A fatal mistake that parents should never make. A fatal mistake by parents that should never be made by Leah, the ball head of the stop center, a threat

Parents, teach your children how to avoid becoming a victim of a scammer, a random drunken passerby or a kidnapper. Liya Sharova, head of the Stop Threat School of Security, tells Letidor how to do this.

Leah herself first thought about child safety when her daughter grew up and began going to school without adults. “Until the age of 13, my daughter Dasha was never alone on the street,” says Leah, “she always walked to school hand-in-hand.” The limit of her independence was limited to trips to the grocery store in the neighboring house. But as a teenager, she had to cover this short distance herself – a couple of metro stations plus a 10-minute walk to school. From the first day of her independent hikes, I began to experience all kinds of fears on the topic “what if suddenly...”.

I was afraid that she might be deceived and go help someone (especially to save some kitten or chick). She was afraid that, being absent-minded, she would not pay attention if someone was following her. And most importantly, Dasha is insecure, shy, and timid by nature. Therefore, I understood that if something happened - someone would pester her, grab her by the hand, try to drag her into the car - she might simply not scream, not run, or be able to attract the attention of passers-by.

There are many such children. In a dangerous situation, they would rather cry and become confused than scream loudly or begin to actively struggle. I understood that without real practice, without all these “Help!” have not been worked out a hundred times, nothing will work, and you need to develop certain rules for reacting to outsiders.

Practice is needed The fact is that a child should not distinguish between a good and harmless stranger and a pedophile in disguise. The reaction to any adult who tries to talk to someone else's child should be the same - period. Even if a polite grandfather really needs help, let him turn to a healthy man, not a teenage girl. And such upbringing does not make our children either heartless or distrustful in general. Most often, parents of younger schoolchildren come to us for safety courses. And the problems are the same: gullible children instantly come into contact with strangers, they are easily deceived, they are often either too shy to clearly fight back, or are too self-confident. For example, a child from elementary school believes that he can “hit it properly.” I believe that the main help is needed precisely for those children who have begun to move independently around the city, as well as for those who have been heavily involved in social networks for a long time (children over 10 years old). Parents themselves also know very little and practically do not know how to talk correctly about safety. I was the same: “Don’t go anywhere with strangers! If someone approaches, immediately scream and run away! If someone writes something suspicious on the Internet, tell me right away,” etc. The children nod, but remain just as helpless in practice. In safety courses, we teach how not to leave with a stranger, how to scream and run away if there is danger, how to ask for help, how to know what to do in case of any problem on social networks, how to avoid rape, how to say “no” and why You can’t, for example, drink from a stretched can of juice. How anyone can become an alcoholic and what to do if local gopniks take your money and phone. All these dangers exist in every city, no one is immune from them, so it is better if children clearly know what and how to do in these cases. A car seat will save a child in an accident! How to choose the best? ### Shocking experiments Famous pranker Joey Salads conducted an experiment showing parents how a stranger can easily gain the trust of a child and kidnap him. Joey approached the children with a cute puppy, let him pet him and promised to show him other cute animals, and literally a minute later he took the baby away from the playground. Before approaching each child, Joey sat down with the parents, explained the essence of the experiment, and only after making sure that they did not mind, he got down to business. The parents were sure that their child would not talk to a stranger, much less leave with him, but that’s not what happened!

Another experiment. The abduction of a teenager is staged. The child tries to call for help, but people react differently...

