A terrible misconception. Eight misconceptions of a married woman - Irzeis - LJ What is a safe dosage of alcohol

Late in the evening, a tall, thin woman of forty-five years old casually lounged on the sofa at home.

Maria was tired after a hard day at work. She lazily pressed the button on the remote control, switching the channel over and over again. There was absolutely nothing to watch on TV. She was bored. Finally, Maria chose some talk show.

Remembering that she had a TV program, the woman went to the TV and squatted down. The program was in the cabinet under the TV.

Suddenly, someone’s strong hand covered her mouth, lifted her to her feet and pulled her back to the sofa. The woman was very scared. When they took a few steps back together, she saw in front of her a tall man in a mask, who pointed a large gun in her direction. Her eyes widened in horror. Maria stared in shock at the huge barrel of the black pistol.

Don't kill! - the woman squeaked pitifully.

Shut up, bitch! - a rough male voice whispered in her ear.

Do what they tell you, and you won’t get hurt,” said the tall man with a pistol, threateningly poking the barrel of the pistol directly into his forehead, “or else...

Maria, frightened, shook her head affirmatively. The man holding the woman sat on the sofa, pulling her with him. Out of the corner of her eye she saw that he was of considerable build. A third uninvited guest of thin build appeared in the room with a pistol in his hand.

The men spread the lady's legs to the sides and pressed them to the sofa. No matter how hard Maria tried to bring them together, she could not do this. While the thin rapist threateningly pointed a gun at her, the tall man climbed under her skirt and kneaded her crotch with pleasure. Then he stuck the gun in there and pointed it between the legs of the indignant woman.

Another short stranger appeared in the room. He nodded his head, and the tall man went out with him. The two remaining men put the frightened woman on the sofa. They lifted her T-shirt, exposing her breasts. The big man still pressed his hand to her mouth, not allowing Maria to say anything, his other hand caressed her right breast. A skinny man was fiddling with his left breast and crotch.

On the second floor, an unsuspecting girl of about twenty was lying on the bed. This was Mary's daughter. She was reading a book and did not notice that the door silently opened and two men ran into the room. One of them grabbed the girl by the legs and pulled her towards him. She squealed and kicked her legs. The second man immediately covered her mouth. He pointed a pistol at the frightened girl, indicating with a gesture that she needed to shut up. She nodded her head. A short man, grabbing the young lady by the hair, pulled her to the floor and pulled her so sharply towards the exit of the room that her short skirt rode up, exposing her snow-white panties.

The short man jerked the girl to her feet, covered her mouth and dragged her into the room with the TV on the first floor.

Seeing her daughter, the mother twitched and tried to shout something, but the rapists shut her mouth, without stopping caressing her small breasts.

Mother and daughter were placed next to each other. They covered their mouths, preventing them from screaming. The men put their hands behind their backs. Having taken out the tape, they began to wrap the ladies' hands.

The tall man reached under the girl’s T-shirt with one hand and kneaded her breasts, and with the other tried to get into her panties. A skinny man kept up with him, rubbing Maria's breasts. The girl tried to turn away and crawl to the side as far as possible, but she was returned to her place.

The men quickly took off their light jackets. Having unzipped their pants, they took out their penises. The skinny man also took out an erect phallus. Grabbing the woman by the hair, he placed her on his machine and fucked her in the mouth. The tall man also inserted the phallus into the girl’s mouth, who began to suck it, wrapping her lips around it. The man groaned with pleasure.

“Bastards,” Maria managed to shout angrily when the skinny man tore her head away from his penis and poked his head into his friend’s penis.

Suck it, bitch! - the skinny man ordered imperiously.

Otherwise I'll shoot you! - his friend added, poking her with a pistol.

Put it in your mouth right up to your tonsils!

Suck and look at me, little slut.

The tall man continued to fuck the girl in the mouth. Having dispersed, he grabbed her by the hair and began to impale her on his penis. His friend stood nearby and jerked his penis while waiting for his turn.

The big man grabbed the woman by the hair and actively pushed her head onto his penis. His friend got tired of waiting his turn, and he stuffed his penis into the lady’s mouth, but the big man did not approve of his friend’s idea. He took out his penis and forced Maria to alternately suck one penis and then the other. The woman's head, against her will, quickly moved between the penises. Their comrades did the same with the girl, forcing her to suck first one member and then the other.

Realizing that the men were not going to kill them, the ladies calmed down.

The tall man sat down on the floor and, putting his hand under her skirt, began to caress the girl’s crotch. Having been satisfied with oral sex, they first dragged the woman, and after her, her daughter onto a nearby sofa. Maria was put on her knees, her face pointed at the man’s penis sitting on the sofa. The daughter was placed on the legs of a tall man.

The big man pointed the pistol in Maria’s face with one hand, and with the other, he stuck his penis in her mouth. His friend lifted up the woman’s skirt and with pleasure tore her tights at the bottom, and then her thin panties. He tore the panties to shreds and threw the rest to the side. Having torn the tights, he exposed a woman's shaved crotch, which he immediately began to caress, stroking it with his fingers and uncensoredly admiring it.

