
- What would you do if you had an unlimited amount of time, money and other resources?
- What have you always wanted to do but haven't done yet?
- What places (countries, cities, etc.) would you like to visit?
- What are your main goals and cherished dreams?
- What kind of person do you want to become?
- What kind of experience do you dream of getting?
- What do you want to remember in your old age?
- What skills do you want to acquire?
- What would you like to do together with your loved ones?
- Do you have any idols whom you dream of meeting in person?
- What do you want to achieve in all areas of your life?
- What do you need to make your life meaningful?
Don't stop until your list has at least 101 items. If you feel like you are at a dead end, then try to relax: your list has no place for doubts and thoughts about possible failures. It will contain everything you dream of, everything you want to achieve, everything you want to see and feel.
101 things you need to do in life
The list below will hopefully inspire you and give you a few items you might want to add to your own list. :)
1. Travel around the world
tomertu/Shutterstock.comTraveling is what helps us get new experiences, expand our horizons, get out of our comfort zone and meet new people.
If you want to travel, then add this desire to your list, but be sure to specify which countries you want to visit. For example:
2. Learn a new language
Learning a new language is never easy, but imagine how great it will be when you can speak fluently with a foreigner! People who speak multiple languages fluently deserve respect. Why shouldn't you be one of them? :)
3. Find a job in another field
Firmorama Design Studio/Flickr.com Remember what profession you have always dreamed of. Maybe now is the time to try to find your dream job? Or maybe you have a favorite hobby that you want to make your life’s work?
Although it is not at all necessary to change your life so radically, if you are completely satisfied with your current place of work, and if you want to develop new skills or try yourself in something different, you can sign up as a volunteer or become a freelancer.
4. Reach your ideal weight
Jeanette Goodrich/Flickr.com We all want to look healthy and attractive. I don't encourage you to starve yourself in pursuit of your ideal, but each of us can eat right and exercise.
5. Run a marathon
swissnature3/Flickr.com If you set yourself such an ambitious goal, then its implementation will require some preparation and a lot of effort from you. Running a marathon is a real feat. If it seems very difficult to you now, think about the benefits you will receive: you will become more resilient and persistent, and improve not only your physical but also mental health.
6. Take part in a triathlon
jonny baker/Flickr.com Swimming, cycling and running - triathlon will allow you to test your endurance, and you will have a reason to be proud of yourself!
7. Try a new sport
Francois Peeters/Flickr.com Exercising is a great way to stay healthy and keep fit. Choose the sport that you like.
8. Scuba dive
Seeing the underwater world and all its inhabitants with your own eyes is one of those impressions that lasts a lifetime!
9. Ski down the mountain
Shawn DeGroot/Flickr.com This activity is certainly breathtaking and provides an incredible experience, but do not forget that it is not always safe for beginners. So before you start riding alone, you should undergo some training.
10. Walk the Inca Trail
This is the most famous route, one of the five best in the world. The incredible beauties that you will meet along the way are worth seeing with your own eyes.
11. Take up horse riding
bravery914/Flickr.com This is a great sport that will help you relax and unwind. In addition, you will learn to care for another living being and, most likely, will gain a true friend.
12. Skydive
Every second person in the world dreams of jumping with a parachute. :) Surely you dream of doing this too.
The reasons why people want to climb mountains can vary: some want to increase their endurance or overcome fear, while others simply enjoy it.
Of course, climbing a mountain is quite a feat that deserves to be on your bucket list.
14. Learn to play chess
TheTelephoneGirl/Flickr.com Playing chess is not just a way to have a good time. This is a game that will teach you to be more attentive, think logically and always think before you act.
15. Visit school teachers
gualtiero boffi/Shutterstock.com Of course, it is likely that you have long forgotten many school teachers. But there is probably at least one among them who taught you something important, inspired you to do something, or simply helped with life advice.
Find time to visit them, for example on Teacher's Day.
16. Allowing someone else to know how much that person means to you.
Vera F/Shutterstock.com Don't be shy about saying “I love you” to the most important person in your life.
17. Give someone a pleasant surprise
Michael Fletcher/Flickr.com When was the last time you surprised someone? Remember how nice it is? So cook a romantic dinner or send flowers to your girlfriend.
18. Do a good deed without expecting anything in return
This is the problem with most of us: if we do a favor for someone, we always expect that they will give us something in return.
Try to do a good deed at least once without expecting anything in return. There are probably orphanages or animal shelters in your city that need your help.
19. Make a difference in someone's life
Koosha Jafari/Flickr.com Surely among the people close to you there are those whose lives you can change for the better: your parents, your loved one, your children or your friends. If you can make their dream come true, help them achieve a goal, or overcome a difficult problem, then go for it.
20. Become a mentor to someone
Photographee.eu/Shutterstock.com This is a mutually beneficial exchange: by teaching something to others, we develop ourselves. No matter what field you are an expert in, you can always teach someone else what you know and can do.
21. Do what you love
Our lives are too short to do things we don't like. If your job doesn't bring you joy, you should change it.
Try to figure out what you want to do with your life. Paint? Sing? Become a trainer in a fitness center? Try to find opportunities to do what you really enjoy.
