Lazy child: what to do if the baby does not want to move. Forward and hind breast milk - how to feed your baby correctly What to do if your baby is too lazy to suck out milk

From a very early age, the child begins to explore his own body and its capabilities. And all this is in constant motion. At first, the newborn simply blinks, smiles, moves his legs and arms, and later he begins to crawl, sit up and, finally, take his first hesitant steps. The seemingly ordinary crawling is actually an excellent muscle workout, and this method of movement also helps the child develop harmoniously. Pediatricians unanimously claim that crawling is a preparatory stage before walking. While crawling, the muscles of the shoulder girdle, back, arms and legs will become stronger, and coordination will improve. In general, crawling is a must. But what to do if the baby is lazy and doesn’t want to crawl?

Remember that your child has just begun to discover this interesting new world, he needs to break away from his mother and start exploring the space and objects that are around. Give him a little more freedom, take him out of the crib or playpen more often, and put him on the floor. Sit down next to him: it will be much easier for the child when his mother or loved ones are in close proximity. Place toys or a ball at a short distance from the baby, he will reach for them, try to reach them and at the same time learn to crawl.

Here are some exercises to help teach your baby to crawl. As they say, it has been tested from personal experience and works even with very stubborn toddlers.

1. The first exercise will help form support on straight arms- this is the main condition for starting to crawl on all fours. A six-month-old baby must learn not only to lift himself up in his arms, but also, preferably, to grab a toy with one hand while leaning on the other. If such a skill has not been developed, it is worth helping the child a little. To begin, place him on his stomach, and hang a toy in front of him, just above his head. To grab it, the child will rise in his arms and reach for the object that interests him. If suddenly the toy does not arouse interest, first let the child touch it, and then gradually lift it up.

2. This exercise will help strengthen the vestibular apparatus The baby will learn to work with his hands. Make a cushion from a blanket and place it under the baby’s chest (as in the first exercise, the baby lies on his stomach). The child's head and arms should hang from the roller, while the legs and stomach should be on a flat surface. In this position, the child can turn his head and grasp objects with both hands.

3. Learn stand on all fours. For this exercise, you will again need a blanket bolster, but this time you need to place it under the baby’s belly and chest so that the arms and legs hang above the floor. In this case, the child will instinctively want to lean on them and will be forced to get on all fours.

4. This exercise will teach the child crawl on all fours To do it correctly, it is better to invite another adult assistant. Distribute roles in advance: one of the adults is responsible for the work of the child’s hands, the other for the legs. Then place the child on all fours on the floor with an attention-grabbing toy in front of him. Next, one of the adults moves the child’s left arm forward, the second moves the child’s right leg, and so on.

And don’t forget to set a positive example for your child. If the mother, or even better, another child, crawls in front of the baby on all fours, believe me, the little one will learn to move much faster on his own. And finally, a few training videos on this topic.

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Alima, what is your problem with attachment: are there any cracks or pain/discomfort when sucking, is the nipple deformed after feeding?

How many times a day does a baby have bowel movements? Are poops regularly green or sometimes?

Do you feed on demand or on a schedule? Do you feed one breast or both at one feeding?

How does feeding end? Does the baby let go of the breast on his own or on the initiative of the mother?

It is normal for newborns to be on the breast for 30-40 minutes, and the behavior that you describe is also normal. Now the front milk accumulates in your breast and it actually flows easier, but the back milk is produced during feeding and the baby has to expend more effort to extract it. Therefore, you can observe the following picture: for the first 5-10 minutes he intensively sucks the breast, and then falls asleep and sometimes sucks in his sleep. He is already receiving hind milk. It is important not to interrupt such feeding, but to wait until the baby releases the nipple on his own.

Also, the intervals between feedings can be very short; within 30 minutes after feeding, the baby is ready to breastfeed again. And that's okay too. Breast milk is absorbed by the baby’s gastrointestinal tract very quickly, 20-30 minutes and is ready for a new portion of milk, while babies on formula sleep for 2-3 hours after eating.

