How a bride can survive her wedding day. How to survive your own wedding

Valeria Chumakova

28.06.2015 | 535

“I wanted it completely differently...” What to do if everything went wrong on your wedding day?

A wedding is a happy event in the life of two loving hearts. But is this event always truly happy? We are learning how to survive a wedding so that only wonderful memories of this day remain.

Live “here and now”

If it turns out that your day initially does not correspond to the format that you came up with for yourself, there is no need to be upset, not all is lost. To prevent your day from being remembered as something uncomfortable, uncomfortable and dull, look at the situation in a new way.

Find the positives, because they cannot help but exist! Adapt to the situation, enjoy the fact that you are a participant and the main culprit of this event, focus on the good that is in this day.

Do not forget that you need to live “here and now” as if it were the last time. Even if today, on your wedding day, many moments upset you - look at them with different eyes! Make this wedding the best moment in your life that you will remember with pleasure.

Any event can be repeated

Don't forget that you can re-plan your wedding day and celebrate it in a special way. After all, no one forbids you and your loved one to put on your wedding dresses the next day and go on a picnic, having fun taking pictures of each other! Or take everything you need on your honeymoon and enjoy your wedding day there.

Be mobile, be easy in your desires and remember that any event can be repeated by making it special.

Our memories are fickle

Our memories are selective and changeable. Do not forget that the human psyche is like this: memories of small negative events become dull over time. Therefore, after, for example, a month or a year, small incidents at the wedding will not be remembered in your memory, but the spoiled mood for the whole wedding day may well be fixed in your memory.

Therefore, try to take everything easier, let your mood remain on top, despite a small stain on the dress, a fight between guests or a failed first dance.

No need to worry about worries

I have a lot of examples when girls, remembering their wedding day, were no longer worried because of the incidents that happened at the wedding, but because of their experiences and spoiled mood during the celebration. After a while, they think with annoyance about why they paid so much attention to a soiled dress or a broken heel, when it was necessary to enjoy and enjoy a beautiful day.

So, no matter what, often remember the reason for the event: you started this wonderful event to say “yes” to your loved one, so protect yourself in advance from future unpleasant thoughts about the experience.

Breaking the pattern and laughter are the best helpers

Remembering the torn wedding dress, do you perceive the call to laugh at this incident as mockery? However, in most cases, it is laughter or a good joke that saves an unpleasant situation and transfers it from the category of “jamb” to the category of “interesting features.”

Forgot the moves in your first dance? Laugh and improvise! Let everyone appreciate your resourcefulness.

Another good course of action is to break the pattern, which means doing something that is not expected of you in a given situation. Imagine the amazement of the guests when, having spilled red wine on a dress, instead of frantically scrubbing it off, you pour this wine over the entire dress, making red stains, after which you joyfully run to dance in an embrace with your future husband! Who will now think that the first stain was an incident?

The example, of course, is too extravagant, but it is based on the real events of the wedding day of one happy couple!

I repeat: have fun! You're not at the Congress of Deputies, are you? Do everything possible to make you feel fun and comfortable and not a single incident could ruin your wonderful day.

Every girl dreams of a wedding since childhood. However, the approach of this day can lead to depression. Not only are you tired of preparing for this event, but now you are starting to worry about how everything will go - whether the groom will be late (and indeed whether he will change his mind), whether the battery on the photographer’s camera will run out, whether you will drop you ring, putting it on the groom's finger at the registry office. It’s so easy to drive yourself crazy and turn your own wedding into a nightmare.

Stop! You have been waiting for this day all your life, it should be the happiest in the world. What needs to be done for this?

First, you need to get your thoughts in order. You are the bride. This is your day and it will be the way you want it. Believe me, when you stand holding hands with your fiance in a beautiful dress, there will simply be no negative thoughts. You won't care about any little things. Then why load yourself with negative thoughts now? When we arrived at the registry office, we discovered that we had forgotten the champagne that was supposed to be opened at the registry office. It would seem that this is a nightmare!!! But I was so happy that I didn’t care who and how would solve this problem. Mom ran to the nearest store.

Secondly, get yourself in order. If you are planning a bachelorette party, hold it in advance, and devote the pre-wedding day to yourself to your loved one. Take a bath in foam and aromatic oils. Just lie down with your eyes closed and let your whole body and thoughts rest. Tidy up your facial skin by nourishing it with a mask. The body also needs care. Use a scrub. Don't forget about manicure and pedicure - you should look perfect at the wedding. And most importantly, go to bed early. If you feel that you won’t be able to sleep, drink warm milk with honey before bed. Before the wedding, you need to get enough sleep.