22. Start your own business
KieferPix/Shutterstock.com Of course, entrepreneurship is an area fraught with great risks and uncertainty. But if you feel that you have an entrepreneurial spirit and have always dreamed of starting your own business, then you should definitely do it.
23. Fly in a hot air balloon
See the world from a bird's eye view, feel free and get a lot of new impressions. Feel free to add a hot air balloon ride to your bucket list. :)
24. Sing in public
Candice Linkie/Flickr.com If you love to sing, then don't keep your passion to yourself! The next time you have the opportunity (corporate party at work, family holiday, etc.), don’t be shy - sing.
25. Try yourself as a volunteer
Dave Bezaire & Susi Havens-Bezaire/Flickr.com There is so little kindness in the world, but you always have a chance to bring something bright into it.
Most of our acquaintances and friends are school and college buddies, work colleagues, people who live next door or with whom we vacationed, etc.
Few of us decide to make acquaintance with a stranger, even if we like him. Stop being shy and take action. Libraries, cafes, concerts, museums, even the queue at the supermarket - there are so many places in the world where you can find a true friend or even your soulmate, so don't miss your chance. :)
27. Buy a cup of coffee for a stranger
Next time you go to a coffee shop, buy two cups of coffee, keep one for yourself, and give the other to a stranger. At a minimum, you will find company and won’t drink coffee alone. :)
28. Walk/dance barefoot in the rain
We all know: before going outside, you need to get dressed and put on shoes, and if it rains, take an umbrella with you.
Of course, an umbrella is a good thing; it helps us not get wet and fall down with a cold. But at least once in your life, break the “umbrella and shoes rule”: run out into the rain barefoot and dance! This is an incredible feeling; you will be able to return to your carefree childhood for a while. And, of course, it’s good if you take a couple of friends or a loved one with you to the dance.
29. Run barefoot in the sand
Another small event that can take us back to childhood and give us a boost of cheerfulness and good mood.
30. Watch the sunrise and watch the sunset
Coleman Sheehy Jr/Flickr.com Sunrises and sunsets are some of nature's most beautiful gifts.
People applaud the fireworks, but not the sunrise.
Don't forget that beauty is with us every day.
31. See the Northern Lights
People come from different parts of the world to admire this beautiful spectacle. You can see the northern lights in Norway, Iceland, Scotland, Finland, Canada and more.
32. Witness a solar eclipse
Another natural wonder worth seeing.
33. See a starfall
davejdoe/Flickr.com ...and make a wish that will definitely come true. :) This is the favorite dream of all romantics, but even if you are not one, you still cannot remain indifferent to such a magnificent spectacle.
34. Plant a tree and watch it grow
Did you know that there are old-timer trees on our planet that are several thousand years old? And all these trees were once planted by people.
Plant your tree and watch it grow. On average, a tree takes 10 to 20 years to grow.
35. Get a pet
This will help you become more responsible and caring, and a devoted friend will always be waiting for you at home.
36. Publish your book
Eri Crapulence/Flickr.com If you have something to say to the world, then create your own work. Who knows, maybe one fine morning you will wake up famous.
37. Give a speech to 1,000 (or more) people
net_efekt/Flicker.com Speaking in public is one of many people's biggest fears.
But when you learn to hold yourself and get the hang of it, you will realize that performing in front of people is very exciting.
38. Throw a mega party
Moyan Brenn/Flickr.com Everyone should arrange such an event at least once in their life. Invite your friends and acquaintances, as well as friends of your friends and acquaintances of your acquaintances.
Remember that we arrange holidays for ourselves. Even if it’s far from your birthday or other significant event, you can throw a party for no reason. :)
39. Drastically change your image
keelytyler/Flickr.com We all need change from time to time. If you feel that now is such a time, then change your hairstyle, update your wardrobe, sign up for the gym. The main thing is don’t be afraid to experiment, try something new.
40. Try different types of wines
One of the noblest drinks is worth trying.
41. Sign up for an etiquette course
Amanda King/Flickr.com Nowadays it is very important to be polite and know how to behave in society. You don't have to be a celebrity or member of high society to enroll in an etiquette course.
First of all, pay attention to those courses whose program includes business etiquette.
42. Help someone find love
Julia/Flickr.com If among your friends or acquaintances there is a guy and a girl who just can’t find their soulmate, then introduce them. Who knows, maybe this is fate?
Of course, everything here depends entirely on those you meet, but you can also play your small role in this - become a catalyst that speeds up the chemical reaction.
43. Go on a blind date
Many people believe that going on blind dates is the prerogative of desperate people. But this is a prejudice. Blind dates are just a fun way to meet new people, there is nothing shameful or harmful about it.
So if a person you met, for example, through social networks, invites you on a date, then do not rush to refuse.
44. Continue your education
Svein Halvor Halvorsen/Flickr.com It doesn’t matter how long ago you graduated from school or university, it doesn’t matter how old you are now - you need to engage in your education throughout your life.
If you already have a higher education diploma, then no one is stopping you from getting a second one. And, of course, do not forget about self-education.
45. Learn to play one of the musical instruments
Lester Guijarro/Flickr.com Guitar, piano, cello, violin... There are so many beautiful musical instruments in the world, and it's never too late to start playing them.
