How to make a guy with me. How can I make him happy next to me? Ritual for meeting a guy

There are things that cannot be given in, and men dodge and demand their way. How can I get a man to agree with me?

Name: Svetlana

There is a lot of freely available advice on how to manage a man. How to make a man fulfill, or even better, guess a woman’s desires. How to manipulate a man and the like.

Advice like this is given:

Add sexuality to your image - a man will be blown away and he will become easily controlled;

The man is the head, the woman is the neck. Be smarter, more cunning and control a man without him noticing;

Show cunning and flexibility, ask for more - you will get what you need;

and even that

Cry! Men do not tolerate tears and will do everything to prevent a woman from crying;

Well and the like...

It certainly works. Somewhere, with someone, for sure...))

Surely, you can persuade a man to fulfill your desire by wearing lace stockings and a transparent blouse...

You can probably get a ring by first scaring the man with a request for a new car...

Of course, you will get what you want - if you cry long and touchingly...

Once, twice - it will work.

But what to do - if a man and a woman have been living together for several years (months), the relationship is no longer fueled by a feeling of novelty, but on the contrary, there are moments of some periodic fatigue from each other... And the woman’s tears do not cause pity, but irritation. There is a desire not to regret, but to leave home anywhere. And lace stockings and new lingerie - do not surprise.

And the issue on which you want to reach agreement is very important, and it needs to be resolved! But the man doesn’t agree, doesn’t want, doesn’t hear, doesn’t understand... he doesn’t care about your important questions.

What to do?

Good question))

I would like to draw your attention to an important point in relationships. This important point removes many controversial issues with its presence. And creates a lot of problems if absent from your relationship.

This may be called slightly differently in different pairs, but the essence is the same.

Love (mutual). Treat each other with warmth and care. The desire to make your loved one happy (must be present in both partners).

IN real relationship- This is a required ingredient.

Not passion, not dependence (physical/psychological), not desire to possess.

Namely, the desire to give, give, protect, surround with care, make your loved one happy! THIS is what I call real relationship.

A relationship in which there is indifference to a partner, to his problems, troubles, concerns is not a relationship... but rather... a partnership on dubious terms.

There is no doubt about the fact - in order for a man to fulfill some desire of a woman, he must WANT to do it.

In order for a man to agree with something important to you, he must WANT to understand this importance for a woman, and feel a desire to help her by taking care of her.

Lyrics, you say? Is this impossible after 5-10 years of marriage?? Unreal?

If so, these are just your personal boundaries and limitations.

All these frames and restrictions can be broken, expanded and removed from your life if desired.

What to do:

If indifference towards each other has settled in your relationship, you increasingly feel irritated with your “other half”, a growing feeling of dissatisfaction with the relationship and your partner - there are two options: change your partner or change your relationship.

Naturally, I do not call for destroying families, breaking off relationships, or looking for new, fresh feelings and sensations. No.

But you must understand that your relationship has come to this current state - through your efforts (or lack thereof). You made your relationship yourself. Putting your head and hands to it, or leaving it to chance - but on your own. These are your personal results. The two of you.

But now, when you understand that the results do not really suit you, that you would like better and more, start restructuring your relationship. Reconstruction. Some will need a “major overhaul” of their relationship, while others will need a “cosmetic” one.

So, in order for a man to agree with you, take care of you, fulfill your desires, you need to create conditions so that the man does this with pleasure. All you have to do is intelligently hint at something that is very important to you - and your man will be very happy to show concern for you, agreeing with your opinion, fulfilling your desire. At the same time, he will feel indispensable in your life, his importance for you, he will be proud of himself and happy for his woman, who is so lucky in life with a man.

Believe me, these sensations are extremely important for a man!

What to do specifically?

Relationships are very different. Some relationships just need to be refreshed. Other relationships must be categorically directed in a different, right direction.

If everything is very neglected and it is completely unclear what to do, I strongly recommend individual work. With the help of a specialist, you will see the situation with different eyes, from a different angle. You will see ways out of it and you will be able to change a lot.

If you need to refresh your relationship with a man (husband), make it real, or get as close to this as possible, Svetlana Ermakova’s technique “Don’t stop him from falling in love with you” is also an excellent option. A technique that will revive even your husband! "

The book contains a lot of excellent, clear and simple advice that has already changed the lives of many women. I myself read Svetlana with pleasure, a lot of it is close to me and I know that it works.

Girls! My dears! What's good about your problem? Yes, of course, because it can be solved!