At this time, my daughter’s skirt was also lifted. A short man cut the thin fabric with a knife and tore off the girl’s panties, exposing her crotch with a small thin strip of curly hair. His friend spread the legs of the girl wide, who tried to bring them together, but the men did not let her do it.

While the men were struggling with the obstinate girl, the skinny man was fucking her mother with his finger, first putting his finger in the vagina, and then in the anus. His friend forced him to suck his penis, leaning back on the sofa, but continuing to control Maria’s head. The room was filled with smacking sounds, exclamations and moans of the rapists.

The short man lifted the girl’s body, and then lowered her onto the tall man’s penis. The penis easily penetrated the girl's vagina. The short man inserted his penis into the girl’s mouth and actively fucked her.

The skinny man squatted down, spreading his legs wide, drove his penis into the vagina, taking possession of the moaning woman. Her moans were drowned out from time to time by piercing girlish moans and male roars.

A few minutes later the girl was brought to her knees. One man put his penis in her mouth, the other fucked her in the vagina, sharply moving his butt. The girl screamed. The men groaned along with the ladies. For several minutes they zealously fucked mother and daughter. Then the skinny man swapped places with the short man, which served as a signal for the men sitting on the sofa to also switch places. Satisfied male voices, moans and female sobs were heard again. The men continued to diligently have ladies. They held Mary by turning her over on her back and spreading her legs wide to the side.

Having placed the woman on her knees, the rapist carefully penetrated the anus. Gradually he increased the pace. Another rapist, grabbing the lady by the hair, carefully pushed her head onto his penis. The daughter stood in the same position as her mother. One guy roughly fucked her in the ass, and the other forced her to suck his dick. Several minutes passed.

Roughly grabbing mother and daughter by the hair, they were forced to their knees in the center of the room. One by one, the men came on the ladies’ faces, splashing them with sperm. After which they threw him on the floor.

Did you understand, Milkova, that it’s better to pay the debt and sleep in peace? - asked the eldest of the collectors, buttoning his pants.

Got it! - the woman answered dully.

If you don’t pay, we’ll come to you next week! - another collector finally threatened her.

Milkova remained silent. The collectors have left. The woman with difficulty removed the tape from her hands, then helped free her daughter’s hands, who was surprised to see that her mother was smiling. The woman actually smiled wider and wider and looked very pleased. She was perfectly aware that she looked very unattractive, like her daughter, who took after her mother. Neither the mother nor the daughter had a permanent sexual partner. “Finally, my daughter and I will have regular sex,” the woman thought with pleasure. - “I won’t repay the debt for anything!”

It has long been no longer accepted to argue that alcoholism is a disease. Narcologists have conveyed this fact to everyone over the years. At the same time, everyone also understands that people do not become alcoholics instantly. Modern scientists are puzzled by the question of the transformation of a person who considers himself a moderate drinker into a habitual, heavy drinker who is unable to stop.

Treatment of alcoholism is meaningless if the patient himself is not aware of his intemperance. However, the problem begins much earlier than many people think. When the “soul asks” for a hangover and other serious consequences appear, this already means the very “height” of the disease. So where is that line, that safe dose of alcohol, if it exists at all?

The Myth of Moderate Drinkers

We are designed in such a way that we often look for excuses for ourselves and do not like to admit our mistakes and shortcomings. Approximately every third Russian considers himself a moderate drinker. Drinking 2-3 bottles of beer a couple of times a week is common for many. On the weekend, congratulating someone on their birthday or celebrating another holiday and at the same time having a little too much is common and not at all scary.

The world's leading narcologists unanimously declare that a number of misconceptions contribute to the development of alcoholism. The most dangerous of them is the belief in moderate drinking. By the way, even former alcoholics themselves echo the scientists. According to them, moderation in this matter is nothing more than an illusion and self-deception.

Who is considered a moderate drinker?

Until recently, those who consumed 150-400 ml of “fire water” per month were considered moderate drinkers. The range, as you can see, is very wide. However, the line between this category and drinkers is systematically incredibly arbitrary and illusory. It's all about the evaluation criteria, and they differ for all researchers.

Many people drink “a little bit” so as not to stand out from the group or to respect a friend. And when the day comes to increase the dose “a little bit”, it’s difficult to say. But only narcologists know that it often occurs. At the same time, everyone knocks on their chest and claims that they know their limits. Is it even possible to talk about it in the case of a dangerous and harmful substance?

What is a safe dosage of alcohol?

It is natural for a person to be sober and healthy. You can eat your favorite foods in moderation, even if the benefits of some of them are controversial. But it is impossible to poison oneself with poison “culturally” and “within reasonable limits.”

Lately, calls have been heard from many platforms to learn to drink wisely. False researchers even point to the positive role of drinking in the professional sphere. Like, a couple of glasses a day - and you are guaranteed success in life. If you listen to them, it turns out that you need to drink in moderation so as not to become an alcoholic.