**Parental mistakes** I see that parents often make the same mistakes when trying to teach their child. First of all, you can't criticize. Show your child that you will always help him, even when the situation is difficult. For clarity, I will tell you this situation. Our training ends, the child, inspired and joyful, runs out of the classroom and runs into his mother. Mom listened to the entire training in the next room and is shocked that her son believes, for example, that he can easily identify a criminal by “a black mask and a sly look” or does not shout loudly enough “Help! I do not know this person!". As a result, this mother grabs her son’s hand and hisses: “Now we’ll be training on the way home!” Don’t you understand that…” That’s it. The mood is dead. I understand that the guy is waiting for half an hour of nervous explanations and reproaches, oohs and ahs, angry (from fear) instructions and threats. Therefore, the first advice to parents: understand that there is nothing in common between your emotions and the actual effectiveness of your teaching. None of your usual ways of “teaching” work. On the contrary, all this will work against you. And when a child encounters, for example, a message from a pedophile on VKontakte, or bullying online, or a voyeur on the street, he simply won’t tell you, because he knows exactly what will happen next: prohibitions, hysterics, nervous conversations. The second tip is to learn more about safety and go to trainings. It definitely won't be superfluous. The third tip is to be friends. Especially on social networks. From the very beginning, as soon as your child has created a page for himself, gain his trust in the virtual space. Send each other idiotic pictures and demotivators, do not criticize his friends and hobbies, even if you see obscene language there. Take the time to understand the specifics of the communities in which the child is a member. Stop being an enemy of the Internet, don’t panic about “desocialization,” don’t try to “drag” you into the real world. This is simply a new reality of their communication, their friendship, their love, their exchange of information. Your task is to be the first to know about everything. And this is a very difficult task, sometimes requiring (I know from my own experience) hellish patience and endurance. A child is alone at home or in the yard: 10 safety rules ### **When should you start talking to children about safety?** From about three years old, a child needs to start talking about what adults are and what they are. That only their own people can pat you on the head or kiss you. It is necessary to say that there is information that cannot be told to strangers. And even that good and evil do not always seem so obvious, and a polite grandfather does not mean kind and good, even if he gives candy, a toy and invites you to watch cartoons at his home. Here's what children need to know, based on their age: - First, you can take a security test and find out how vulnerable your child is to scammers and kidnappers" (for children 7-12 years old) http://stop-ugroza.ru/testq / . - Kindergarten: a clear concept of “circles of trust”: family/friends/acquaintances/social workers/strangers. Preschool children trust all the adults they know, all the “kind and polite” people, all the “elderly” (about forty years old, for example), and at the same time all the policemen, firefighters, security guards, doctors, and so on. - A five-year-old kindergartener must know at least two phone numbers by heart. Know how to respond to anyone (every stranger) who speaks to him on the street. Know what to shout if someone tries to take him away. What to do if you are lost or lost. Which outsider is best to approach for help and what to say. Where to run if you need help. Do not open the door or answer the phone. - In addition to this knowledge, younger schoolchildren must be able to use their two main weapons: fast legs and a loud voice. It is important that they do not hesitate to do this. They need to know exactly what to do if a stranger talks to them in the hallway or touches them. Schoolchildren should already know at least 30 tricks of kidnappers and be able to react unambiguously to strangers, regardless of the pretext with which they are approached. They also need to understand the extent of their capabilities (almost all 10-year-old boys at trainings proudly declare that they are ready to “smack a bandit so hard that he flies off”), understand that the criminal is not a gloomy guy in black (they really answer that way years ago) up to 11-12), and do not hesitate to behave “like a fool” in case of danger (for example, fall to the ground if you are being dragged, kick the criminal and scream at the top of your voice). - Teenagers should be prepared for possible problems with peers, for robbery by gopniks on the street (for example, they should understand that they do not need to fight for their mobile phone and wallet with a thousand rubles). They must be able to say “No” and understand that saying “No, I don’t want to” is very cool. They must know by heart the three “don’ts” when communicating with unfamiliar people: do not get into the car, do not go to visit people, do not eat or drink anything that is offered to you. - And, of course, they must understand what cyberbullying is on the Internet. They must be able to check each virtual interlocutor “for reality” in a minute. They should know what to do with problems on the Internet, even if parents understand absolutely nothing about it. - School graduates should, among other things, know exactly the mechanism of chemical dependence and everything related to alcoholism and drug addiction. Girls should not only understand the danger of rape, but also be able to tell a guy off on the street, escape from pestering company, and even, perhaps, help themselves in situations where there is nowhere to wait for help.

How to talk to children about safety

Ask, but don't instruct. Questions, for example, could be: “How can you tell which adults might be dangerous and which ones? – No?".

Do not comment or judge children's answers, whatever they may be. Children perceive information more easily when they are asked about something, rather than forced to “listen carefully.” And only after hearing in detail exactly how the child imagines the dangers and methods of protection, gently, friendly and cheerfully correct.

