They are not allowed to wear makeup. How to Convince Your Parents to Let You Do Makeup

It's just paint that will eventually wash off. It's not a problem, is it? But not really. Convincing your parents to let you dye your hair is not an easy task because they want you to look natural. But you can convince them if you make arguments in your favor, are willing to compromise, and study the issue well enough before starting the discussion.

Steps

Do your own research

Do your homework regarding the issue of hair coloring. Decide what color you want to dye your hair. Select the products you want to use. Read reviews and choose a quality brand.

• Some manufacturers produce not only dye, but also shampoo/conditioner/spray, and in this case you can choose the same brand that your parents use to wash their hair.
• Gloves to protect your skin and hands are not always supplied with paint. After reading the label/box, you will probably know if the paint comes with gloves.

1. Learn the risks associated with hair damage when dyeing. Hair dye contains hydrogen peroxide, which harms the hair structure. It is unlikely that hair dye will cause serious negative consequences, but it can still cause harm.

   • The chance of an allergy to the paint is minimal, but it is still worth conducting a test before directly applying it to your head. To make sure you don't have an allergic reaction, simply apply a little dye to your wrist or ankle and wait 24 hours.

2. Make sure that what you have in mind does not conflict with the school or work dress code. You don't want any trouble. Parents are unlikely to give their permission if your school doesn't allow unusual hair colors.

   • In addition, your age should be taken into account. A thirteen-year-old girl should not dye her hair with a dye that says “Do not use under 16” on the packaging. You can seriously damage your hair follicle.

3. Offer to have it painted by a professional. If your parents are worried that you might have problems with your coloring process if you do it yourself or with a friend, it's a great idea to say, "If you're worried about the color going wrong, I can dye your hair at the salon." In this case, parents will not worry about the quality of the result obtained.

   • The only downside to professional coloring is that it will cost much more.

4. Let your parents be involved in choosing your new color. Encourage them to agree on a color choice. This way you will all control the process at the same time. You can say: “First, I’ll try to choose a color close to my natural color, if that’s more comfortable for you.”

   • If you have difficulty with your parents choosing the color you like, ask their permission to dye your hair your natural hair color. Once your hair is already dyed, your parents will not be able to argue that the color you choose will harm your hair.

5. Ask if you can partially dye your hair instead of going all out. Instead of dyeing your entire hair, ask your parents for permission to lighten or darken individual strands. You can say something like, "Maybe I could dye the ends of my hair instead? It's not such a drastic change, and I can always trim the ends if you don't like the color." Purple color can cause a lot of damage to your hair. If you have long hair, coloring the ends may be a compromise. You can always cut off the ends if your parents don't like the results.

   Ask if you can buy colored strands instead of dyeing them. If they're adamant about coloring their hair, offer to buy clip-ons with different colored strands so you can show them a sample of the results after coloring. It's not a paint job, so you can always change the look if they don't like it.

Parents don't allow you to wear makeup? It can be difficult for parents to officially get the go-ahead for makeup. “You’re still just a girl! What makeup!?” - parents say in one voice! For them, you will forever remain a child. But you're not going to give up spectacular makeup, are you? - Then, to the point!

Parents are against makeup because they worry about your fate

Mothers often protect their girls from male attention, as do fathers (so as not to spoil them - mothers who raised you without a father are especially worried about this; fathers are often terribly jealous of their beloved daughters of other men). They may even hysterically prohibit the use of any cosmetics, going out later than 10 pm, and I won’t say anything about going to discos.

Talk to mom!

And don’t start a conversation quickly, after another quarrel. It’s better to show first that you are really an adult.

Show that you are an adult!

You need to make it clear to your parents that you are a fully grown, mature person and are fully capable of solving your own life issues. Of course, going to live with a friend and throwing tantrums is not an adequate solution to the issue of makeup and evening promenades. Start by preparing your own breakfast, washing your own things and solving problems with your studies, etc.