46. Win the lottery
Heike Brauer/Shutterstock.com It is not necessary to aim for multimillion-dollar sums, because we all know that the chances of winning, although present, are small.
But no one canceled win-win lotteries. Even if you win some little thing, you will still be pleased.
47. Take up dancing
Vladimir Pustovit/Flickr.com Dancing is not only fun, but also a great way to keep yourself in good shape. Salsa, for example, helps burn about 200 calories in just 30 minutes, which is the same as going for a run.
48. Learn a martial art
Martial arts are a great way of self-defense. In addition, by training, you will learn self-discipline and perseverance, and strengthen your character.
49. Hitchhiking
A great opportunity to relax without spending money on travel.
50. Try hiking
Feel free, enjoy beautiful views, be alone with nature. Hiking is a fun adventure that you can create for yourself.
51. Go on a spontaneous trip
Instead of buying an all-inclusive package with a predictable route, take out a map of the world, point (without looking, of course) at any place and go there. :)
52. Swim with dolphins
If you're looking for an experience that will last a lifetime, then swim with dolphins is a must. They say that this activity can relieve a person from depression.
53. Live in another country for at least six months
Of course, it's great to go on vacation to another country. But in a few weeks you will not be able to fully get acquainted with another country and culture, or experience it. It's another matter if you decide to live in this country.
You will be able to see it from the inside, not through the eyes of an enthusiastic tourist to whom everything is new, but through the eyes of a resident who can tell not only about local attractions.
54. Play a role in a movie
Many of us love watching movies, and many of us have wanted to try ourselves as an actor at least once in our lives.
You don't have to set your sights on Hollywood - nowadays, almost everyone has a video camera, so you can make an amateur film with friends.
55. Give an interview to the media
Roland Lausberg/Flickr.com You will be shown on TV, written about in the newspaper, or you will hear your own voice on the radio. This is nice for anyone! Let the world know about your even small achievements.
56. Knit a scarf
Knit a scarf and give it to a loved one. This will be a gift from the heart, and it is much more valuable than one bought in a store.
57. Furnish your dream apartment
We spend half of our lives in our houses and apartments, and those who work from home, even two-thirds. So why not make your apartment a beautiful and inspiring place that will bring you joy?
You don’t have to be a millionaire, because in order to make your apartment cozy and pleasing to the eye, you don’t have to spend fabulous sums on renovations.
58. Cook dinner for your loved one
Prepare your loved one's favorite dish. Believe me, gourmet dishes from the most expensive restaurants cannot compare with it.
59. Bake a cake or pie for someone's birthday
Brady Lea/Flickr.com Of course, it is much easier to go to the store and buy a ready-made cake or pie. But a delicacy prepared independently is a gift from the heart.
Even if you have never baked a cake or pie, do not despair, because there are many recipes on the Internet that will help you with this.
60. Be alone with nature
We live in concrete jungles called megacities, and we rarely get out into nature. Fix it! Go on a hike, admire a waterfall, set up camp in some wilds... Feel the nature!
61. Play in the snow
Kevin Frost/Flickr.com We all loved this very much as children, but who said that we should leave this exciting game when we become adults? Wait for the snow and take action. :)
62. Photograph the same place at different times of the year
It's fascinating: you can watch how nature falls asleep and awakens again. And who knows, maybe a great photographer is quietly dozing within you?
63. Read a book from an area unexpected to you
As a rule, we read only those books that interest us. But at least once, make an exception to this rule and read a book that is outside your circle of interests. For example, if you are a programmer, then read a book about knitting, and if you are an accountant, read a book on journalism.
According to the book “The Medici Effect,” innovative ideas come to us when we step outside our usual domain and look around us.
64. Provide support to sick or old people
Ed Yourdon/Flickr.com We are not magicians and cannot heal a sick person, but we can surround him with care and attention, look after him, just be there and support him.
In this way, you will not only help sick people - you will begin to appreciate your own life more and, perhaps, look at the world completely differently.
65. Fly a kite
This simple and enjoyable activity will allow you to have a great time with your loved ones and give you positive emotions for the whole day.
66. Sleep on the grass
Sleeping outdoors is a good way to relax your body and soul and get closer to nature. Before you decide to take this event, you should:
- Bring a rug and pillow with you;
- choose a safe place (no snakes or wild animals);
- Bring bug spray and sunscreen.
67. Thank a company for a quality product or service
Many of us complain when we receive poor service or a low quality product. But think about it, how often do we thank companies for a job well done?
With your “thank you,” you can please your employees and inspire them to create something even more wonderful. Write an email, call or express your gratitude in person - it only takes 5 minutes.
68. Try becoming a vegetarian for 21 days
Marji Beach/Flickr.com By the way, if you are planning to lose weight, then a vegetarian diet is considered one of the most effective. Try becoming a vegetarian for at least 21 days, make a bet with yourself. Can you handle it? :)
69. Hugging mom as often as possible
abigail morellon/Flickr.com No comments. You already know how important this is.
70. Cook your favorite dish yourself
We all have our very favorite dish. Perhaps it was prepared for you as a child or you tried it in some restaurant. At least once in your life you should cook it yourself.