Try to play into the situation. Shout together on the street (yes, it can be very scary to start screaming, both for a child and for an adult). It is not enough to list (even a hundred times) what is dangerous and what should not be done. We need to show children how to act step by step in each specific situation. Parents learn some passwords because they read a fashionable article, but do not understand that if something happens to them in reality, for example, if mom gets hit by a car, she will not have time to pass this password on to whoever is nearby at that moment. And isn’t it easier to clearly explain to every child once and for all that in any unforeseen situation, “either your grandmother, or Aunt Tanya, or Uncle Vova will come to pick you up at school.” Those people whom the child knows well personally. And memorize their phone numbers so that the child can always call them himself in any dangerous situation. Then all strangers will lose the opportunity to pretend to be mom's colleague or dad's cousin.

Draw a map of the route to school. Mark dangerous and safe places. Walk this path together, paying special attention to all the stores where you can run to ask for help and call home from a safe place. And also mark all garages and markets, parks and deserted courtyards, construction sites and parking lots that need to be avoided.

Tell stories. Real or imagined, they work equally well. “One girl went to save a kitten...”, “One boy was offered to earn three thousand rubles in five minutes.” The plots can be very different.

Give children the right to disobey. Divide the world of adults into your own and those of others, and let your child not be afraid to ignore strangers or pass by if he is called upon. Allow him not to help if someone asks for help.

Stop debating with yourself and with other adults about the theoretical education of kindness and light. Your child will not grow up to be a bad person if he learns not to carry out orders from strangers and knows how to say “No.” But he will remain alive and will not be subjected to violence, considering the whole world to be kind, and all adults to be people who must not only be respected, but also obeyed.

Prohibit less to avoid lying.

Be prepared for the fact that at some stage you will be perceived stereotypically by the child. Yes, maybe it's you right now – the person who “still won’t understand.” Therefore, the child will hide any problem from you. Lying is normal. All children lie, often for no particular reason, and cannot even explain themselves why they lied. But this unpleasant moment can be changed or eliminated over time when they are confident that their truth will be accepted normally. Therefore, before you shout and scold, thank them for their frankness, take a break (which is sometimes very, very difficult), and only then think about what your goal is ultimately: to let off steam or solve the problem.

If you have already encountered a closed door, this can be fixed. For example, silence and lack of criticism in response to information that you do not like. You can also free your child from the daily standard questions “how are things at school?” and “what was interesting that day?” But your own honesty works best. If your teenager hears from you that you hid a diary, played truant, smoked at 14, or were beaten up by three high school boys, he will not stop respecting you, but he may see you as someone who can understand his problems.

Now, if you go to the parents’ pages, you can find out in five minutes the names of all children and close relatives, place of work and names of colleagues, places of recent vacations and the make of a new car, the child’s school number (for example, by clicking on the active link in the family section) and home address (thanks to geolocation), you can find out a list of interests and even phone numbers. The criminal calls and says, for example: “Masha, hello, I’m Mikhail Anatolyevich, your mother’s boss. Elena Petrovna asked me to call you. Don't worry, she got sick at work, appendicitis, and she was taken to the hospital. I already called Aunt Ira, she said that you are at home, and I can stop by in a couple of minutes to get the necessary things for mom. On what floor is the apartment? 145? I'm calling, open up." It is not a fact that a nine-year-old girl, for example, will not be confused and will think to call her mother back at that very moment, rather than letting a burglar or kidnapper in.

But this is a rare case. If we talk about everyday problems on the Internet, then almost every child faces different forms of cyberbullying. And the parents’ mistake, for example, is that they are now reading this word for the first time. Not to mention the fact that almost all children consider it useless to tell their parents about problems on the Internet. Because “they will either ban it” or “they won’t understand.” Cases of prolonged persecution, driving to suicide, molestation and involvement in various kinds of sexual dialogues, blackmail, insults - all this is somewhere very nearby, and sometimes in the next room. Therefore, the first step is to share the child’s Internet space with him, become friends with him on all his social networks, and do not prohibit or turn away from unpleasant information. Be aware, calmly, in a friendly manner, delve into, study, ask, understand. It is not simple.