Night feedings are also necessary and important. It is at night, in the morning, that the main amount of the hormone prolactin, the hormone responsible for milk production, is produced. Sucking directly affects the amount of prolactin in the blood; it turns out that during night feedings the child provides himself with milk for the entire next day.

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I am very grateful to you for your detailed answer and clarifications. I answer your questions:

There is pain and discomfort when sucking at the very beginning of feeding, sometimes it hurts slightly during feeding, and sometimes the nipples itch.

After feeding, the nipple is elongated and light pink, sometimes slightly flattened

stool 4-5 times a day, green color happens from time to time (today the color is normal and the smell of sour milk)

I feed on demand - at night 3 times for at least 15-20 minutes, during the day almost every 30 - 40 minutes and an hour

One breast stretches for 2 feedings, or even three

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By the way, is it normal that the skin on the baby’s upper lip is swollen right in the middle - something similar to a callus?

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Do you have a pacifier or bottle in your daily use?

The main thing we pay attention to is application. Most problems stem from here. A corn, most likely a consequence of incorrect application. If the baby is not attached correctly, the baby does not suckle effectively, that is, he empties it worse. As a result, despite prolonged sucking, he eats less than he could. This is the reason for the restless behavior at the breast, the baby works hard, tries to get milk, but it doesn’t come well. Frequent lactostasis may also occur due to insufficient breast drainage.

How to edit. We find a comfortable position for ourselves, such that we can sit in one position for more than an hour without straining our back. We take the baby in our arms, if necessary, you can try to put a pillow on your knees, we arrange ourselves so that we do not hang our body over the baby during feeding.

We place the child at the chest, belly to belly, head in the same plane with the back, slightly tilted back. The nose is opposite the nipple. When the baby opens his mouth wide, place the breast so that the areola hits the tongue and the nipple goes deep into the mouth. The lips are turned outward, the areola is less visible at the chin than above the upper lip, that is, we observe asymmetry. The absence of pain is the first sign that you have taken the breast correctly.

Let's look rollers, read, special attention to point 4. If something doesn’t work out or remains unclear, write, and we’ll figure it out further.

As for the time being, a child who is exclusively on breastfeeding has the right to any chair. The fact that the baby does not reach hindmilk during feeding is indicated primarily by low weight gain or its absence, and the poop is regularly dark green with foam. This is not your case.

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For several days we “fought” for the correct application - for some reason it turned out better during the day than at night. At night she apparently wakes up very hungry, gets nervous, fidgets and grabs everything right down to her sleeves. And during the day, the attachment seems to be correct. We don’t poop green anymore, we eat both breasts in one feeding - either there’s less milk coming in, or Ritka has started sucking it out better, we sleep for 2-3 hours between feedings..

We use a pacifier only in exceptional cases - when we bathe - we still can’t do it any other way - she cries a lot...

Thanks for the support and advice

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Z.Y.: To prevent your girl from screaming while bathing, try feeding her a little before bathing.

exactly. our baby also cried, especially after the bath. I tried feeding her just before bathing - and it got better!

and for the first 3 months we ate every hour and a half. sometimes - especially before bedtime - on both sides. now - every 3 hours, even 2 and a half. but nothing :) otherwise we are growing. I’ll sleep later!

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You are absolutely right, perhaps it turns out worse at night because the child is hungry and nervous. It is difficult for YOU to apply it correctly. Try to start feeding at night before your baby starts fidgeting and crying. Try to catch the very first grunts, when the baby has not yet fully woken up. And apply it in a dream. Also try feeding while sitting at night. Sitting is better. It's not forever, just as long as you learn to apply it correctly. Once you figure this out, you can feed in any position.

Well, my congratulations - everything is slowly getting better for you.

Z.Y.: To prevent your girl from screaming while bathing, try feeding her a little before bathing. Look, maybe she reacts this way to an unpleasant water temperature (either hot or, on the contrary, cold). By the way, you can bathe with your child in a large bathtub and feed right there. Children usually like it, mom is nearby, they don’t cry.