71. Make 1,000 paper cranes and give them to people
Give kindness and a good mood, because doing this is so simple and important.
72. Conquer your biggest fear
Seth Oliver Photographic Art/Flickr.com The only thing we have to fear is fear itself, the reckless, faceless, unjustified terror that paralyzes the necessary efforts to turn retreat into advance.
Franklin Delano Roosevelt
We all have fears and even phobias. Some are afraid of heights, some of spiders, some are terrified by the sight of blood, fear of failure, fear of rejection, stage fright.
Of course, there are fears that protect us from danger, but most fears are irrational. The good news is that fears can be overcome and subdued. Manage your fears rather than be driven by them.
73. Share your life to-do list with at least 10 people and invite them to create a similar one.
αmєrιcαnԍιrlσ77/Flickr.com This way you can find out about the goals and dreams of your loved ones, and maybe there are similar items on your lists that you can accomplish together.
Be the change you want to see in the world.
Mahatma Gandhi
Tell the world what you want to do. Today, in the age of the boom of social networks, this is quite easy to do, plus you can quickly find like-minded people.
77. Admire the cherry blossoms in Japan
phtg_knsei/Flickr.com In Japan, there is such a tradition of admiring flowers (in Japanese “hanami”). Watching cherry blossoms is an incredibly beautiful sight that simply cannot be described in words, so it’s worth watching it yourself.
78. Forgive people who once hurt you
To forgive means to free the “prisoner” and discover that the “prisoner” was you.
Do not carry resentment in your heart, forgive those people who once hurt you. Ultimately, by harboring resentment, anger and a desire for revenge, you only torture yourself.
79. Let go of everything that makes you unhappy
Children's grievances. Past relationships that we still cannot forget. Insults thrown at us in the heat of a quarrel.
Each of us has a past, and no one can change it. But we can control our thoughts and not remember the negative again and again.
If you've seen a bad movie, you're unlikely to ever watch it again. So why do you keep remembering what makes you unhappy?
80. Organize a picnic for yourself and friends
Instead of spending the weekend again in some shopping center, eating fast food and watching another stupid comedy, it is better to go on a picnic with friends, breathe fresh air, enjoy nature and tasty and healthy food.
81. Do something fun and stupid
Serghei Starus/Flickr.com I understand what your problem is: you are too serious. An intelligent face is not a sign of intelligence, gentlemen. All stupid things on earth are done with this facial expression. Smile, gentlemen. Smile!
From the film “That Same Munchausen”
Our daily life can be quite boring and monotonous. You wake up at the same time, wash your face, drink coffee, drive to work along a long-studied route...
Liven up your day! Start a conversation with a stranger, surprise your colleagues and smile, smile, smile!
82. Fly first class (at least once)
Yes, it's expensive. Sometimes it's even damn expensive. But sometimes it's worth pampering yourself.
83. Win at darts
And to win, you have to train well. Of course, it won't change your life, but you will relax and have a good time.
84. See an erupting volcano
There are about 6,000 volcanoes in the world. Three quarters of volcanoes are underwater, 1,500 are on land. About 50 of them erupt every year.
Only the brave can decide on such an adventure, but they should not forget about safety precautions.
85. Fly a helicopter
Soaring above the ground while enjoying magnificent views is a tempting prospect, isn't it? And if you are a romantic, you can fly with your significant other - you will both remember this day for a long time.
86. Meet someone you've always dreamed of meeting
Kodzaeva/Flickr.com The author of your favorite book, the artist you admire... We often think that we will never be able to meet them in person, but they are also ordinary people who walk the streets, go to events and even sometimes (well, this is a big secret) go to metro.
87. Tell your family members that you love them as often as possible.
Family is your closest people. Very often we do not take time to express our love to them and this should be corrected as soon as possible.
88. Ride a roller coaster
Many people believe that life is like a roller coaster: it also has its ups and downs. Trying this “life in life” and experiencing completely new sensations is something that every person should try.
89. Go on a cruise
And you won’t be bored at all on board, because so many surprises, entertainment and new acquaintances await you there.
90. Try to work as a waiter
This is an invaluable experience that will help you in the future in any professional activity. You will learn to be polite, patient and to endure human stupidity.
91. Fall in love
Giulio Bernardi/Flickr.com No comments. :)
92. Build a strong relationship based on love and respect, and have a child.
babak_meisam/Flickr.com Falling in love is only half the battle; it is much more difficult to build a strong relationship in which both people are comrades-in-arms and support each other in everything. But if you still manage to do this, then you can be called a happy person.
And, of course, you should leave someone behind.
93. Organize your significant other a romantic vacation
A romantic date is too simple and anyone can do it. But to organize a whole romantic vacation...
You may have already had a honeymoon, but why not do it again?
94. Learn to do somersaults
...and be proud of yourself!
95. Visit an ancient castle
Miami Love 1/Flickr.com There are so many countries in the world that have amazing ancient castles. You should see at least one of them with your own eyes.
96. Change the world
Kelsey Elisa/Flickr.com The beach will be clean if every person picks up trash after themselves. It's not heroes who change the world. Remember that every person can make their own, albeit small, contribution that will make the world a little better.