And most importantly, I’ll tell you about some little things that can ruin your mood.
. In the morning, try to have a good breakfast. Most likely, the piece will not go down your throat; you need to eat. You don’t want to faint from excitement and even from hunger! Besides, you'll have to drink champagne. And if you drink alcohol on an empty stomach, you will quickly get drunk, which should not be allowed at your own wedding (at least at the beginning of the day).
. If you have a full dress and a petticoat, it makes sense to carefully sew it to the dress at the bottom. When you lift your skirts while walking, the petticoat will stay in place and spoil the photos. There is no need to sew it on in advance - such a dress is inconvenient to store and put on. When you are already putting on the dress, have your mother sew it on with stitches in several places. In general, a petticoat brings a lot of trouble. Rehearse in advance how you will sit down, how to get into the car.

Don't try to pull the dress over your legs so as not to wrinkle your hair. You don’t remember the hairstyle, because the dress can be put on very carefully, considering that the witness will help you. But when putting a dress on over your legs, it can easily be torn. This kind of event is definitely undesirable.
. If the hairdresser offers to spray your hair with glitter hairspray, refuse. Glitter reflects off flashes and looks like dandruff in photos.
. Even if you think your shoes are very comfortable, you still need to break them in. No matter how comfortable the shoes are, they will definitely rub on the first day of wear. And also pay attention to the floor in the restaurant where you will have to dance. If there are tiles, then rub the soles of the shoes with sandpaper to prevent slipping.
. If you have gloves, check how the loops that fit on your finger are sewn. As a rule, they are sewn very weakly and can easily come off. In addition, check how all sorts of beads and rhinestones are attached to the dress itself, on the garter, on the tiara.

You need to take a lot of food for a walk. So many. All guests after the registry office will be hungry, while you are taking pictures, they will eat. By the way, I note that you will want to eat yourself - the most exciting moment is behind you!
. Pack a handbag for the witness (in case she doesn’t think of doing it herself): colorless nail polish (if the stocking breaks), white thread with a needle (if something suddenly breaks), pills (for the head, stomach), spare hairpins and bobby pins (suddenly your hairstyle starts to fall apart), handkerchiefs - you will definitely shed a tear in the registry office (it’s very touching!)
. If you want to be sprinkled when leaving the registry office, collect the “sprinkles” yourself. Do not take coins under any circumstances. No matter how you tell your guests to throw them at their feet, there will still be a “smart guy” who will throw them up. And this, by the way, is painful and unpleasant. Rose petals (we picked rose hips - they are brighter and more economical))), confetti (they are now sold in wedding stores) and rice will do. After sprinkling, let the witness remove all this from your head. In general, warn the witness in advance so that she monitors your appearance (removing glitter from your face, straightening your veil and dress, making sure that the clasps of your jewelry do not move into a visible place).

Remember that you are being photographed all the time from all sides. So keep your posture and don't make faces to avoid funny photos.

Of course, there are many more nuances and it’s impossible to think through everything. But all these little things will fade into the background, because on this day you will be the happiest!

They worried, chose, planned, prepared. And then they shared their own experiences with us. What to take with you if you are having a wedding on a tram. How to load guests. Who to trust with wedding planning. And who to pay attention to on an important day. The brides themselves told us about all this in 2015 when they shared stories about their beautiful holidays.

We present to you the most useful collection of advice from those who became happy spouses in the past year. Let these important and necessary words from former brides become your guide to the world of preparing for your own celebration.

Based on my own experience, I would like to advise you not to take on all the wedding chores yourself, but to trust a professional and master of his craft - a wedding planner. This person is competent in all issues, nuances and subtleties of the wedding industry. Just choose a reliable steward and trust him. Let yourself be a real bride!

I would also like to advise you to be extremely responsible when choosing a photographer. After all, your wedding photographs and the memories that will remain with you in the future from your wedding day depend on him, on his professionalism.

Dear brides, I want to wish you a wonderful magical wedding, which everyone has probably dreamed of since childhood! Soak up every day leading up to your wedding and don't let negative emotions and anxiety take over you. The main thing you have already done is to find each other! Be happy girls!