Don’t forget to call your parents at least once a day, and always if you’re suddenly late. It’s easier to say this yourself than to stupidly make excuses and listen to moral teachings about the fact that you’re out late, with I don’t know who, wearing makeup, etc.

You shouldn’t ask your parents for money for cosmetics either, otherwise you automatically return and strengthen your role as a “little girl” for them: you can save money from holiday gifts and daily pocket expenses.

Parents are against makeup because it “ruins the skin”

Veiling their concern for you, your mother and grandmothers may tell you that you will ruin your eyelashes and skin if you start wearing makeup now. They will tell horror stories about early wrinkles and other problems due to makeup - don’t believe it! Combining makeup with proper skin care will not harm you at all. And, light makeup is quite appropriate even at 14 years old. The sooner you start experimenting with makeup, the sooner you will find your look.

Use high-quality cosmetics for makeup and makeup remover

If you have problem skin (blackheads, pimples, enlarged pores often appear), be sure to get serious about treating your skin for acne, choose creams and lotions for your skin type that are suitable for your age, be careful with foundations and powders. Most of them are comedogenic (they clog pores, increasing the risk of new acne).

If you can’t do without adjusting your face tone, choose a cream with a light texture, marked “non-comedogenic,” that matches the skin tone on the back of your hand; if the skin is very porous and oily, mineral powder is better; it will give the skin an even tone without clogging the pores and keeping it fresh for 6 hours.

Well, of course, don’t forget about makeup remover.

If your parents say that you wear makeup vulgarly and that makeup is taboo for you

It’s not a fact that mom, dad, grandmothers and others like them are wrong when they say that your makeup is too bright or vulgar.

Don't be upset!

Don't be upset about this. After all, you are just mastering the intricacies of makeup.

Make mom your ally in your search for beautiful makeup

Extinguish your resentment at what was said and ask your mother to be your image maker for a little while, to help you choose the best makeup option. Look at different makeup options together. Choose the optimal combination of shades just for you. Make up together. This will help you not only get used to makeup faster, but also restore a warm relationship with your mother.

Experiment with makeup!

It is better to experiment with makeup with a stylist or at home. Don’t shock others right away with bright makeup a la Lady Gaga, start from afar - with a simple makeup. This doesn't mean bright lipsticks and eye shadows aren't for you! There is a time and place for everything. The main thing is to experiment without extremes, and wash away all mega-bright accents before your parents arrive.

Even with light makeup, it’s better to go for a walk after 3-5 successful attempts to put on makeup yourself, when you look quite natural in any lighting.

You want to wear makeup, but you need your parents' permission to try it. Of course, you need to explain why you think makeup will benefit you. However, it is also important to be sensitive to your parents' concerns. They may be worried that you are growing up too quickly, but if your arguments sound convincing, you can win them over to your side.

Steps

Part 1

Choose the right time to talk. Don't start a conversation about makeup when your parents are busy or in a bad mood. Wait until they are in a good mood to express your desire to start applying makeup. Make sure they have enough time to have a long conversation with you. If you catch them in a bad moment more than once, your parents may think you're just annoying them. This will not lead you to victory in an argument.

Maintain a mature tone. If you act childish, you'll only give them more reason to think it's too early for you to wear makeup. Instead, show how mature and responsible you are. Do not raise your tone under any circumstances and try not to sound whiny in your voice. If a conversation isn't going your way, control your emotions instead of crying or yelling.

Explain that makeup will hide skin imperfections. During adolescence, your skin goes through multiple changes. Hormonal changes can cause skin irritation, which can lead to significant stress. Explain to parents that makeup is not always about attracting guys. Hiding your skin's imperfections until you outgrow them will help you feel more comfortable in your body.

Describe how a little makeup can help you feel more confident. Research shows that women who view makeup in a positive way feel more powerful and confident with it. You are at a very delicate age now and self-confidence is very important. Without it, you may have a hard time making decisions that are right for you. Your parents want the best for you, and feeling confident is what is best for you.