97. Help someone in need
There is always someone who is much worse off than you. And you can always help him.
98. Learn sign language
Very useful if you want to understand people better.
99. See the Mona Lisa (Louvre, Paris)
Ilia Goranov/Flickr.com And take a photo in front of her, of course.
100. Attend a costume party
A great way to transform into the hero or heroine of your favorite fairy tale from childhood, for example. Feeling like a witch or a princess, a robber or a knight - it must be very funny, right?
101. Live every day
Balazs Kovacs Images/Shutterstock.com And rejoice, despite everything this crazy world can throw at us. :)
What will you definitely add to your list of things to do in life? Share in the comments.
The first sexual intercourse is remembered for a lifetime by both men and women. Many thick books have been written about how to prepare for the first sex, how to behave and what to do, which not everyone has the desire or opportunity to read. But in order for pleasant memories of the first intimacy to remain, you need to try. Therefore, we decided to help you, and in our article we will briefly tell you what to do for the first time.
Losing your virginity is an important decision that you should not rush into, you need to weigh everything and think it over. In addition to physical readiness, you need to be mentally prepared, have no doubts and be sure that it is at this moment that you want to surrender, say goodbye to the hymen and childhood. If you have already decided everything for sure, then start preparing for this day so that nothing can spoil the impression of the first intimacy and in the process you know what to do. To begin with, discuss with your boyfriend in what environment you would like to do this, so that you both feel comfortable. Next, take care of contraception, which plays an important role, because you have no need for an unwanted pregnancy, you just decided to give yourself to each other and enjoy the moment. You should take care of your health and go to a gynecologist to make sure that you do not have any pathologies, problems or contraindications. If everything is normal, that's great. Many people are very afraid of pain the first time, you shouldn’t do it and tell yourself that it’s a hellish sensation. In fact, if you are truly ready to lose your virginity and trust your sexual partner, then everything will be painless. The main thing is that your boyfriend is gentle, caring and affectionate with you, so that he can relax you. There should be no sudden quick movements in the process; your partner must take into account your wishes, so do not hesitate to talk about everything that you like and don’t like, what is pleasant and what is not so pleasant. The main thing is that your partner listens, because it is in your interests to have fun and keep this pleasant moment in your memory. Choose a comfortable position, relax and completely trust your partner. (it’s better, of course, if this is not his first sexual intercourse, and he knows what to do). Breaking the hymen does not have to happen right away; for many, it happens only after several times. There is nothing wrong with this, the main thing is not to be afraid - because because you are nervous and worried, the muscles contract and do not allow the penis to penetrate you, which is why pain occurs. But if you feel comfortable emotionally and calm mentally, then everything will go quickly, painlessly and wonderfully. Some women experience a little blood when the hymen deflorates, and for some only a few days after the first sexual intercourse. Be prepared for this and better put a towel under your butt in advance and carry panty liners with you.
Remember that the first night should be magical and remain in your memory, so approach your preparations responsibly and carefully.
For me, the New Year is a time to take stock, think and ask myself... Ask what worked and what didn’t, think what could have been done better or faster. Unfortunately, time doesn’t add up, every year you get older and you realize that it’s time to think more intensively with your head, otherwise there’s no other way...
Since ancient times, there has been an opinion that with the new year, each of us has the opportunity to start life with a clean slate. Well, there's something to it. Our holidays last a long time, some go farther away to celebrate, but I never saw much sense in this. It’s simple, sometimes it reaches the point of absurdity, what’s so interesting about celebrating the New Year underwater? Well, nothing, as for me. Although take your family and go on vacation to the mountains, why not...
And here’s another thing, the fulfillment of wishes... As the chimes strike, everyone says goodbye to the old New Year, and expects from the New Year that it will give them a magic wand that will do everything for them. But this is all a fairy tale, Gentlemen, an ordinary New Year's fairy tale... You have to really work hard, and there is no smell of magic here anymore.
Of course, no one will forbid you to make a wish, but you shouldn’t hope for a miracle. In general, it’s better to turn your dream into a goal, make a concrete plan, and while the idea is still clear and doubts are not filling your head, GET TO WORK.
In general, there is still a month until the new year, and we are already thinking about what and how to do...
It turned out to be a small list, only 100 points =) Some things are serious, some are funny, some are simply heartwarming. In general, I hope that those who read it will bring inspiration and new ideas for their future plans for the new year.
To-do list for the year! 100 things to do in the new year
- . It's no surprise that this item was number one on my list. After all, the development process involves constant improvement. Each of us knows what we need to change in ourselves to become better. So, we remember all such moments and make a list of 5-12 bad habits. And then, we move on to point 2, and work on them for a whole year.
- . The process is similar to creating a list of bad habits, only now we are thinking specifically about what needs to be done to become more disciplined or healthy, or to become an expert in some field. This is your flow of fantasy. Because It takes about a month to form a new habit. Over the next year, 12 new habits will appear in your arsenal that will make your life easier. Think about these habits in advance or you can take them from our list, because... The items in the list below can become your new habit.
- Come up with ways to implement them. Turn your dreams into goals, because this is what our action plan for the next year was created for.