Never get upset or react to circumstances that happen outside of your plans. This is YOUR day, it will one way or another go down in the history of the newly-made family and turn into a pleasant memory, regardless of what happened. Therefore, do not spoil your memories with negative emotions! Take everything positively and with humor.

Dear girls, I would like to advise you not to be upset if the budget for your planned wedding is small.

You can make any wedding yourself, even using improvised means. The main thing to understand is that this is your day. Good mood, loved one and the happiest day of your life with him.

Every girl has a picture of her dream wedding in her head. You need to trust yourself, your thoughts and create what you want. And then on this wonderful day - your wedding day - nothing will upset you, but everything will only please you, and you will receive unforgettable impressions and emotions.

Dear brides, the most important thing is not to worry! This is your day, your holiday, and you are the most beautiful, the happiest! You are surrounded by only loving people, and even if things don't go according to plan, laugh and smile. You will have time for everything and it doesn’t matter when the preparation begins: in a year, in six months or in 2 months. :)

We got everything mixed up during the dance at the wedding, but no one knew it, everyone thought it was the right thing to do.
We improvised, laughed, and all the guests began to clap for us! I wish every bride to relax, smile and remember: this is YOUR day and on this day you are the QUEEN, and no one and nothing will ruin it!

Who said getting married was fun?! A wedding is always a hassle, worry and stress! And as you know, stress causes hair loss. Be prepared for the fact that it won't work out perfectly. In the morning you will be late for the registry office, your hair will fall apart, your shoes will rub, the tables in the restaurant will be placed incorrectly, the presenter will mix up the names of your parents, and the cake is absolutely terrible, scary to watch! I'm joking, of course, but... Girls, my advice is to relax and have fun. Guests won’t even notice these little things, but you will remember them with laughter.

When planning your wedding day, think first of all about yourself, and not about what your relatives, parents or friends will say. This is just your holiday! And you decide what it will be like. The main thing is that the groom supports any of your crazy ideas. ;)

First of all, choose a good manager for your wedding who understands what you want, and resolve all organizational issues with him. Don’t start by searching for a photographer or presenter on your own and then go to the organizer with all this. After all, he knows the wedding market much better than you and will help you save money by explaining what you can refuse at your wedding and what you shouldn’t forget about.

And if you want a large-scale, beautiful holiday, start it 6-8 months in advance. We barely managed to prepare our celebration on time. Therefore, to ensure everything is perfect, plan the holiday in advance.

If you decide to take a wedding ride on a tram, do not forget about the music, which is not provided in the carriage. There are two options here: either take vocal guests, or a portable tape recorder. We had a full “ammunition” with us - and that’s why the trip turned out to be fun and exciting!

Don’t take guests with you on a photo walk - let them go to the restaurant or cafe where the banquet is scheduled and wait for you there! Our friends went with us, but in the end they got cold, hungry, bored and disrupted our shooting, so we have few photos left about that memorable day.

Remember one thing: this is YOUR day, YOUR holiday! He should make you two happy. Stick to the details. Only you and no one else knows what will bring you happiness and a smile. You can and should listen to the advice of parents, brothers, sisters, girlfriends, friends, organizers. But you need to feel and understand what of what is said and proposed will help improve your evening, and what is said simply out of a desire to do it your own way.

Share the responsibilities of pre-wedding preparation with your loved ones and friends. Trust them with even minor tasks, but believe me, they will greatly relieve your time. I understand that you want to control everything yourself and take part, but with this situation, there will be no strength left for the wedding. And also - don’t swear or quarrel over little things! Get them out of your head. If something doesn’t work out, it means it’s not needed, and certainly not worth your nerves. Take pleasure in everything that happens before, during and after - this is a unique atmosphere!

Remember: together you are strong! Don’t be afraid to take the preparation into your own hands, do everything together, in the evenings, it’s very romantic and leaves wonderful memories. Decorating and organizing your holiday with your own hands is not only exciting, but economical. The atmosphere of the event becomes more comfortable!

Under no circumstances do you get upset or nervous, and certainly don’t give up if you suddenly, for example, didn’t match the napkins to the curtains. Remember that you love, are loved and will get married anyway. Then this day will be the brightest, and you will be the happiest couple on earth!

There is no need to strive to register your marriage at the registry office on a strictly designated day. Standing in crazy lines and then rushing to the restaurant after 15 minutes of a superficial ceremony?!? Another thing is on-site registration. Everything happens at the time and place that you choose. Registration can last as long as you like, and after it you don’t have to run for a walk and to a restaurant. You depend only on your desires.