However, the absurdity of such statements is obvious. The very fact that “moderate drinkers” find pleasure in a glass already contains the basis of addiction. The safe dose of alcohol is zero.

The editors thank the specialists of the AlkoMed medical center for their assistance in preparing the material.

Sooner or later, every person falls into the trap of his own delusions. This inevitably reduces the quality of life and leads to disappointment. Married women have their own myths.

And all representatives of the fairer sex have erroneous judgments - alas! - almost identical.

Misconception number one: I must get married before 25. In recent years, the time frame has expanded somewhat. Emancipated girls make a career, succeed in social or political life, and only then start a family. But the fact remains: in order not to look like a black sheep in the eyes of others, a woman needs a husband - a kind of guarantor of well-being and success.

Most women cope well without a permanent life partner. However, the reluctance to appear “flawed”, the fear of loneliness, forces them to enter into a marriage. Thanks to the same feelings, married ladies do not get divorced. Sometimes the situation is complicated by a fear of change (you can’t raise children without a father, I don’t earn enough), and an excuse for our own inadequacy (we live so poorly because our husband is bad). Otherwise, this misconception can be formulated as “every woman should have a husband.”

Misconception two: He loves me, and when we get married, he will definitely change. A statement that is very vaguely related to reality. Marriage needs to be worked on continuously. When the basic views of partners on life together are the same, a strong family is created. If a union is concluded out of blind love, over time the passion cools down and is replaced by mutual disappointment. It is impossible to radically change the character, natural inclinations of a person, and the costs of his upbringing. In other words, don’t expect big earnings from a lazy person. Do not expect that over time the Don Juan will appreciate the warmth of the hearth. The partner will change only when he himself wants to do it. And certainly not for your sake.

Misconception three: He loves me, which means he will love my child too. In fact, men are often jealous of their wives even towards their own children. Especially if they don’t receive enough attention from their spouse. Do you want your husband to get along with his daughter or son? Surround him with warmth and care, make him the center of your home world. Do you have children other than your current husband? Here you will inevitably have to become a diplomat. Don't demand big sacrifices from your spouse. An even, good relationship is enough. Distribute attention equally among all family members. Solve your children's problems yourself.

Misconception four: my husband loves me for who I am. Men are polygamous by nature. Only moral principles and morality keep them from betraying. A stamp in your passport does not relieve you of the responsibility to take care of your appearance. Do you walk around in front of your husband in a torn robe? Get ready for the fact that sooner or later he will become interested in another woman. The risk increases significantly with the number of years lived together. Change, be new, unexpected, unpredictable, maintain interest in yourself. Married life is not a reason to relax.

The fifth misconception: My husband understands me better than anyone else. A statement that is practically untrue. Absolute understanding between two different people is impossible by definition. Moreover, between a woman and a man, which is explained by their psychological characteristics. The wife needs an interlocutor, a “vest” in which to cry, and the husband perceives his wife’s verbose outpourings as a guide to action. Just which one? Can the head of the family resolve your quarrel with your friend? Need help choosing a holiday outfit? However, every day a man listens to his other half’s verbose discussions on empty topics. As a result, he sums up such lengthy monologues, expressing to his friends his opinion about his wife succinctly and briefly: “she blew my mind.”

Another manifestation of delusion is endless worries about one’s own appearance. Insecure women tend to share doubts about their attractiveness with their husbands. For the first time, your spouse will support you. For the thousand and first time, he will listen to your words. And then he himself will believe in your imaginary shortcomings. Don't want problems? Be beyond the competition!

Misconception six: If you suffer for a long time, something will work out. Every day, thousands of women start drinking their other half. The smartest wives understand that such measures are unlikely to achieve giving up tomorrow's fishing or meeting with friends, large earnings or fidelity. But they act according to the rules. By force of habit. Grumbling, quarrels and scandals can destroy the strongest marriage or significantly undermine it. Don't be direct in your demands. The best way to get what you want from a man: flatter him and be cunning like a woman.

The seventh misconception: he promised to stop drinking, so he will do so.“I can’t leave him.” “When he doesn’t drink, he’s good.” “Such a family is better than no other.” Behind these statements lies a serious illness - codependency. Women leave their children and interesting jobs in order to save their husband, an alcoholic or drug addict. They have endured thefts and beatings for many years. Why? Because they don’t want to look bad in the eyes of others. Because they like the role of the victim. Because they are afraid of changes in their own lives. If your spouse has been drinking for a long time, consult a psychologist. Perhaps it is not him who needs to be saved, but you.

Misconception eight: fleeting hobbies will only strengthen marriage. There is no talk of any full-fledged union if cheating has become commonplace for spouses. According to statistics, young women who have fun on the side become the initiators of divorce. Wives who have lived with their husbands for more than 15 years continue to cheat, but do not divorce - in the name of children and jointly acquired property. However, they all note a decrease in the quality of relationships and communication with their spouse.

So, only you can make a choice: remain captive of your own delusions or fight for well-being in your marriage, avoiding common mistakes. The second path is more difficult, but more promising. It will allow you to improve your relationship with your husband and achieve peace and harmony in the family.