- Write your plan for the year and follow it. If you have a plan, then you know where to go.
- Sometimes go to a quiet coffee shop to be alone and make a plan for the next month. It's better to choose your favorite cafe.
- Once a month, take some time to cook a new dish. In this case, you can kill two birds with one stone: first, diversify your menu or find your signature dish, which you will treat your guests every time.
- Learn a new/or improve an old foreign language (English/German/Italian). What are the advantages of introducing this habit: firstly, you train your memory, and secondly, you train your brain. The main thing is to understand that the language requires constant daily practice.
- Learn poems. This point, like the previous one, trains our memory, and sometimes you can show off your intellect at a party. Those who don't like to learn poems can learn their favorite song. And remember that consistency is key.
- Read the minimum. Or maybe more, it all depends on your appetite. By the way, if you decide to read specialized literature, then within a year you can become an expert in your chosen field.
- Watch only. How do you know if a movie is good? Easy, ask your friends what their favorite movie is, or read reviews on the Internet before watching the movie. After doing this research, you can be 90% sure that the film is worth watching. Don't waste your time on stupid movies and TV shows. By the way, you can arrange to watch movies with friends on Fridays. 😉
- Start making sweets at home and completely eliminate store-bought baked goods.
- Pass a medical examination or simply make an appointment with the necessary doctors. Take care of your health, and it will thank you years later.
- . The ability to complain and feel like a victim is what you need to get rid of first. Of course, there is nothing wrong if you tell someone about your problems once. But when this is repeated constantly, it can ruin your positive aura and your friends will start avoiding you, so you need to start getting rid of this bad habit right now.
- (with vitamins and minerals) and stick to it. I don’t think it’s worth talking too much about the benefits of proper nutrition. The only thing I want to emphasize is that a planned menu will help you save time and money.
- Accustom yourself to a special regime (get up at 5-6 am, go to bed until 11 pm) Thanks to this mode, you will have a lot of extra time. After all, when the city wakes up, you have already done a lot of things.
- Say “I love you” every day. For yourself, those around you, your loved ones!
- Every month, plan who you need to meet this month. Don't forget old friends, even if you rarely see each other, call them, or even better, meet them.
- Plan a time when you can visit distant relatives. In case you rarely see them.
- Get to know your hometown as best you can. Cafes, exhibitions, buildings, secluded corners. Decide for yourself. Set aside a day once a month when you can explore your city.
- . When people complain about something, they don't value what they have now. And God sooner or later takes it away from them. So, start appreciating everything around you right now, without waiting for the new year.
- At least once a month, turn off your mobile phone for the whole day and devote the day to reflection.
- Learn to think at least once a week about ways to generate income (passive and active). Counting on retirement in our time is a very optimistic forecast. So, insure yourself and create passive income and save for the future yourself.
- Write your life story. Start writing a diary. If you read this article after the start of next year, then don't wait until next year to start. Start writing right now, everything that worries you motivates you. And don't forget to analyze every day.
- Take one characteristic photo per day. Memories are quickly erased, but if you can capture what was important to you on that day. You'll have something to remember later. Make a separate folder on your computer. And sign each photo in a special way. In addition, this task will teach you discipline.
- Learn all the capitals of the world. And make a plan of the places you want to see someday. Don't forget to explain why these particular places. Write a detailed description of each location. What places do you want to visit there? This will bring you closer to your goal.
- Make a list of 12 achievements for the year. It often happens that when you come to an interview, they ask you about your achievements. And you have nothing to answer. It seems like you’ve been running around all year like a squirrel in a wheel, but you can’t remember anything. Therefore, it is necessary to write everything down. Plan your achievements in advance. Think about the area in which you want to achieve something. And forward to achievements.
- Plan your budget(20% to save, 10% charity, 50% regular spending, 10% for entertainment)
- Create a personal budget. I think you have more than once discovered that the money has run out, and you still have to wait and wait until your paycheck, as if you didn’t buy anything, but the money has disappeared. Yes, they have such a property - to disappear. But you can take control of them. For this you need a personal budget. If anyone needs it, you can download the template .
- Buy things on sale. Save your budget. Usually in January and July you can buy things at the maximum discount.
- Get started. If you are not you, then who? We asked ourselves a question. Now start loving and pampering yourself.
- Stop putting things off for the future. This is probably one of the most difficult tasks for next year. But still doable. Try to do small things at once. You need to wash the frying pan, do it now, you need to finish the report, quickly get to work. Of course, if this is not a five-minute task, treat it like a game and do yourself an apartment cleaning project or a conservation project. And when the job is done, you will be proud of yourself, because you completed the whole project.
- Spend less than you earn. Living on credit is not living. Live within your means. Of course, there are force majeure events, but this happens only once or twice in a lifetime. If you want to spend more, find an opportunity to earn more.
- . Literally, mentally get rid of unnecessary thoughts. If you find it difficult to do this in your mind, write these thoughts down on paper and burn them. This ritual will help erase unnecessary thoughts from your memory. Don't rush to fill your brain with everything you see. Concentrate only on the necessary things.