Be happy! :))

See you

With love

How to make roller shutters with your own hands

Hello, my dear blog readers! As I promised, now I’ll tell you how very simple, easy and fast make roller shutters for windows with your own hands. At first it may seem to you that this is not very realistic, it is not clear how to attach them to the window, and perhaps it is better to entrust the entire installation process to professionals. But we (you and I) have golden hands, which means that sewing our own roller blinds will be a piece of cake for us! And when you finish reading this article, you will definitely want to do something similar for yourself! After all, this is real creativity!

To begin, measure the width and height of your window on which you will sew roller shutters. My window is approximately 130 cm by 80 cm. I specifically write my window size, since I will give an example of the distance between the grommets.

I wanted to make not plain roller shutters, but to combine three colors in them: milky, beige and blue. These colors match my room very well. You choose your own colors for your window.

And I took linen fabric containing synthetics. In its structure, it is a bit like canvas or burlap. You are free to choose any fabric you like, the main thing is that it is not very see-through. And if you want to achieve the effect of complete darkness, you may have to lay the fabric in two layers. All these details need to be thought through in advance.

I cut out pieces of fabric of the desired length and width + 2 cm allowances on each side. And at the bottom you need to take more allowances, depending on the width of the strip that you decide to insert into the bottom of the roller shutter. Take the bottom allowances based on the free flow of the plank, without tension.

We fold the two fabrics face to face, pin them together and sew them together on a machine. But keep one thing in mind: the sewing machine can shrink the top part a little (this is the case on my machine), so in order for both parts to be sewn perfectly evenly, without an “accordion,” I have to hold the top part in tension a little while sewing. Then I avoid long, long basting before stitching, and both pieces are sewn perfectly evenly.

When all three colors are sewn into one fabric, cut the allowances to 0.5-0.7 cm and iron them down. It is convenient to iron the seams by placing the product with the bottom facing away from you.

Now we align the sides of the fabric, trim off the excess fabric on the sides:

We fold 1 cm allowances onto the wrong side of the fabric on each side and smooth it.

Now we fold the ironed seam allowance again another 1 cm to the wrong side and machine sew it on three sides. And at the bottom we bend it to the required width (for me it’s 3 cm).

This is how all sides of the canvas should be processed:

Now, in order to thread the cord into the fabric that will regulate our roller shutter, you need to make holes in the fabric. And first you need to mark them. Several holes will be made exactly in the center (from top to bottom) and eyelets will be installed.

So we divide the canvas in half. And we retreat from the top edge 3.5 cm. We put a point.

From this point we set aside 12 cm downwards (you can reduce this value, then the number of holes in the fabric will become larger; I do not recommend increasing it, since the finished roller shutter may end up looking rough due to sparse punching).

It is convenient to set aside the desired value using two rulers, then the center will not shift accidentally. It's comfortable.

How to install the eyelets yourself, without having any special devices, except, of course, the eyelets themselves - read here.

This is such a beautiful picture I got:

Where can I get a plastic strip?

I just bought a plastic corner from a hardware store. It cuts and bends easily.

I will insert the strip into the bottom of the roller shutter on both sides. A grommet should be installed between the planks in the center, dividing the bottom allowance into two halves (see photo above). We bend the bar to make it as flat as possible (see photo 1 below). and wrap it with tape (see photo 2 below). so that sharp corners do not tighten the fabric when we insert the slats into the roller shutter.

We place the strips on both sides of the roller shutter and sew our drawstring on the sides.

Installing roller shutters yourself

To install, we need a cord of such thickness that it fits freely into the grommet hole. And a clamp that will compress the cord at the desired height.

We screw two screws into the upper part of the window, at a distance of 40 - 50 cm from each other. And we very tightly stretch the nylon thread between them (or fishing line, wire, which is available on the farm).

I’d like to make a reservation right away, it might seem crazy to someone to screw a screw into a plastic window, but I’m never afraid to take risks, and besides, I’m not going to remove the roller shutters from the window, except maybe replace them with others from time to time, and these screws are not under which option they will not be visible.

If you don’t like this method, come up with your own and share it with me in the comments))).

We attach the cord to the holes of the eyelets on the roller shutter and firmly tie the upper edge of the cord with two knots in the middle of the stretched thread between the screws. It is on this place that pressure and the entire weight of the roller shutter will be applied all the time. Therefore, it is necessary to create a strong mount.

We attach the top edge of the roller shutter to the window with double-sided tape.

This is what the finished roller shutter looks like when closed:

And it looks so great when assembled:

Sew such beauty for your windows, I hope my experience will be useful to you!