Good day! Regarding our feedings - everything has worked out, at night we feed exclusively while sitting, I tried to put it next to me, she eats well, she has adapted, but in the end neither she nor I get enough sleep - she apparently smells milk, and as soon as she is full she starts to let go of her breasts. look for it again and just suck it, fall asleep, lose it and all over again, but I’m still afraid to crush it - maternity hospital horror stories are strong in us sinners, like someone’s kumetra crushed a child in a dream.. That’s why feeding while sitting in a chair is ideal for us, so I’ll also buy a nursing pillow (my butt is getting heavy)

As for bathing and feeding - I tried to feed from one breast, bathe and then give the second... Where is it - until we are full from the belly, so that it’s already flowing from our ears, we don’t calm down. But it is harmful to bathe them on a full stomach. That’s a shame, but for some reason, when we’re on our backs in the bathtub, when we’re lying with our belly down, it’s really okay. This is how we swim now - well-fed. belly down

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Alima, can you tell me more about feedings, do you feed at every opportunity - how often? What are the pauses between feedings during the day?

I understand that the baby takes the breast, she just doesn’t suck for long, is that so? How long does one feeding last?

How many peees do you have per day?

Do you still sleep together?

Is there a pacifier in use (I don’t even remember)?

Giving supplementary feeding from a nipple, even with a small hole or with a large one, does not matter. She just sucks differently than breasts. Attachment may suffer from this.

I apply it about once an hour. We allow a maximum of 2.5 hours between feedings, but mostly 2 hours. - a month ago, the pediatrician said that she is already big and should withstand three hours, and if she doesn’t, it means she’s not getting enough and said to supplement her with formula.

Oksana, you know, she sucks at the breast and sucks until the milk spurts out, and then begins to play with it - she grabs the nipple so furiously, pulls a couple of times and turns away, then again in the same way... then she gets angry, arches and screams. Actually, the feeding itself lasts 10-12 minutes max.

We pee every time - sometimes it’s not enough - diapers are usually half empty, we sleep together in the second half of the night. Yes, there is a pacifier - we fall asleep with it

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Could you break down your monthly increases?

Once again, please pay attention to your attachment, what does the nipple look like after feeding, deformed or straight?

And please count the number of peees, keep your baby without a diaper for one day, and the situation will be clearer for both you and me. Or collect all the daily diapers in one bag and weigh them. Afterwards, weigh one clean diaper, multiply by the number of pieces in the bag and subtract this weight from the total. Write what remains here (that is, the net weight of the discharge).

How often do you poop? Do you have green stools with mucus regularly, over and over again, or are they of a different color periodically?

Lyudmila, first of all, I recommend that you remove the pacifier. It is she who is most often the culprit of low weight gain. Also, sucking on a pacifier spoils the latch and can also cause refusal behavior (or complete refusal of the breast). It is better to offer the breast at bedtime. Bedtime feedings are denser than mid-day feedings.

The baby grows, develops, has more skills and opportunities, and his range of interests expands. This also appears under the breast during feeding, the baby is distracted, looks around, plays while sucking, flirts with the mother - all this is normal age-related behavior) Sometimes the baby asks for the breast not because he wants to eat, but just to be with mom next to her, in full contact. Just try to be with your baby more often, carry him in your arms more. And there are feedings that you still have constantly and for the longest time, including during sleep. Try to feed in a calm environment, so that there are as few distractions as possible for the baby. It might help to close the curtains in the room and turn on quiet, calm music.

Breastfeeding contains a huge number of basics and nuances that are applicable individually to the baby. Thus, young mothers are faced with problems feeding the baby - the baby sucks sluggishly, prefers to eat only “fore milk”, and often falls asleep. You definitely just have a lazy child. How to deal with this? What is the reason for such laziness?

How to spot a lazy baby?

You should not assume that if your baby falls asleep during feeding, it means he is lazy. The issue under consideration is sensitive and should be examined thoroughly.

The main sign of a lazy baby is being fat. The baby screams, saying that he wants to eat, but no attempts to make him “cling on” are crowned with success. But if you offer him a bottle of milk or formula, he will willingly start the meal.