- Learn to meditate. With our frantic pace of life, it is imperative to relax. The buzzword comes from yoga. If you don't have time to go to class. Sit in silence or turn on instrumental music and try to get all thoughts out of your head. Enjoy the silence. Learn to relax and distract yourself from the outside world.
- Limit social media to an hour a day. Better yet, give them up. I just can't do it. Sometimes it's very important to keep in touch with old friends who are abroad. But you need to limit your time; an hour is enough to answer messages and look through your feed.
- Forgive yourself for mistakes. Everyone can make a mistake. We learn from mistakes. Stop thinking about them. Otherwise you will live in the past.
- Learn to remain silent. I am a very sociable person by nature. It's hard for me to understand how people can remain silent when they walk together. But we need to learn this. Because Silence also brings people together and you won’t have time to say anything unnecessary.
- . There are many methods of concentration. I recommend reading the book by L. J. Palladino - Maximum Concentration. It is freely available on the Internet. Perhaps in this book you will find your own way to concentrate. So far I have found one way for myself - this is the Pomodoro principle (25 minutes of work, 5 minutes of rest)
- Stop going out in the sun without sunscreen. The sun is very dangerous for our skin. Take care of her.
- Feed your brain. In fact, there are now a lot of ways to develop our brain: games, crosswords, solving puzzles or logical problems.
- Surround yourself with successful people. The saying “Tell me who your friend is and I will tell you who you are” was not invented for nothing. Do you want to be successful people? Chat with people like you. And you won’t notice how you begin to change.
- Watch the speeches of famous speakers, study their habits and intonations. I really like the Internet channel http://www.ted.com/. Famous speakers share their discoveries. It is very educational and in English. Although there are Russian subtitles.
- Stop communicating with people who treat you badly. In fact, why communicate with people who do not value you. Relatives are an exception. But you can safely say goodbye to the rest.
- . This is probably one of my bad habits that I carefully fight. Try to finish every task to the end. Don't start a new book if you haven't finished reading the old one.
- Play boardgames. Winter is coming and it's the best time to spend time with friends.
- Call your parents more often. Better daily.
- Learn to see the good in people. This is the quality that is more valuable than money. Even though you are afraid of many people, this should not stop you from seeing something good in them. You can learn something from every person, but what exactly is your choice.
- Stop comparing yourself to others. You are you. And you will never become a different person. There is no need to compete with someone. Compare the results only with the past You. With what you were and what results you achieved.
- . This quality will be useful to you in many areas of life. While sitting on the subway, pay attention to details, or remember something along the way.
- Stop pouring out the ones you love. Let's admit it, everyone does this at every opportunity. For what? Unclear. Try to distract yourself from problems when you are around loved ones.
- Find a job you like. This is something everyone should do. Everyone has the right to a good job and to well-being and job satisfaction.
- Clean the apartment daily. In fact, this is difficult if you only dedicate 20 minutes a day to cleaning. Divide the apartment into zones. And clean one area every day.
- Find time to imagine. We are all children at heart, and it is very important for us to dream. Don't limit yourself to this. Fantasize.
- Focus on what you are really good at. This could become a new source of income.
- Get rid of clutter at home. If it's hard to throw everything away, give it to someone. The main thing is not to take it to the garage. It is designed for your Mercedes, not for storing rubbish.
- Get rid of the habit of replaying negative scenarios in your head. Don’t attract negativity, of course, it’s worth playing it safe, but you shouldn’t constantly think about it.
- Find a common interest with yours. Common things bring you closer together, make a common list with your significant other and gradually implement them.
- Learn to keep your word. If you want to gain respect among friends and colleagues, keep your word. If you can't do it, it's better to refuse.
- Introduce the 10 minute rule into your life. If you need to do something, but you have absolutely no desire, implement the 10-minute rule into your life. Dedicate at least 10 minutes a day to any task. After some time you will complete the task. Without making a huge effort. After all, 10 minutes fly by very quickly.
- Spend a weekend in another city or country.
- Have a professional photo session outdoors or in a beautiful studio.
- Green your apartment/house. After all, plants make a home more attractive and cozy.
- Plan your vacation in electronic form, make a list of things and necessary documents. Next year we will save time on planning.
- Pamper your body(massage, SPA salon, manicure, pedicure, etc.)
- Expand your social circle.
- Experiment with sex. Of course, if you are over 18 =)
- Try new entertainment(quest room or fear room, jump on a trampoline or something else.
- Help people in need. And it doesn’t matter what kind of help it is, charity or just moving a grandmother across the street. The main thing is a responsible attitude to business.
- Do something you never dared to do
- Learn to create something with your own hands.
- Surprise your loved one.
- Go camping with tents
- Spend your birthday in another country (or in the company of loved ones)
- Assemble a large puzzle (1000-3000 pieces). You are guaranteed employment for six months. 🙂
- Buy a diary for next year. I advise you to buy more than just a diary. And your diary. This is the one you will fill out. To do this, experiment for a year. If you abandon your diary after a week. This is not yours. Don't worry, look further.
- Prank your friends on April 1st
- Update your wardrobe and change your style.
- Go to football and cheer for your favorite team or just watch. This is an incredible release of emotions.
- Sign up for any training course from coursera.com or similar sites.