Books about security

Among domestic books, I highly recommend to all parents “What to do if” by L.V. Petranovskaya. This book can be read aloud at night even to 3-4 year olds. They are really interested in listening, and the main information fits into their heads very well. From foreign books I recommend: John Myre “The safety book for kids” and his other books. A very good book is “The Kidpower Book for Caring Adults: Personal Safety, Self-Protection, Confidence, and Advocacy for Young People” by Irene Van der Zande.

I also wrote a book. “Stop the threat. Children are safe" can be downloaded in any electronic format on any of the well-known "readers" - litres, reader and others. I can’t call it an encyclopedia of child safety, but the main important points in upbringing (what, how, when and why) are revealed there clearly and without unnecessary fluff.

In 2017, I will publish a new book about children’s safety, in which I will try to collect all of our most valuable coaching experience, practical cases, and the best of foreign books independently translated by our team (this is exactly the version of partial plagiarism that seems quite moral to me acceptable).

Stop Threat. Children are safe

© Liya Sharova, 2015

Created in the intellectual publishing system Ridero

Dear Parents. My name is Liya Valentinovna Sharova, I am a teacher, the head of Russia’s first child safety consultation center “Stop-Threat”.

I wrote this book for a mother like me. My daughter is sixteen, and I understand that the main dangers are most likely still ahead (pah-pah-pah). But only now, having studied tons of literature and conducted hundreds of trainings on child safety, I understand that we did a lot wrong in terms of teaching safety skills. And if our children and I avoided trouble, it was only by luck, we were simply lucky.

We really don't want to think about the bad. Both I and all my friends are terribly afraid to even admit the thought that someone could kidnap, rape, or kill our children. And many of us simply pray at these moments: “Lord, please make sure nothing happens to my child.”

We cannot ensure that our children are never in danger. But we can do a lot so that in case of danger, they not only know how to do the right thing, but also know how to do it without confusion and doubt.

Our task is to make sure that our children do not go anywhere with strangers, do not succumb to the tricks of scammers, do not get into someone else’s car, know how to react and where to run, and openly tell us about everything that happens to them outside our limits of control.

All this needs to be taught in a completely different way from the way we are used to, in a completely different way from the way our parents taught us.

I tried to write a clear, succinct and very practical book about how to teach a child to think about possible danger, not be afraid of it, know what to do in different situations and be able to “be bad and disobedient” when necessary.

The first part of the book is the golden rules of safety, a concentrate of experience, short and simple instructions, answers to the main questions: what to teach a child and how to do it as effectively as possible at different ages.

The second part is for those parents who want to delve into the details, test themselves and their children, answer difficult questions, for example, what are the dangers of obedience, politeness and shyness, how to restore lost contact with a teenager, how to start letting your child go somewhere on his own and not going crazy with anxiety, and other moments that worry us all.

The third part of the book is a practical navigator-reference book: from accessible surveillance tools and indispensable Internet programs to important telephone numbers and contacts.

1. We give kids positive attitudes instead of negative ones. Instead of “Never take anything from a stranger,” we say: “Always ask me if someone offers you a treat, a toy, or invites you somewhere, do you promise?”

We start every conversation on security with a question.

“What will you do if...?”

"How do you think…?"

“What would you do if...?”

That is, we ask as much as possible, involve in the discussion, let the child speak more than we do, let him suggest.

2. We replace instructions and intimidation with games. All the safety lessons that will be described below are best taught in practice: fun, easy, and visual. We must show by our example the simplest situations, namely to show, and not to describe.

– How to answer the phone.

– What to say if the doorbell rings.

– How to pass by if someone calls you on the street.

– How to answer “No.”

- Let's find the safest places on the way to school.

– Show me where you will run if a stranger starts pestering you?

– Which of these people seems suspicious to you, and which, on the contrary, do you like and inspire trust?

We show each example ourselves and ask you to repeat: “Now you,” or “Let’s take turns, for example, I ring the doorbell, and you seem to be alone at home.”

3. During each walk, we devote five minutes to “checking our vigilance.” It is better not to distract your child from his activities “for a serious conversation,” but to weave conversations about safety into those periods of time when you are walking down the street, entering an entrance, getting into an elevator, being in a hypermarket, crossing the street, passing a construction site or garages.