I also advise brides to relax and trust the professionals. No matter how creative a couple you are, it is unlikely that you will be able to form a single whole out of your cool ideas. Professionals know better, more, and they will help you arrange your wedding down to the smallest detail.

Do not save on memories, on a photographer and a videographer - this is for life. And also think over your image not only in terms of beauty, but also comfort. Photos and videos also depend on this. It is unlikely that you will show your grandchildren with pride a tense, twisted face from rubbed legs, a tight babylon on your head and a tight dress in the heat. :)

The main thing is to know how you see your holiday, what you expect from this day, and with whom you want to share your celebration.

I wish everyone strength and patience in preparation, but remember that the more effort is invested in preparation, the more pleasant and carefree your holiday will be!

Contact a professional in your field. In fact, they will take on a gigantic amount of work and save, first of all, your nerves. :)

Let this day be unforgettable! Be happy, and don’t bother yourself with absolutely nothing or anyone other than your husband. ;)

I advise you to make your wedding the way you envision it in your mind. You should not include in the celebration such elements that you would not like to see, but they are advised to you. For what? It's your day! You need to live it in such a way that you can only remember it later with a smile.

I wish the brides not to be afraid of anything, to be creative and think over their wedding to the smallest detail. Bring your part to the celebration, something that will distinguish your holiday from many others. Now there are so many forums, online publications that can lead to some thought or idea. Don't be afraid to implement them!

New Year is the time to implement new wedding ideas. Let your celebration become no less a bright event than every wedding that happened in 2015. Take advice from former brides, make your fantasies come true and don’t forget to share the story of your own holiday with those who are just thinking about it!

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Wedding day is always very emotional. I have seen many couples, and even the most seemingly strong people who have seen a lot of things are still worried that day. Don't be afraid of tears on this day, it's normal.

Naturally, all sorts of unpredictable moments can occur on this day.

To minimize the likelihood of such unpredictable moments, involve experienced professionals in your wedding.

In more than 12 years that I have been working in wedding photography, I have seen almost everything, so you can rely on me and my team.

I'll write some general tips below, but every wedding is different. Situations are also different, I can’t describe all the experience in this short article.

At the stage of preparation for the wedding

Make sure that:

• The wedding day was planned correctly. This is the basis for a normal and calm wedding. And I am ready to help you with this completely free of charge. We will discuss all the details along the route, if necessary, I am ready to pick up already proven decorators, florists, a presenter, etc.
• all guests and wedding services knew the wedding route and phone number (not yours, but a trusted person on the wedding day), in case someone got lost
• everyone present at the wedding knew where they needed to be and what their role was
• rings, documents, money, etc., have been entrusted to a responsible person, and always check them when leaving the house
• you should have a small set of "important things" for the bride, cosmetics, pins, hair clips, hairspray, etc., ballet flats so that your feet can rest from wedding shoes
• Be sure to arrange a rehearsal with your makeup artist and hairdresser. So that you can already imagine the wedding image at the rehearsal.
• Write out the phone numbers of all contractors on a separate piece of paper and put it in the breast pocket of your jacket. It will be much easier for you to find the phone you need if necessary.
• Be sure to try on the dress at home in advance, with your mother or friend, so that you understand how it laces.
  I or a person from my team will certainly help you, but it’s better if you try it yourself in advance
• You had sandwiches, pies and water ready for your walk. Make them the day before, not on your wedding day.

How to stay calm on your wedding day.

• Get a good night's sleep because a tired person is more emotional. Therefore, the day before, plan everything so that by 9 pm everything is ready and you can already start relaxing.
• Despite getting up early, you need to have breakfast, ideally in time before the makeup artist arrives.
• Try to follow the plan that you made in advance; if it is drawn up correctly, then everything will go easily. Even if some difficulties arise, I know how to solve them and will definitely help you.

Unfortunately, it happens that relatives are not always happy with everything at your wedding. You don't have to make everyone happy, so focus on each other. It's your family's birthday. Those for whom this is valuable will understand you and will not express their dissatisfaction. If something really goes wrong with the guests, just retire with your husband for 15-20 minutes. Our team consists of experienced presenters who will try to turn everything around like a slight misunderstanding.

Try to look positively at some things on your wedding day, but I will try to help you with this. After all, as a photographer, I am no less interested in your good mood, and cheerful and beautiful photographs.