Other signs point to other facts. Eg:

• Infants under one month old are still weak for independent and complete sucking. Therefore, the baby, having attached himself to the breast, falls asleep after a while - he gets tired, but still remains hungry. Here the mother’s task is to stir up the baby so that he continues to suckle.
• Babies 2-4 months of age simply interrupt the feeding process to study and learn about their surroundings. Here the mother must be patient and allow the baby to examine the object of interest. As a rule, after satisfying curiosity, the baby “comes back to eat.”
• Babies from 5 months and older feel a characteristic deficiency of beneficial microelements in their mother’s milk - for them, milk seems empty, there is no that usual taste and smell, as a result of which the baby now simply considers it a simple liquid to quench his thirst. In most cases, a similar phenomenon is observed after.
• Before calling your child lazy, take a closer look at his behavior during feeding. Some babies, screaming and asking for food, simply refuse or even spit out their mother's breast, demanding an easier supply of food. But in most cases, such situations are associated with the fact that the baby was given a bottle of milk or formula.

Reasons for laziness

Now it is necessary to distribute and supplement all of the above on the main reasons for the manifestation of laziness in a child. The following are the reasons for weaning due to laziness of the baby:

• Familiarity with the bottle has occurred - this is the main reason why a child begins to refuse the breast, because. he tried a simpler method of satiation. After one time, getting used to artificial breast replacement may not occur, but there are exceptions.
• The baby is accustomed to the pacifier. This kind of substitute for the mother’s breast leads to the fact that the child begins to develop other muscle groups that are not involved when sucking milk. As a result of frequent use, the baby begins to grasp the breast incorrectly, as a result of which the ducts are pinched and the milk flows slowly. Realizing that he will have to make an effort to eat normally, he simply refuses to breastfeed.
• Incorrect attachment is surprising, but even experienced women who have become mothers for the first time can make attachment errors. As a rule, this occurs due to the individual characteristics of the baby. With normal latching, the baby sucks milk diligently and with appetite. If there is weak smacking, it is necessary to carry out certain manipulations so that the baby enjoys the food. Otherwise in women.
• Blockage of the ducts or - the baby simply finds it difficult to suck, so after a short attachment he comes off the breast. Sometimes the baby simply doesn’t like the small amount of milk coming in. This gradual approach soon becomes boring.

In order not to encounter these problems, it is enough to take into account the facts and reasons why the baby refuses mother’s milk. But if the problem has already arisen, it must be resolved immediately.

Even if laziness is inherent in a child at the genetic level, he can be forced to drink breast milk, and on his own. Here are some simple steps:

• Remove all pacifiers and bottles from the baby's sight. If necessary, consult your pediatrician about the possibility of abandoning formula. If this is not possible due to individual characteristics, it is recommended to give the mixture from a syringe or spoon.
• Don’t listen to those around you who see that you are “tormenting” your child by forcing him to latch on to the breast, because after giving up pacifiers and bottles there will be no other option. You are acting for the benefit of the baby’s health, because natural breastfeeding is much healthier for both the baby and the mother.
• . Of course, in perinatal centers they teach feeding, but pediatricians themselves claim that changing the position of the mother can change the angle of attachment, which the baby will like. The anatomical features of the breast have not been canceled. Whether the breasts are erect or slightly drooping, the size and volume of the nipples directly affect the characteristics of attachment.
• Treat congestion, cracks and others by any means. You must ensure that your baby has easy flow of milk through the ducts.
• Use a sling - this is a rather convenient device, especially at first. A baby with your breast in his mouth will be able to spend as much time as he needs to be completely satisfied. And you will do your homework.
• Try feeding while half asleep. Co-sleeping is also the best way to get your baby to breastfeed, who will instinctively make lip-smacking sounds while sleeping.

Establish contact with your baby before feeding. Understand that feeding should be a joy, not a burden. You have exactly the amount of milk your baby needs. And you should not constantly monitor the expressed volumes or weigh the baby after feeding - in this way you will create anxiety around the process. And children feel this in their gut - whims and refusals are guaranteed. Stay close to your child and everything will work out!