Ask your child to point out “suspicious” people and then talk about how a bad person is likely to be someone who is not suspicious. Training in contact with strangers is very important. Ask your child to buy a balloon or a lollipop from a cafe, ask what time it is, and ask for directions. This also includes monitoring cars - we remember the brands of cars, we train to remember the license plates. You can memorize streets (for example, on the way to school or kindergarten) and house numbers, names of the nearest supermarkets and institutions. These simple exercises develop not only attentiveness, but also the ability to evaluate the world around us from a safety point of view.

4. Praise. For your attentiveness, for your interesting idea, for your opinion. Let your child want to talk to you about important topics. Let's not interrupt, this is very important. Our goal is trust. Therefore, we encourage frankness in every way, saying thank you even when we don’t like what we hear, otherwise the child simply won’t say anything next time. We talk with children as often as possible. Otherwise, children most likely simply will not talk about something important.

5. Lead by example. We look through the peephole. We always lock the front door with a key, even if we go out for a minute. We do not cross the street when the light is red, etc. We must demonstrate all these rules ourselves.

6. Tell specific stories. “An elderly man with a kitten approached the girl in the neighboring yard and asked her to help him carry it home...”

We read fairy tales to the kids: “Geese and Swans”, “The Wolf and the Seven Little Goats”, “The Cat, the Rooster and the Fox” and others, we watch cartoons together, noting dangerous situations. We find examples of correct behavior: running away, not opening the door, shouting loudly, etc., and additionally attracting the baby’s attention to this moment.

7. We take the child to safety training. In a group, children remember important rules much better and gain experience at the level of a fixed skill. If it is not possible to undergo such training, then we play out the main algorithm for safe behavior in the event of communication with any stranger at home (the algorithm will be described in detail below). Our task is to do just one simple and at the same time the most difficult thing: to force some kind of switch to turn on in the child’s mind, which will help in the situation of any contact with an outsider to think for a second: “Why did this person talk to me? I was taught that I should never go anywhere with a stranger, no matter what he told me.” It is this second of awareness that often decides everything, and it is this skill that you and I must consolidate as firmly as possible.

8. Check. We carry out at least three checks with the help of friends whom the child does not know. The first situation is the doorbell ringing when the child is alone at home. The second is to give something on the street and offer to go somewhere together. The third is a request for help, for example, to carry a kitten to the car. You need to check not only the reaction, but also the degree of frankness. In each situation, let your friend ask you to keep it a secret so as not to “disturb mom.” If the child does not pass the test, then we do not tell him that we ourselves simulated this situation. We just take note that we need to prepare the child even better.

Stop Threat. Children are safe Liya Sharova

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Title: Stop Threat. Children are safe
Author: Liya Sharova
Year: 2015
Genre: Home and Family: other, General psychology, Other educational literature, Self-improvement

About the book “Stop the Threat. Children are safe" Liya Sharova

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How to prevent child abduction? What dangers await children in the big city? What do parents who care about the safety of their children need to know? We talked about this with Liya Valentinovna Sharova, head of the Stop Threat Safety School.

Based on your practice, what threats do children mostly face in big cities? Are there any statistics?

There are many dangers that threaten children in big cities, from road accidents to open sewer manholes and sick stray animals. But over two and a half years of work, we were surprised to find out that children are absolutely unprepared for one of the most terrible dangers: kidnapping and violence. If we cite the statistics of our school (about 2000 trainings, more than 20 thousand children aged 5-16 years), then I can say with complete confidence: 19 out of 20 children will leave with a kidnapper, fall into the trap of a scammer, will not scream or run away if they are grabbed by a stranger . Surely your child does not know the numbers of his loved ones by heart, will help the “polite grandfather” carry the package to the car and, most likely, will get into the policeman’s car.

The statistics are depressing. Tell me, at the “Stop Threat” safety school, do you teach children and adults how to deal with dangerous situations?

The Stop Threat Safety School was created to work on several specific tasks:

So that no child can be taken away or kidnapped by a pedophile or fraudster;

So that children know exactly what to do if a stranger approaches them and starts a conversation;

So that every child understands which of the adults he knows and doesn’t know to what extent he can trust (most children trust their neighbors, their parents’ friends, the police, and sometimes people in uniform).