I also found something useful about how to make Roman blinds yourself:

And see you soon on the pages of the blog “Sheisomnoy.rf”

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Question to a psychologist

Hello, Mikhail! let's look at what's going on:

I tried to talk to her calmly, saying that I was leaving our apartment to her, and she should give up her son. He doesn't deserve a mother like her

a child is not a means of exchange - you give your wife an apartment, and she gives you a child!

What is the reason that you accuse her and call her an “unworthy mother”? You lived with her for more than 7 years, all this time you raised a child, what has changed now? Yes, you are getting a divorce, you have reasons for this among yourself. BUT - what doesn't she do as a mother? Is she a threat to her child? leads an antisocial lifestyle? drinks? Is being near her a threat to the child? what is the reason, EXCEPT your subjective perception of the situation.

A child can live with his mother - but the second parent IS NOT DEPRIVED OF THE ROLE OF THE FATHER AND RIGHTS! You can communicate with the child, meet, take part in his upbringing, take him to clubs - you can do all this.

What is the reason???

I don't want this to be traumatic for my son. How can I make him want to live with me?!

What is important in this situation is NOT what one of the parents wants - but what does the child WANT???? You want to break him, convince him that his mother is bad, unworthy of him, BUT - in this struggle children ALWAYS suffer - why do you need this struggle? a child NEEDS for mom and dad to LOVE him, and not try to take him away from each other! Here you need to think ABOUT HIM, ABOUT HIS feelings, and not about your own!

If the mother's behavior poses a threat, go to court. If this is only because YOU see it this way and there is more resentment in you, then you wish the best NOT for the child, but for yourself! You will have to build a new relationship with your wife and with your child - do not complicate this path for the child. He needs to KNOW that both mom and dad love him, and are not trying to turn him against each other!

Shenderova Elena Sergeevna, psychologist Moscow

Hello, Mikhail.

You must resolve this issue with your wife. A child cannot make such decisions. If you pursue such a policy openly - " He doesn't deserve a mother like her!" you won't achieve anything. She is his mother and the most beloved person in the world. By humiliating her you will only ruin the child’s psyche.

Sincerely.

Smirnova Alexandra Vladimirovna, psychologist/psychotherapist in Moscow

We've been dating a guy for 4 years. At the beginning of our relationship, he deceived me, hiding his common-law wife and two children. Having learned about this, I immediately decided to break up, but he did not let me go. We met, talked with him about a future together, but when two weeks ago I asked him specifically, he said that he had not promised anything, that he already had children and suggested breaking up. Currently lives with his common-law wife, continuing to raise her for the sake of the children who were born. In the end, we agreed to wait another year. I don’t know how to influence the situation in such a way that it is finally resolved, and the guy finally decides who he should be with. If you can, please tell me what should I do? Thank you.

Answer

Greetings, Maria!

I am always very upset by questions like yours. As a man, I cannot find any justification for the blatant deception and duplicity of your lover. It is absolutely obvious to me that you love this person if, after his lies and double life, you are still ready to forgive him everything and wait. Girls like you deserve happiness first of all! But, first of all, you should figure out what your happiness consists of! Are you ready to overcome everything to be close to your loved one? Or is your resentment towards him strong enough to finally break with him and start a new life?

If you decide that your personal pride is more important than feelings, I would recommend that you do it for yourself. This is an absolutely safe and painless ritual. You won’t even notice its influence until you realize that the person you loved with all your heart just yesterday has become indifferent to you. It is then that you will be able to let him go and not remember these years anymore. If you want to let go of the past and step into a bright future with your head held high, the lapel is exactly what you need! If your love is really as strong as it seems to me, I can offer you several more options.

As I understand it, the main problem, in your opinion, is children, to whom a man is much more attached than to his common-law wife. You may feel that children are a serious obstacle to your personal happiness. I assure you, a man’s love for a woman and his affection for children are feelings of a completely different order. Under no circumstances should a man be forced to choose between you and his children. In this case, the choice will never be made in your favor. However, you have every chance of getting what you want! To do this, you need to be patient and resort to magical help.

So what are your options? There are only two of them! It all depends on whether your lover has real feelings for you or not. In order to determine this, I just need to look at your photo together. A person can fool a lie detector, but he will never be able to fool the energy scanner of a professional magician. If a man loves you, it will be enough to slightly push him to the right decision. For these purposes, a lapel ritual from a common-law wife is perfect and, as a result, he will, for example, dream about you. After the magic begins to work, the man will decide to break up and return to you in the shortest possible time. But don’t think that at the same time he will abandon the children. For a man, children are sacred!

If a man doesn’t have love for you, the only thing I can offer you is this! Only this ritual will give you the guaranteed result you want to achieve!