A lazy sucker is a problem that nursing mothers often face. What to do if the baby actively sucks the breast for no more than 5 minutes, and then not for longfalls asleep, and half an hour later wakes up again with a hungry cry? What is the reason for this behavior of the baby and does this always mean that a nursing mother has problems?

The “often, but little” regimen may be a variant of the normal and natural regimen for the child, provided that the baby is healthy and gaining weight well. In the first months after the birth of the baby, during the formation and establishment of breastfeeding, the baby may need up to 15-20 feedings per day. In addition, it should be noted that infants need the breast not only to satisfy the feeling of hunger, but also to satisfy other needs (colic, discomfort for any reason, the desire to communicate with the mother, etc.). As for the amount of milk, in most cases, falling asleep quickly at the breast does not at all prevent the baby from continuing to receive milk. Having quickly sucked the “front” milk, the baby gets to the “back”, fatty milk, which flows out of the breast much more slowly, drop by drop and contains substances that have a hypnotic effect on the baby. If at the same time the child does not release the breast, he may become saturated while half asleep.

At the same time, falling asleep quickly at the breast can be due to other reasons:

- the child is weakened due to prematurity, complicated pregnancy and childbirth;

- the baby does not latch onto the breast correctly during feeding; if sucking is ineffective, the baby needs to spend much more effort to get milk, as a result he quickly gets tired and falls asleep. Improper latch can also lead to the baby swallowing a lot of air during sucking, which fills the stomach, and a feeling of satiety quickly sets in. A large amount of swallowed air can cause tummy pain, which causes the child to wake up and cry.

What can you do?

1. Make sure that the child is healthy and does not need any therapeutic measures (therapeutic massage, drug therapy). To do this, you need to consult with a pediatrician and pediatric neurologist and tell them about your reasons for concern.
2. Make sure the baby is getting enough milk. Objective indicators of milk sufficiency are the “wet diaper test” (a sufficient amount of nutrition is indicated by 12 or more urinations per day, the urine is light, transparent and odorless) and a weekly weight gain of at least 125 g (at least 500 g per month in the first half of life).
3. Make sure that the baby is attached to the breast correctly (the baby’s mouth is open wide, most of the areola is captured, the nose is pressed into the mother’s breast, no extraneous sounds are heard except for swallowing, the mother does not experience pain).
4. During feeding, you should not take your baby off the breast before the baby lets go.
5. In order to increase the supply of milk to a falling asleep baby, you can use the breast compression method. This method helps restore and maintain the flow of milk from the breast if your baby is still suckling but is no longer swallowing milk (no swallowing sounds are heard) and helps the breasts empty more completely. Supporting the breast in such a way that the thumb is located on one side of the mammary gland, and the rest on the other side, away from the nipple, you need to squeeze the breast so that the shape of the breast does not change next to the baby’s mouth (there should be no pain). With the correct compression technique, you can hear the baby begin to swallow milk again. After the baby has stopped swallowing again, the compression can be loosened and then repeated again, and so on several times during one feeding.
6. Carrying the baby in a sling allows the baby to spend as much time at the breast as he or she needs, while the mother can do household chores.
7. Organize co-sleeping with the baby, the closeness of mother and baby provides both emotional comfort and more complete rest, and night feedings have a beneficial effect on milk production.

As the child grows older and his digestive and nervous system matures, the need for breastfeeding will gradually decrease, and the child’s routine will become more orderly.