• Makeup is one of the components of your daily image. Encourage your parents to view makeup as part of who you are, rather than as an add-on.
• You are at an age where self-expression is very important to you. You shape yourself! Try to convince your parents that a little makeup can help reveal your personality.

1. Discuss with them how the right makeup can benefit you. Rightly or wrongly, society judges women based on their appearance. Knowing how to apply makeup correctly will help you succeed in your profession as an adult. Adolescence is a time to hone the skills you'll need in the future. You need to make some mistakes, like smudged eyeliner or unsightly colors, early in life when the stakes aren't so high. However, as an adult, when a lot depends on your appearance, you definitely shouldn't make these mistakes.

   Part 2

   Take care of your parents' worries

   1. Ask them to clarify their concerns. Don't just let your parents talk, but actively ask for their opinion on your decision. The more you understand the reasons why your parents are against your decision, the better you can prove to them that their worries are unfounded. .

      • “I know why I think makeup will make me feel better. Why do you think it won’t do me any good?”
      • Pay attention to what they say. Respond specifically to each of their arguments.

   2. Start small. Your parents may be concerned that in an instant, you can turn from their little daughter into an independent girl. Let them know there is no need to worry by starting small.

      • Tell her that you're going to start by using foundation and blush to cover up her pimples.
      • Over time, as you grow older, you may ask for more freedom. After a year, you can ask to start using eye shadow or eyeliner in your everyday makeup routine.

   3. Only ask about makeup that is age appropriate. If your parents think you're growing up too fast, they might be right. Think about how stupid your mom would look if she wore bright pink lipstick! She looks good because she wears makeup that matches her age. Explain to your parents that you will do the same.

      • Ask for a slightly tinted lip balm or gloss instead of a bright red, sexy lipstick.
      • Keep your makeup light and natural. You want to highlight your natural beauty, not change your face. Maybelline Baby Lips are a great lightweight lip balm to start with.

   4. Discuss the proposal with your parents. Your parents shouldn't think that you just want something. Be prepared to give something in return for makeup privileges. Some examples may include:

      • You can only wear makeup if you maintain good grades in school.
      • You will take on additional housework.

   5. Make makeup a bonding experience. Makeup doesn't have to mean that you're growing up and moving away from your parents. It may even bring you closer. Go to your local makeup stores with your mom, or watch makeup tutorials on YouTube, you can look at the products and determine if they are right for you or not. Makeup tutorials on YouTube will help you understand which makeup will suit you and which will not. Staff at local stores can help you find something that suits you and your parents. For the first time, ask your mom to go shopping with you, so she can teach you how to choose cosmetics. When you get home, ask her to help you apply it.

      • Ask her for advice on how to match your makeup to your skin color.
      • Ask her to recommend a color that will suit you best.
      • Maintain a good attitude throughout. By making the process enjoyable for mom, you increase your chances of her allowing you to apply it more often.
   • Don't beg or complain if you get rejected. Accept it, and try again another day.
   • Don't wear anything bright or eye-catching, or your parents might change their minds.
   • Keep calm. If your parents said no the first time, accept it. Meanwhile, in your free time, think about other ways that can convince them.
   • Wear makeup that looks natural rather than dramatic, especially at an early age.
   • Don't go too far; Your parents may think you are abusing permission and may even stop you from wearing makeup.
   • Do not overdo it. You can tell your parents that you will first apply blush, and then you can try mascara. Remember to never beg: parents hate it.
   • Start with something light, like lip gloss.
   • If you're still waiting for a response from your parents, experiment with makeup in your room so that when you get permission, you already have an idea of ​​how to do it. Watch makeup tutorials on YouTube.
   • Start with a small amount of foundation and powder, and you can add a little light blush. Always apply a little as too much can clog pores and cause breakouts.
   • There is no specific age at which you need to start wearing makeup. Some people think 13 or 14 is normal, while others think it's too early. You should probably wait until you're 15 or 16 to seriously ask about makeup.

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