Teach and motivate children not to be shy about attracting the attention of passers-by: scream, run away, resist if someone tries to grab them.

Know how to deal with robbers and hooligans. What to shout in the entrance. Who to turn to for help on the street. What to do if you get lost or lose your mobile phone.

How to identify a pedophile on the Internet and how to protect yourself on social networks - this task is becoming more and more urgent every day, and there is a whole series of problems that require skill, and not just a theoretical understanding of the danger.

- How and why did the “Stop Threat” arise?

- “Stop the Threat” began with maternal fear. My then 13-year-old daughter forgot to write me an SMS when she got to school, literally on the second day of traveling on her own, and I couldn’t get through for an hour - she turned off the sound when the lesson started. Then I realized that even if I told her three hundred times exactly what was dangerous and how to deal with it, it would not produce results and would not increase my confidence in her safety. Then I did not find a single organization in Russia professionally engaged in teaching children the skills of correct reactions to strangers. Then I began to solve the problem on my own, studying the experience of foreign child safety organizations, communicating with representatives of the Ministry of Emergency Situations and child psychologists.

The problem is not that our children do not know what is dangerous and what is not. It is important to make sure that they know exactly how, step by step and in detail, they need to answer, run back, shout, ask. Where to run and when to do it. Only training removes barriers in practice. But children do not like tediousness, do not hear advice, do not perceive horror stories and instructions. Therefore, the secret of “Stop Threats” is a carefully thought-out teaching methodology, as a result of which children leave the training not only with knowledge and skills, but also - most importantly - with the right attitude. They are interested, they always say: “Well, is that all done?” when the training ends. They rush through recess after safety class to play “I Don’t Know You and I Won’t Talk to You.” They meet the coach six months after the lesson shouting “Hurray!”

Of course, one lesson does not guarantee one hundred percent safety, but if you conduct trainings at least once a year, deepening knowledge, and complement them with family education, then you can be sure of at least one thing: the child will not leave with a stranger and will not cry in confusion if someone else’s uncle He will grab him by the hand and lead him along. It is this task that I consider the most important in my work.

- Over the years of work, what cases have you encountered most often? What advice would you give to parents?

The most common mistakes and misconceptions of children:

• “The criminal is a guy in black, suspicious and gloomy, or, conversely, especially cunning and ingratiating.”
• Tell your child and show him on the street that a criminal can be very harmless, pleasant, cheerful and trustworthy.
• The child thinks like this: “If someone grabs me, I can bite, spit in his eye, hit him so that he will let me go (options - pretend to be crazy or dead).” Make it clear to children that in any dangerous situation they have two most important weapons: fast feet and a loud cry. And that both of these weapons only work in a crowded place. If your son does not believe that he will be helpless when he finds himself alone with an adult, show him this. Twist him so that he cannot move, this is a very clear lesson.
• “You need to listen to adults, you need to help the elderly.” Explain to your children that if they see that someone needs help, they can call you for advice. But adults should not turn to other people’s children for help, offer them something, give them something, or even scold them. One pedophile led boys away using the following trick: he played a prank on the father whose son was allegedly beaten by the boy. And after shouting and assaulting him, he suggested “to go home and ask Kolya if this guy in, say, a red jacket beat him up.”
• “I was afraid of looking like a fool. I couldn’t scream, I was ashamed.”

For our children to scream, suddenly run, or even simply move away from the elevator when a stranger enters the entrance is already a violation of “normal” behavior. And this is the second main reason for the ease of kidnapping and violence after gullibility. We cultivate permissiveness in a dangerous situation. Let him know that on the street, if anything happens, you can throw a stone through the window, and hit someone else’s car so that the alarm goes off, and fall to the ground with a loud scream and kick while lying down. At the entrance, the cry “Fire!” will save you. and loud noise. Let him knock and ring on all the doors, break the window with a flower pot. Believe me, when we tell this to children at trainings, they perceive it as a revolution in consciousness.

Surprisingly, the further we go, the more confident we are that seminars for parents are very, very necessary. I can say this: every parent who attended our class for adults said that they learned a lot of new and useful things for themselves. We teach how and what to talk about, how to properly interest a child, how to observe and control, how to protect your family on the Internet, all sorts of useful little things that seemed to be on the surface, but for some reason no one ever thought about them.