- Learn a new technology.
- Start creating passive income.
- Attend a conference in your specialty.
- Eat 5 kg of strawberries. 🙂 But seriously, take care of your nutrition and learn the principles of proper nutrition.
- Visit a new city in your country or abroad.
- Become an expert in one field
- Go out with friends to the camp site for the weekend
- Go skiing in winter and upgrade to a new ski suit.
- Ride a bike at least 100 kilometers. If you don't have a bike, then run. It's not that hard.
- Get into the habit of walking more often. Anywhere, any place you like. Try to go out into nature every weekend.
- Go mushroom picking.
- In June, go to the forest to pick strawberries.
- Make dandelion jam. Useful and reminiscent of childhood.
- Go to the cinema for a good big film.
- Create your website or blog.
- Invest 10% of income in training. A person needs to develop. Buy books, take courses, attend thematic conferences.
- Do something selfless. You saw a girl crying on the street, give her flowers. If someone can't get on the subway, pay for it.
- Take a trial yoga class.
- Go to KVN
- Stand in plank position for 5 minutes
In general, there is no end to things to do :) But everything can be overcome, the main thing is that there is a desire.
The first intimate intimacy will be remembered for a lifetime. Girls, as a rule, do not know how to behave during the first sex; perhaps they read a lot of information, they were given advice, but in the process itself, it is unlikely that she will remember some of the advice.
At what age can you have sex for the first time?
In different countries, the age threshold for marriage is different, therefore, the period when sexual activity can begin is automatically different. It follows from this that there is no physiological difference between people, it’s all about the social value system. In Russia, for a long time, there has been a bad attitude towards women who lost their virginity before marriage. This was considered a disgrace; such a girl could remain alone for the rest of her days and be considered a walker. As for men, premarital relations were not prohibited in any way. The question is, where is the justice? This is a stereotype that has entered modern times with a proud gait. After all, in many cases there is still condemnation of premarital relationships. On the other hand, the influence of Europe on our mentality and value system is very great. There is a noticeable tendency towards so-called civil marriages and marriages “by chance”, as well as towards open relationships. The change of generations leads to the fact that perhaps soon gender discrimination will exhaust itself, and we will all be equal in our rights. But is it worth looking in this direction? Why not equalize the rights of men and women without jeopardizing moral values? The question is not so simple.
How to have sex for the first time - basic mistakes
If you are ready to lose your virginity with your loved one, you need to know how to have sex for the first time, how to behave during first sex, and what not to do.
The main mistakes that are made during the first contact:
- Sexual contact occurs quickly or drags on for a long time.
- Experimenting with poses. To have sex for the first time, it is better to refrain from it, you need to choose the most comfortable position for you, as a rule, this is the classic “missionary” position, the “cowgirl” position, where the girl controls her movements, or the “spoon” position - in a lying position, when your partner is behind you.
- Bright light in the room. In bright lighting, a girl who is having sex for the first time will feel awkward and shy.
- Try different types of sex. It’s better to leave experiments for later and engage in the classic traditional version of intimacy.
- A short prelude.
Having familiarized yourself with the above mistakes, the likelihood that you will make them when you decide to have sex for the first time is now very small. But still, you need to prepare in advance and know how to behave during your first sex. By listening to the recommendations below, your first contact will be excellent and unforgettable:
You need to prepare yourself mentally, because the first time only happens once in a lifetime. Perhaps there will be mistakes and everything will not go as smoothly as it is shown in the movies, but if there is a sensual and gentle person nearby who supports you, everything will go wonderfully.
Before having sex for the first time, you need to put something on the bed, because if the hymen ruptures, blood may bleed. It should be noted that it happens that even when having sex a second time, blood may bleed. Here, the main thing is not to worry or worry, since there is a possibility that the hymen did not break the first time.
There is no need to prepare yourself for the fact that there should be an orgasm for the first time. It must be said that this happens very rarely. Therefore, if you fail to achieve it, do not be disappointed - this is the first time, and there is still a whole life ahead and a huge number of orgasms and pleasure.
Be calm and confident the first time you have sex. The young man needs to be warned that he will be the first, so do not be afraid to look inexperienced and ignorant. He will help you, and you will understand how to behave during your first sex.
When first making contact, kiss each other more. If you are shy, watch some explicit video before the act, which will set you up for active actions, and you will understand how to behave during your first sex.
Try not only to receive kisses and hugs, but also respond to them, touch your partner’s intimate places, at first this may confuse you, but then the movements will become confident, and your partner will get a lot of pleasure from this.
The foreplay during first sex should be long so that you become aroused and begin to produce the required amount of vaginal lubrication.
You must use a condom.
Many people are interested in the question of how a guy should insert his organ - slowly or quickly. It all depends on the partner's experience. If there is one, then you can enter abruptly, but if the guy is inexperienced, it is better to insert the penis slowly.
During sex, you need to talk about your feelings to your partner. If you are in pain, you should not be shy and endure, you need to tell him about it.
Knowing how to behave correctly during the first sex, you will avoid disappointment and will want to repeat intimacy with your boyfriend many more times, the main thing is that several hours should pass after the first intercourse.