When communicating with each other, mothers love to boast about the achievements of their beloved children: “mine is already standing in the crib,” “mine is already crawling well,” but your baby is not in a hurry to follow his peers and has just begun to sit. Should I worry and do something, is the mother worried, or is the baby simply developing according to his own schedule.
My second son, at eight and a half months old, doesn’t even think about crawling, but at this age my first son was already crawling after me all over the apartment, like a little iguana. And my youngest son acquired all his other skills a little later than his peers.
The psychomotor development of a child depends on many factors: on the course of pregnancy and childbirth, the presence or absence of diseases in the baby, the baby’s temperament, and finally, on how the mother and other family members communicate and engage with him. For babies in their first year of life, an approximate calendar has been compiled for the development of their skills and abilities, which the toddler should master in every month of his life. Both mother and doctors, based on this calendar, can assess whether there is a delay in psychomotor development or not. But still, each acquired skill has a certain corridor of several months, and only after crossing the critical border of this corridor one should be wary and one can talk about delayed development. For example, on average, by the age of seven months a child can sit independently, but one baby can sit confidently already at 5.5 months, while another can sit confidently only at 8 months. And only if after 8 months the child does not sit, we are talking about a delay.
Of course, every baby should be promptly observed by a pediatrician and neurologist, who, if necessary, will prescribe additional examination or treatment for the baby. But if the baby is healthy and is simply in no hurry to learn new things, there is no need to worry and force things. He just needs a little help.
A lazy baby definitely needs massage and gymnastics, but for this he needs a mother who is not lazy. Massage is very useful for babies from the first weeks of life, and every caring mother can do it. Massage strengthens muscles, improves the functioning of the cardiovascular system, improves digestion, promotes better physical and emotional development of the baby and, finally, allows both mother and baby to enjoy communication with each other.
Gymnastics is very effective in strengthening the muscular system. Here are a few exercises that my son likes:
- “rocking chair” to strengthen the abdominal muscles. The baby lies on his back, the mother grabs his hands, placing her thumb in them, and pulls the baby’s torso into a sitting position, in which she holds for a few seconds and carefully lowers him to a lying position. We have been doing this exercise since we were 5 months old and it has helped us learn to sit.
- “lower break” to strengthen the back muscles. The baby lies on his stomach, his head is turned to the side, his arms are along his body, and the mother, clasping her hands around the baby’s shins and lower thighs, lifts her legs and pelvis up, while her chest, shoulders and head do not come off the table.
- “back-up dancer” to strengthen the legs. The mother holds the baby vertically under her arms, and he, leaning on his entire foot, dances, preferably to music.
- rocking on all fours will help the baby learn to crawl. The mother puts the baby on all fours, supporting him, and rocks him back and forth.
- “sit down and stand up” helps strengthen the legs. My son's favorite exercise. The mother grabs the baby's hands, placing her thumb in them, and pulls his torso from a sitting position to a standing position, in which he holds for a few seconds and carefully lowers him to a sitting position.
Any gymnastic exercises should be performed no earlier than 40 minutes after eating, the baby should be in a good mood, and to get more pleasure from the process, turn on cheerful music or hum your favorite song.
A lazy kid needs motivation. Every child is characterized by curiosity and interest in everything new. Create safe conditions for your baby to explore the world and in order to get the desired object, he himself will begin to master new movements. In my opinion, the best place for research efforts is the floor. The main thing is that it is safe and clean. I have been putting my sloth on the floor since he was 4 months old. At first it was an educational rug, then I sat him down and covered him on three sides with pillows, and laid out all sorts of interesting things in front of him, and now he has the entire floor at his disposal. And although he does not crawl, his movements become more confident and varied every day. And I don’t know how he manages to do it, but he manages to quietly get any thing that interests him, no matter where it lies.
There is no need to rush a lazy baby. If you force your baby to do something that he cannot do, he may develop fear and a negative attitude towards new activities, and he will not soon want to resume trying. But at the same time, you need to carefully monitor the baby and when he begins to master some new movement, you need to help him a little with what he can’t do. For example, pull up a stuck arm or leg, or show how to position the arms and legs correctly in order to move from one position to another, and most importantly, show that in the new position the baby can reach what he is striving for. The child needs to be helped in this way until he himself begins to succeed.
My husband’s favorite saying is “A bad horse gets off to the start.” Don’t worry and don’t force things, and when the time comes, your little one will not only catch up with his peers, but maybe even surpass them. In addition, the fact that the baby is lazy has its advantages: firstly, each of his new achievements causes double joy for all family members, and secondly, it is much easier to look after him than an active and active child. Good luck!
Yulia Lopina

P.S. By the age of 9 months, my baby finally crawled, he really wanted to get the ball that had rolled away from him. Now he needs an eye and an eye, and more and more often I catch myself thinking - God, how good it was when he just sat!