You recently launched an entire Academy of Security Trainers. What is the training program? Is there a specialization? What will your coaches do next? Could the Academy's course be useful, for example, to teachers in schools?

The Academy of Trainers was created to ensure that “Stop Threats” trainings are always available to parents in every city. We already have successfully operating branches in St. Petersburg, Vladivostok, Novosibirsk, and Kazakhstan. Perm, Krasnoyarsk, Volgograd, Samara, Vologda will soon join, and trainers will begin work in Kyrgyzstan, Azerbaijan, Ukraine and Germany.

The Academy of Trainers was created for those who are not yet ready to buy a franchise and want to start with individual work as a trainer. After a teacher or psychologist undergoes training and receives a certificate, he works as part of the Stop Threat team, this is an important condition that allows us to control the quality of training.

Of course, everyone chooses their own work schedule and level of workload, but, as practice so far shows, this work is captivating, brings a lot of energy and emotions, and of course, which is also important, allows you to earn money.

If buying a franchise is a full-fledged business with corresponding responsibilities, tasks and expenses, albeit small ones, then in the Academy of Trainers the mechanism is simple: you study, do an internship, work as a “Stop Threats” trainer in your city and in your own regime.

Of course, not everyone can complete this training; desire and a diploma are not enough. No matter how good the methodology is, if the coach is not a unique personality who attracts children, nothing will work. Therefore, we are looking for wise, bright, sensitive, intelligent people who love children, because in the end, every coach is our reputation, and we really value and cherish the level of parental trust that we have now.

- What requirements do you place on candidates?

Secondary or higher vocational education; knowledge of age and special pedagogy, psychology, specific development of interests and needs of children 5-17 years old; skills and experience working with groups of children 5-17 years old; good command of the Russian language, competent speech; love for children, responsibility, wisdom.

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Moms and dads, I have a three-minute conversation with you, and this is very, very important. In 2014–2015, I conducted at least a hundred security trainings, possibly much more, so at least 2000–3000 children told me how they imagine a criminal, who they would help on the street, who they would go with without hesitation, and what will do in case of danger.

I will share my conclusions based on accurate statistics:

9 out of 10 children 7–9 years old They don’t know their parents’ phone numbers by heart. Think about what could happen if your child is left on the street without his mobile phone, how will he contact you?

They escort the polite aunt to the nearest store, school, or bus stop. In some classes, everyone raises their hands.

19 out of 20 children of all ages They will help an elderly man carry a package, a puppy, a kitten, a briefcase, a bag to the car.

Moreover, 10 out of 10 elementary school students A man of about fifty is considered elderly. First-graders are ready to enroll 40-year-olds as “elderly.” And the elderly “need to be helped.”

19 out of 20 first- and second-graders and about half of children aged 10-14 We are sure that we can easily recognize a criminal on the street (wearing black clothes, creepy, hiding, “looking strangely,” walking with a large bag, behaving unusually, smiling slyly unnaturally, luring in with candy, an unkempt man of 30–35 years old, looking like a homeless person or for a criminal).

In case of danger, at least half of the children will run to the entrance, to the yard, somewhere “where they can hide.”
All children believe that they can trust “familiar adults,” including neighbors, friends’ parents, salespeople from a nearby store—all people whom they have already seen.

19 out of 20 children They will absolutely go somewhere with any person who calls them by name.

19 out of 20 children of all ages will be embarrassed to shout loudly “Help! I do not know this person!" if someone takes them by the hand and leads them somewhere.

And this is only part of the very sad statistics. And the most important point is this: let's exclude the word “suspicious” from conversations with our children about possible danger.

The real criminal who can take your child away is not suspicious. He is the most unsuspicious of passers-by, most often. This is a polite, smiling, decently dressed person, a pretty woman or a neat old man.

Tell your children that "suspicious" criminals only exist in movies and TV crime news. The child should trust only family members and teachers, perhaps a nanny and driver, a godmother and a close family friend. And no one else.

All the rest are strangers who should not approach your child with a treat, or for help, or just to chat. And until you tell your children about this a hundred times, until you teach them to automatically respond anyone